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RE: Are you mentally ill ? - 5/26/2010 4:38:36 PM   
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I think barely is loony tunes. 100% bonkers.

Anyone who wrote more than a couple of paragraphs on this topic is riding the short bus straight to electro shock therapy.

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RE: Are you mentally ill ? - 5/26/2010 4:39:37 PM   
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RE: Are you mentally ill ? - 5/26/2010 4:44:51 PM   
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hell, i know im nuckin futs.  quit fighting it and embrace the insanity folks.  it makes life so much more enjoyable!

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RE: Are you mentally ill ? - 5/26/2010 5:43:19 PM   
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I am beginning to notice quite a disturbing trend with fora, a situation where if a person has an unusual viewpoint, they can be accused of being mentaly ill, just what is this all about ? As far as I am aware the only people who can diagnose mental illness are the psychiatry profession, not any other, despite what they think they know or have read, so what is it with people, is this accusation of mental illness a means of destabilising an other in a conversation or what ?



Just as ML said that to see something really off, it is possible to *opine* a problem. Same, too, with those of us who are trained in psych issues. We are more in tuned with subtle expressions and such. I have no problem with seeing psych issues when they are obvious to me. I would not actually *diagnose* them, but I would have it in the back of my mind and be careful.

I think you will find that it is not professionals who are *diagnosing* mental illness. It would not be ethical or wise.

While you may be offended by this, it is possible in certain situations to diagnose people with a simple sentence. I've done it. Some things are just like big neon flashing lights. However, it is not just words... it is body language,tone of voice, cituational.

On a forum, I have noticed some patterns of certain people. It is not difficult to see when someone is borderline personality disorder... or something like it. I can get the generalities (and avoid those folks), but I won't make a specific diagnosis.

We all make judgments (and what is diagnosing but making a particular kind of judgment?)

However if someone wants a real diagnosis... that will cost you! If I'm gonna work, it's not gonna be for free.

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RE: Are you mentally ill ? - 5/26/2010 5:58:39 PM   
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I think people are far too eager to pigeon hole those who are different.. it happens in all forms of lifestyle..

BDSM is no exception.and also this forum... it has a lot of long standing members whos opinions over their tenure has become respected to some extent. as such bands of 'friendships' for lack of a better term have been forged.. and it is difficult to break into that kliq. some people come in full on some dont. but differences scare people  even those who know better and these groups tighten up as a result.

Wether that makes someone crazy? who knows?  you see the crazy guy on the street, you know there's something wrong, give him a wide berth and leave it at that... you wouldnt then try to think about what KIND of crazy he was , just that you don't want contact.

Same goe here... you can choose to watch but not engage.  the internet is a funny place and if you try to analyze everyone you'd do nothign but.


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RE: Are you mentally ill ? - 5/26/2010 6:04:38 PM   
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Awhile back you said you were going to apply for all the credit you could, spend and/or cash it out, and then declare bankruptcy.  Did your vision bring the bankruptcy about?
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My credit has gone down from absolutely perfect to absolutely nothing. I have filed for disability. I am finding it difficult to use the lawyer I want for the bankrupcy because of money problems, and I don't want to lose my house.
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RE: Are you mentally ill ? - 5/26/2010 7:02:03 PM   
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Electro-shock therapy?  Cool!  I'm breaking out the wand!  Of course, I have no plans on being the receiver.  

See, I made a little joke.

I bet you could tell.  Why?  Because a number of things that I write about here are things that I'm serious about.  Even though I'm an anonymous person on the other side of the screen, some people here can tell by My posting style how I might be feeling about a certain subject.

I think a lot of posters on the boards are like that.  Domi's actually a pretty good example.  I've never met the man, but from his style, I can tell when he's just pulling someone's leg.  I can tell when some subject has him a little miffed.  On some occasions, I've read his replies to a serious thread and the actual advice has been bang on.  None of his usual mannerisms are present.  There's no jocularity.  Usually no euphemisms.  He gives somebody a serious answer and I really think he means it.

