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ORIGINAL: domiguy

It sucks being a domme. You guys really do deserve exactly what you get.

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It sucks being a domme. You guys really do deserve exactly what you get.

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ORIGINAL: MistressRoux

Thanks for the suggestion @LadyHibiscus. Jeans are a better idea. Will get on that.

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ORIGINAL: AAkasha

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ORIGINAL: MistressRoux

Perhaps I should paraphrase this a bit and put it in the sub section.

Well, athletes don't necessarily embody these traits. Yes, it's a bonus if someone has a more domineering (?) presence and physical strength than I. There's something about looking up and yanking them down (by the shirt or tie) for a kiss, a ride or whatever else... As a tall, not petite girl, I sadly don't come across these types often though personality see aforementioned traits) is far more important.

The gym rat/bodybuilder look is disgusting though and BBM (?) don't do it for me either.

I used to think that "powerful" was a good word to describe the kind of "alpha" type I thought I wanted, but then I came across a lot of men that were trying way too hard to be domineering, a bully, or arrogant - and they played it up as much as possible. Or they tried to be a "challenge," and when it became annoying because it was so melodramatic, I lost interest and then they came simpering back begging to be dominating, stating that the whole "I'm a cocky asshole," thing was a shtick and really they were a 'sissy' - and it was very uncomfortable.

What I have found is that I am attracted to *capability*.  This can come in a lot of different forms, and it does not translate into being the total alpha male or the big macho type. It means a man has quiet confidence.  Beyond that, it can be capability in any area.  I find that my level of lust gets ratcheted up the more capable a man is - in any field.   It can be playing a musical instrument (if he's a musician on stage and getting paid for it, even moreso, because then he's truly capable), a professional athlete, (again, because he's recognized as the elite of his realm), etc. Even to a lesser degree it can pique my interests -- someone who is a good golfer, can fix a car with his bare hands, whatever.

Akasha

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ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika

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ORIGINAL: AAkasha

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ORIGINAL: MistressRoux

Perhaps I should paraphrase this a bit and put it in the sub section.

Well, athletes don't necessarily embody these traits. Yes, it's a bonus if someone has a more domineering (?) presence and physical strength than I. There's something about looking up and yanking them down (by the shirt or tie) for a kiss, a ride or whatever else... As a tall, not petite girl, I sadly don't come across these types often though personality see aforementioned traits) is far more important.

The gym rat/bodybuilder look is disgusting though and BBM (?) don't do it for me either.

I used to think that "powerful" was a good word to describe the kind of "alpha" type I thought I wanted, but then I came across a lot of men that were trying way too hard to be domineering, a bully, or arrogant - and they played it up as much as possible. Or they tried to be a "challenge," and when it became annoying because it was so melodramatic, I lost interest and then they came simpering back begging to be dominating, stating that the whole "I'm a cocky asshole," thing was a shtick and really they were a 'sissy' - and it was very uncomfortable.

What I have found is that I am attracted to *capability*.  This can come in a lot of different forms, and it does not translate into being the total alpha male or the big macho type. It means a man has quiet confidence.  Beyond that, it can be capability in any area.  I find that my level of lust gets ratcheted up the more capable a man is - in any field.   It can be playing a musical instrument (if he's a musician on stage and getting paid for it, even moreso, because then he's truly capable), a professional athlete, (again, because he's recognized as the elite of his realm), etc. Even to a lesser degree it can pique my interests -- someone who is a good golfer, can fix a car with his bare hands, whatever.

Akasha

Oh yes, and oh my gosh do I agree with this! I'm done with the daredevil macho arrogant boys. They are fun to take down, but then you have to deal with their drama after.

Give me a guy with intrinsic strength of character, any day.

- LA

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

...got a case of the snorting giggles which soooooo did not help the poor old woman on the other end decide what sort of envelopes she really needs.

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ORIGINAL: jbcurious

Dommes.... You're describing my perfect Dom. I often use that phrase "quiet confidence" and capable...while I want to be controlled by a man like this...you want to control him.

I find this quite interesting...

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ORIGINAL: Jeffff

LP.. have you ever in your life used the word, "daft"

Would you have to turn your Dom card in if you did?

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ORIGINAL: Rochsub2009

i know that this is a digression from the main topic of the thread, but you guys started it.  So i'll add my 2 cents. 

As a male sub, i must say that i completely missed the "ass worship" message in your main photo.  To me, the message was more like "come take me forcibly and f**k me up my ass".  Or perhaps it says "i'm looking for a daddy Dom".

OP, the pic really doesn't communicate the dominance that you are trying to portray.  There is an old saying that "a picture is worth a thousand words".  Unfortunately, in this case the words are not the words that you want it to say. 

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ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika

For the OP's information, this might be one of the most relevant responses, as Rochsub might be one of the submissive men that most fit the description of the kind of man she is looking for (professional business man, super alpha type).

- LA

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ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika

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ORIGINAL: jbcurious

Dommes.... You're describing my perfect Dom. I often use that phrase "quiet confidence" and capable...while I want to be controlled by a man like this...you want to control him.

I find this quite interesting...

A good man is a good man, regardless of whether he likes to give it or take it ;-)

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ORIGINAL: PeonForHer

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ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika

For the OP's information, this might be one of the most relevant responses, as Rochsub might be one of the submissive men that most fit the description of the kind of man she is looking for (professional business man, super alpha type).

- LA

Hell, are there sub-categories of alpha-sub? What would someone like Bill Gates be if he were a sub? A super-duper-wooper-Alpha sub? What about beta subs - can you get top class beta subs, mid-class ones, and bottom-betas? Or are bottom-beta-class subs more properly called Charlies? (I must be one of those, I've been told I'm a proper charlie before.)

Also, does anyone know what an 'Alfa' is? I've seen a couple of people spell it that way on here. Googling it just brings up the name of the car, though. Is it the same as an 'Alpha'?

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ORIGINAL: Andalusite

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ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika

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ORIGINAL: jbcurious

Dommes.... You're describing my perfect Dom. I often use that phrase "quiet confidence" and capable...while I want to be controlled by a man like this...you want to control him.

I find this quite interesting...

A good man is a good man, regardless of whether he likes to give it or take it ;-)

Unfortunately, my Master and I split up recently. Once I'm ready to start dating again, most of my standards and the things I will look for will be the same regardless of a man's BDSM or D/s orientation. Drive, physical strength, and confidence are wonderful traits in any man.