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RE: Powerful subs - 5/24/2010 6:54:21 PM

PeonForHer

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Yours and Anda's definitions are very different, LP . . . .

I get yours - it's very much a BDSM, and polyamorous-based definition, if I read you rightly. As for Anda's, though - that seems the more usual definition.

What I've never really understood is the disparity. Confidence, physical strength, drive . . . Those are desirable things for me, in a woman - but the absence of them isn't a deal-breaker.

But that's partly because the absence of them enables me to let out the old 'nurturing' sort of stuff. However . . . that's a subject for that other thread

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RE: Powerful subs - 5/24/2010 7:04:22 PM

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Huh? I agreed with you that there are some people who have "beta" personality types who are also submissive, but in practice, the term is mostly used for poly hierarchial relationships as LP described in her post. Regardless of what they're called, there are a lot of men who do have submissive personalities, who are also submissive.

In general, I think that there is more pressure on male dominants than on Dommes that they must have a dominant personality, not show vulnerability, and so forth. I'd say that in general, my personality is neither dominant nor submissive in general. I have a blend of both traits, and it depends on the circumstances and the people I'm interacting with. I get mildly annoyed at the people who insist that all submissives need to be deferential to everyone and that all dominants must be in charge outside of their relationships.

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RE: Powerful subs - 5/24/2010 7:11:10 PM

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Hmmm. Lots of thoughts on that, Anda.

However, please don't take this personally - but I'm not going to post on this thread again.

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RE: Powerful subs - 5/24/2010 9:44:56 PM

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Off topic:

About the picture, I've decided to take one in jeans with a sub. I took a shot solo this morning and still thought that it could be misinterpreted as submissive since ass worship position bears a close resemblance to the spank-me position.... even in clothes and actually especially in a black thong (thought for a second that this would be better).

While doing the ass worship shot, will also do some human pony ones.

Updating simply. I'd appreciate a message if you have something to add so it doesn't get off topic again.

Yeah, @Hibbie, You'd still have hubby and there are munches, though most of the males identify as doms (after, I thought of having a female sub, but I'm not particularly turned on by this).
When I first started craving this, I used craigslist; someone sent me a picture of a coworker... while said coworker and I were were on a company mountain hiking trip in the middle of nowhere sans computers.
I've met a few couples but no femdom ones. Also met a couple of dom lifestyle men who'd likely switch, many from the military. At a chance meeting elsewhere, on called a close friend a f--got. I had the urge to kick him until he bled profusely and finishing off with a sledge hammer to his head in the non-kink way.
Just do a search for heterosexual male subs 25-45 seeking dominant women. With profile pictures and active within the last 2 months. Then limit to those within an hour of wherever you'd live. I've used another site and I'm convinced that 75% of the profiles were fake (take a wild guess which site that is!) to lure people into paying.

Back to the regularly scheduled programming.

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RE: Powerful subs - 5/24/2010 11:30:48 PM

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Mistress Roux,

Read through the first two pages of this thread ... and frankly ... i gave up.

Lance gave You the best advice in the world ... Listen to Lady Pact and Lady Angelika.

For either of those two esteemed Ladies ... i would jump on a plane tomorrow ... and at least one (if not both) know it.

But You are not listening ... and trust me ... i am EXACTLY the type of man You SAY You want ... and I would not give You a second look ... so ....

Improvise, Adapt and Overcome!

But most of all ... Listen

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RE: Powerful subs - 5/26/2010 5:08:24 AM

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Mistress Roux,

Read through the first two pages of this thread ... and frankly ... i gave up.

Lance gave You the best advice in the world ... Listen to Lady Pact and Lady Angelika.

For either of those two esteemed Ladies ... i would jump on a plane tomorrow ... and at least one (if not both) know it.

But You are not listening ... and trust me ... i am EXACTLY the type of man You SAY You want ... and I would not give You a second look ... so ....

Improvise, Adapt and Overcome!

But most of all ... Listen

I agree 100%

Also, your profile is pretty sparse. You dont really say what your looking for, or who you are as a person. What do you do for fun outside of the lifestyle?

Between that and your posts here, I highly doubt you could handle someone like me. Not only am I physically powerful, I can be downright stubborn (just ask any of the ladies on this forum).

Like seekingOwnertoo said, listen and learn here. There are some very good and knowledgeable dommes on this board.

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RE: Powerful subs - 5/26/2010 8:08:55 AM

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I made a general inquiry. I wanted to know if other Dommes had similar preferences. I then followed it up with a question on finding them. I will likely not pursue such a relationship for a while for various reasons, some of which we've touched on within this and other forums.

My profile has information on non-kink interests. Actually, most of the things listed are non-kink. I've previously posted that I was looking for local toys though that's changed. I'm in a casual vanilla relationship with someone who doesn't seem to be into this and that's fine for me now because apart from weeknights when I should be asleep (i.e. now) and he's not around, I'm pretty short on time. It's more satisfying than the D/s playthings I've had here though there's a void.

you seemed to have missed the point that physical power is only a little nice and stubbornness is not at all appealing. I am not looking for a mule.

Also, I'm not quite sure why you and leather dom are under the impression that I'm not listening to the advice that's been given to Me by the Dommes here. I listened to them. I gave it thought. I've put it on my to-do list. I could just randomly pick some random picture from my computer, but that wouldn't be heeding Their advice, would it? Maybe you two have the time to take photos midweek involving others, but I left at 9 am and got back at 10:30 p.m.

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