I've seen this work the other way around, too.  There are other posters out there who bring up the fact that they are mentally ill.  Yes, I do think that the subtle changes in them when they write certain things comes into play.  This lends some credence to what they are saying on these boards.  There's a different sort of expression.

So why should these things be any different?  If someone specifically mentions mental health issues, repeatedly as part of their posts, who's to say?  It's either true or it isn't.  There isn't really an in-between.  The only place that leads us is to the phylisophical debate of, if a person believes it, does it really make it so?


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RE: Are you mentally ill ? - 5/26/2010 7:53:54 PM   
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"Did your vision bring the bankruptcy about?"

Close enough, almost according to plan.

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RE: Are you mentally ill ? - 5/26/2010 11:20:39 PM   
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Although the word fora makes my skin crawl I do agree with the OP, to the extent I read it. I didnt read every word becuase I am too tired but I notice some folks on here and have noticed it for all the three years I have been here who think they are super smart and together and they actually make me feel ill with the tone and things they put fwd such as ganging up on someone and calling them mentally ill. Then again I love it when domi calls barely, barely, I just really love it so...



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RE: Are you mentally ill ? - 5/27/2010 12:00:59 AM   
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A quick explanation for my views lies in my Dutch upbringing and social views and although Aussies tend to sort most issues out themselves their reliance and use of psychology, counselling and social workers is (Sadly) growing rapidly.

Depression is now a huge issue here, self labelling and diagnosis has become almost popular or trendy and I believe we are only a decade away from being therapy junkies as peoples self esteem plummets and responsible behaviour disappears.

Welfare mentality is also a growing issue as is mindless self gratification often in the form of material possessions well beyond their pay grade and ability to repay.

Hell, any culture that reveres an armed robber, murderer and thief like Ned Kelly needs to take a good hard look at itself.

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ORIGINAL: tigreetsa

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ORIGINAL: SirPumpy

The mentally ill tag is far too often used on people who are just plain old different and I believe this is because some people are not happy unless everyone and everything is in a neat categorised box.



I'm jumping in here in complete agreement. Straightforward social stigmatizing.. We discriminate as this is a normal social process as a way of differentiating and identifying unique characteristics in someone. However when trying to put people into neat little boxes we tend to oversimplify things into 'us'and 'them' ascribing labels based on popular cultural or social beliefs.

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It is also a control tactic.



Exactly.

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Take for instance the "Disruptive" child in class, this may be a child who has an enquiring mind or has been encouraged by their parents to ask questions.



Exactly, or a child who is a genius or exceptionally gifted in some way.

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Or in the 50's if your wife didnt agree with your household policies and became "Difficult" you'd have a chat to your family doctor who would prescribe a little something to calm her down and make her compliant sometimes leading to shock therapy.



In some places in Eastern Europe, for example in the Ukraine, women can be 'sectioned' by their husbands in a secure psychiatric hospital, even for months or years.

The Church employs exactly the same tactic when it comes to homosexuality when it strives to find a direct relationship between homosexuality and paedophilia.

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Add a constant barrage of accusations regarding your mental health and after a while you'd definitely become a tad twitchy as self doubt and uncertainty set in.



Exactly, because you tend to learn a lot about yourself through your relationships with other people. It can be easy to deceive other people, it's even easier to deceive yourself.

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I believe that if you lead a happy life and are productive then you are entitled to some odd behaviour so long as you harm no one including yourself.



Exactly, and especially when you consider that 90% of people suffer from some form of mental illness in their life, even if it's a mild bout of depression.

This is something which makes me laugh on the boards. It's almost like a troupe of cheerleaders at a football game, but come across any thread in which there's problems in a relationship or even the merest hint of some sort of dysfunction and out comes the chorus of (mainly) American posters ...'get therapy', 'see your kink-friendly therapist', 'you need to put yourself in therapy', 'therapy'... 'therapy'.. 'therapy'..

Maybe this is the effects of colonialism, with Brits exporting religious nutters, criminals, social misfits and loonies across the Atlantic but you know after three centuries of therapy, self-help books and 'miracle cures' you can still make out the original demographics even today (just visit the Politics and Religion section).

