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weaselwelder -> RE: The one thing a new dom or Master needs (5/25/2010 1:34:28 AM)
Find someone you can trust. Then trust them. Trust them to listen. Trust them when they speak. Trust them to tell you when you fucked up. Trust them to say stop. Trust them to say more. Trust them to not let you hurt them. Trust them not to hurt you. Trust someone utterly, and be worthy of that same trust in return. And yes, that would be the same advice I'd give a new submissive, a new master, someone looking for vanilla dating, or someone looking to learn the guitar.

peppermint -> RE: The one thing a new dom or Master needs (5/25/2010 3:24:06 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Jeffff They should get some leather pants! I think the lack of leather pants has really hindered me Jeff...anteaters are born with leather pants. My advice, don't take everything too seriously. Have fun. Laugh.

rideemwet -> RE: The one thing a new dom or Master needs (5/25/2010 10:18:59 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: dananddawn If you had a brief encounter with a person who was new to the lifestyle but on the path of being a Master, what one piece of advice would you be sure you mentioned? I would tell him that his subs advice (verbal and non-verbal) trumps any advise I could give him.

DomImus -> RE: The one thing a new dom or Master needs (5/25/2010 3:49:24 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: dananddawn If you had a brief encounter with a person who was new to the lifestyle but on the path of being a Master, what one piece of advice would you be sure you mentioned? Take most of the advice you get with a grain of salt.

subangi -> RE: The one thing a new dom or Master needs (5/25/2010 3:56:43 PM)
Honesty and communication are the key and those leather pants

forsaken555 -> RE: The one thing a new dom or Master needs (5/25/2010 6:52:05 PM)
I'd say watch the power tripping. Many new doms are entice by the idea that you get full control over another human being and get to order them around. They also got the crazy idea that just because a woman calls herself a sub, she will naturally obey anybody who calls himself a dom. Just don't inhuman yourself, and keep your feet to the ground, you're still dealing with a living human being with feelings, and that still needs delicate, gentle care and respect.

Malkinius -> RE: The one thing a new dom or Master needs (5/25/2010 11:17:16 PM)
Greetings..... quote: ORIGINAL: dananddawn If you had a brief encounter with a person who was new to the lifestyle but on the path of being a Master, what one piece of advice would you be sure you mentioned? How about that if his goal was to be a Master he had already failed at reaching his goal of being a Master? . . . . He should be training himself in the skills to master himself and someone else. Then think about finding someone to master. After correcting all the mistakes he makes along the way he may find that he is already somewhere past his original goal. The goal should not be a title or even a sub or a slave even tho that is and has been the goal for most so-called Masters. If you stop once you think you can call yourself something like this, you fail. Titles should be bestowed as acknowledgement of ability and success, not the end goal in and of itself. Be well.... Malkinius Oh yeah...and make sure Jeffff has at least some pants on, leather or not. <grins>

allthatjaz -> RE: The one thing a new dom or Master needs (5/26/2010 1:35:11 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: zardozlash hello , I would add just a thought to the wonderful advises already given , for me a master needs 4 qualities: care attentiveness empathy and above all consistency. I guess that with all that you are o the path of becoming a fantastic master Good luck and fair winds In my opinion this is the best advice so far consistancy is the one important element that is missing from many dominants. Without consistency you have little strength. Anyone can learn to flog, add nipple clamps, tie someone up and anyone can order about but very few people have the ability to remain consistant. Men, especially, are brought up to please women. I don't mean in a submissive way but in a 'keep them happy and keep them sweet' Many men don't have the ability to say 'NO' but use words like 'perhaps' or 'maybe'. Perhaps and maybe give hope to those who don't want to be dominated because they are words that can be used for manipulation. Submissives don't want to manipulate and don't want to be given the opportunity to manipulate. Use words like 'Yes you can' or 'no you can't' and 'DONT' waver or be riddled with guilt if you refuse something. Up until meeting Steve I was the most manipulative woman with my partners. I could always, always get them to change their minds. I could always make them feel guilty if I wasn't getting my own way. Once I realized I couldn't manipulate Steve because if he said 'NO' it would remain consistent I stopped trying, felt safer and respected him more than I have ever respected any man. Honesty, communication, empathy and attentiveness are all good qualities but they are also good qualities in a vanilla relationship too. All those things without consistency will not make you a leader.

SailingBum -> RE: The one thing a new dom or Master needs (5/26/2010 10:16:34 AM)
Hmmmm that's a tuffy ... The best advice ive ever received is..... BadOne

MarcEsadrian -> RE: The one thing a new dom or Master needs (5/26/2010 8:48:21 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: dananddawn If you had a brief encounter with a person who was new to the lifestyle but on the path of being a Master, what one piece of advice would you be sure you mentioned? Have your life in order and make wise decisions. All success stems from this.

domincalifornia -> RE: The one thing a new dom or Master needs (5/29/2010 9:22:41 AM)
Always maintain your self-respect and respect everyone you encounter.

SirDarkside357 -> RE: The one thing a new dom or Master needs (6/1/2010 5:32:39 PM)
I would tell them what I would tell anyone...... be honest and be true to yourself.

toyslave -> RE: The one thing a new dom or Master needs (6/2/2010 4:06:52 AM)
I would tell them to never stop learning, read real how to type books, and literature, ask questions, of them self (introspection) of their partner, and the community at large (like here) because bluffing your way through a scene is a dangerous thing to do.

Glasgow -> RE: The one thing a new dom or Master needs (6/7/2010 9:28:35 PM)
quote: To always remember that the Fantasy is just a Fantasy and if that Fantasy is strong enough then the reality might not compare. quote: ORIGINAL: AQuietSimpleMan To always remember that the Fantasy is just a Fantasy and if that Fantasy is strong enough then the reality might not compare. The guys that get caught on To Catch a Predator should be told this. But excellent advice, I think this one might be going on a Post-It Note on my desk.

reynardfox -> RE: The one thing a new dom or Master needs (6/8/2010 5:32:28 PM)
Be a gentleman first and a Master second. Treat everyone you encounter with respect until they ask you not to. Never rush or hassle anybody, show your best side. It's not just about sex and it's never just about you. The moment you are unleashed be ruthless, be brutal, be the monster you've been restraining for so long, then revert to the gentleman. Remember to Master yourself first, foremost and always.

osf -> RE: The one thing a new dom or Master needs (6/8/2010 6:07:05 PM)
learn to really listen to your property

Syrox -> RE: The one thing a new dom or Master needs (6/10/2010 4:40:30 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Jeffff They should get some leather pants! I think the lack of leather pants has really hindered me Mine arrived from Ebay yesterday and I can honestly say that upon putting them on my Domly-ness gas increased by 10 fold. I would highly recommend ANY Dom get a pair... it is the one Twue way!

CaringandReal -> RE: The one thing a new dom or Master needs (6/12/2010 9:02:41 PM)
The smart ones are better at obedience.

Ravenhall -> RE: The one thing a new dom or Master needs (6/15/2010 5:52:16 PM)
Master yourself first before you try to master others, for this is where your true authority resides. Impose limits upon yourself and fulfill them. If you cannot live up to your own expectations, how could anyone else? If you cannot overcome your own limits, how could you dream of helping anyone overcome their own?

Syrox -> RE: The one thing a new dom or Master needs (6/15/2010 6:09:48 PM)
Plain old common sense is your biggest ally.

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