LadyNTrainer
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This website should be called "mean girls". I am sure I am not alone in thinking this, but im sure most people dont feel like standing up to an army. I will not waste my breath by complaining to the head bully, Video Admin Alpha, or whatever you clones are calling him/her. [...] I think the administrator is displaying an attitude that is causing a trickle effect on all of you. so it is no wonder the atmosphere turned so violent so quickly. it seems it is encouraged.
I certainly agree that the OP has significant deficiencies that have already been clearly addressed. Violating the terms of service that you agreed to when you signed up and then expressing outrage in a vitriolic but only semi literate fashion when called on it is very likely to cause this response. Effectively, you covered yourself in steak sauce and then walked into a lion's den to kick it in the nose. Complaining because you were severely bitten as a consequence of your actions is unlikely to earn a huge amount of personal sympathy.
But she's right about one thing. The social dynamics being depicted here can be quite accurately described as "mean girls". It is an in-group affirmation of social norms via the rejection, shaming and mocking of behavior that is not group-appropriate. Because a site representative has participated in the humorous in-group banter, and because the shaming and mocking posts are not themselves being moderated, this dynamic can be clearly perceived.
On the one hand, such responses to socially inappropriate behavior are a deterrent, and some degree of moderator response is logistically necessary. On the other hand, the culture of "mean girls" and in-group dynamics (or the perception thereof) and shaming or mocking has its own effect on the atmosphere. This may or may not be desirable, depending on what you need to achieve. The behavioral deterrent may be desirable enough that the other consequences of group perception of this dynamic are worthwhile.
Don't misinterpret what I'm saying as a criticism of anyone other than the OP. I am not in the least bit sympathetic to people who kick lions and complain when they get mauled. Social Darwinism worked brilliantly on Usenet, and there's no reason it shouldn't work on Collarme. But folks should be aware that this is what is happening.
< Message edited by LadyNTrainer -- 5/25/2010 6:17:23 PM >
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