No I'm not being entirely serious here but the behaviourism which is so prevalent in American culture and society - not to mention American social and cultural norms, or even for that matter the culture of BDSM isn't something shared with the rest of the world or even among many of the posters here.

From this perspective on this side of the Atlantic sometimes the behaviour on these boards is comical, where we have certain American posters objecting to those they deem to be dysfunctional from other countries and yet when it comes to certain dysfunctional US posters not a dicky bird is mentioned.

Here in the UK we don't rush off for therapy at the slightest sign of dysfunction but somehow try to deal with it ourselves and if we're not sure we contact our GP or family doctor who makes the decision over whether we need specialist help or not. I guess this comes from having universal healthcare.

Even SirPumpy's last statement, which I completely agree with, suggests to me that Australians also might not fully subscribe to behaviourism as a reliable indicator of mental illness and certainly from the Australians I know in real time here in London this also seems to be the case.



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RE: Are you mentally ill ? - 5/27/2010 12:04:35 AM   
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All very true, plenty of people who could really benefit for psychological counseling and/or psychiatric treatment receive infrequent or indifferent treatment due in part of a lack of resources, apathy, etc.

Millions of people living lives of quiet desperation...


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So where do you think they go?  The people who would do much better with a thirty day or ninety day in patient program, but either couldn't get it or wouldn't get it?  Not every person who may not even be legally sane is under a bridge somewhere.  If they are just squeaking past the borderline, showing at least the capacity to pay bills, they really are going to the home they have, even though they need treatment.  Oddly enough, that criteria can be one of the very things that makes them a good candidate not to get a spot.  They seem to be functioning.




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RE: Are you mentally ill ? - 5/27/2010 12:33:41 AM   
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Hell, any culture that reveres an armed robber, murderer and thief like Ned Kelly needs to take a good hard look at itself.

Ned Kelly was Australia's Tarzan, Superman, Houdini: a man free from the oppression by the law.

Yes, it is deplorable that people feel the need to take medication against depression, especially as depression is the natural condition for some people. It sucks, I know, but there are compensating advantages.

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RE: Are you mentally ill ? - 5/27/2010 1:04:05 AM   
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Yes, it is deplorable that people feel the need to take medication against depression, especially as depression is the natural condition for some people. It sucks, I know, but there are compensating advantages.


Hi Rule,
I wanted to tell you that while depression may be the natural condition for some, you are quite right about the compensating advantages of medication. While I am not depressed, when I'm not on my thyroid medication I am hypervigilante, totally unable to control my emotions and behaviors associated with them - particularly crying, rage, and fear, and I'm exhausted. I actually *look* depressed. I was misdiagnosed for years.

When I got my magic pill, I felt like someone had given me my life back. I felt like I actually had the energy to do the things that my mind was always telling me I could do. Hallelujah for medication! I'm one of the lucky ones, though. I had/have a condition that could be fixed by a little pill. Many people don't.

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RE: Are you mentally ill ? - 5/27/2010 1:21:25 AM   
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Do the mentally unstable always realize they are mentally unstable or do they just see themselves as different, in some way?


The hardcore nut bags that I have known seemed to me to have no clue that they were cuckoo. I'm talking about the one's who have hurt or killed themselves or others.

"You're fucking retarded" is a relatively common term used by folks I know to point out that they disagree with you or you did or said something really stupid.

It was a little unsettling coming from Mom but I got over it.

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RE: Are you mentally ill ? - 5/27/2010 1:30:05 AM   
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I meant that in some cases there are compensating advantages to being depressed, not re the medication against depression.

I have written two chapters on thyroid diseases like Addison's and Hashimoto's, but that was about six years ago. I cannot judge your condition without further information and relearning what I meanwhile have forgotten. It is good that your medication is working for you.

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RE: Are you mentally ill ? - 5/27/2010 1:34:15 AM   
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Hello Rule,
Thank you for clarifying.
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RE: Are you mentally ill ? - 5/27/2010 11:19:21 AM   
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Speaking to all who posted to this thread.

I did a little searching of the web for percentages of the mentally ill in a given population. Of the approximately 25 posters to this thread who did not proclaim they were nuts at least one of you is in need of serious treatment for a mental illness.

Now what difference should it make to you which one it is?

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RE: Are you mentally ill ? - 5/27/2010 11:38:46 AM   
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The trouble with recorded percentages of population, is that it is only about those recorded, not those who have yet to be classified.

How many people would you be so keen to suggest has a serious mental disability of those in power, yes, the politicians ans so called leaders.

To me anyone that actually seeks to be a leader has something going on upstairs that isn't healthy, as I believe leaders are born, not made or given their status by wealth or ass licking.


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RE: Are you mentally ill ? - 5/27/2010 11:41:05 AM   
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crazyml, i don't respond to posts that chop up other posts with sentences here and there it kills my eyes and i stopped responding to people a long time ago who do that to my posts as well as I write posts as a whole concept not as separate concepts -- it all goes together so nitpicking sentences to me is ridiculous.

However, i will respond to yours this once. Do it again and i will ignore you.

1. If someone threatens on an anonymous message board under a nickname to cut off their leg and eat it, i usually just shrug -- i may THINK they are nuts for doing so but to tell them or tell them they have a mental illness -- why? The way i see it is if they do it I am sure we will all know cause they will come running in to tell us about it, until then, i don't really take them seriously. I am one of those people who calls people's bluffs. What do you do sit and home biting your nails and trying to make the anonymous nickname talk to you and save him from his own damnation of mutilation because YOU don't agree with it.

Do you really sit around worrying about it? I mean seriously? Wow.


2. The examples are all over this board -- no, i am not going to waste my time itemizing for you what i have seen, my comments were based upon things i have seen on this board and they aren't hard to find. I will say this -- you mention that i have a solid concept in the bandwagoning so that leads me to believe that you know exactly what i am talking about and have seen it and simply are trying to play games.

3. Yes i do, and i also think many people on these boards have a double standard for people they consider friends and those they don't like. And to save you sometime, i have no qualms calling my friends out on shit i don't accept from people who aren't my friends. What people define as their integrity is very important to me, i don't allow much deviation in same.

4 and 5. Okay am i supposed to think something because you want to play games? You are trying to make this ABOUT me, and trying to use some reverse psychology on me? Please don't insult my intelligence or yours. Making this about me shows a desperation that you are too afraid to see the whole of the situation. When you are ready, you will. Until then, you will continue to try and justify things by trying to turn responses back on the individual instead of the topic. Interesting approach but completely inaccurate approach.

You seem to be caught up in some idea that i need to convince you, i really don't. Just so i know -- are you someone i should be concerned about, someone worth my time to convince or are you simply an online anonymous nickname whom i won't remember beyond this thread? You probably won't like what i do deem you.

Finally, I am sitting here incredulous you decided on frustration and more so anger from my posts - i shouldn't be surprised that's the easiest words to use to try and make someone defensive --- grins, do you really expect me to come into the game you are trying to play? Nice try. Again, perhaps you should reaccess your approach and make it about the topic instead of the individual -- unless of course you are waiting for that bandwagon to come ring your bell.

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Specific, ordered responses = nitpicking? So, basically, you just don't want people responding to your posts, or you're not interested in conversation? I mean, treat the forums like your blog, it's no skin off my back. I just find that interesting.

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RE: Are you mentally ill ? - 5/27/2010 12:37:32 PM   
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Lucienne -- Chuckles, yeah that's what i do.

Your post would have merit by simply not knowing if i do or don't, if you had never been a part of a thread wherein i had discussed things but you have been part of those threads. In fact, i think you even responded to some of my posts in the past as i have with yours. Seeing that you have knowledge i don't use these boards as a "blog", your response here only sounds silly and your need to make the silly inaccurate assessment is also interesting. Are you threatened by the idea that

Did you really quote a long post for a 2 sentence bait? I mean seriously?

angel

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