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Personal Information - 4/9/2006 7:44:26 AM   
DaddysLapGirl


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Status: offline 		Asking for personal information from someone right off the bat shows little concern for anothers safety in my humble opinion. Such as personal message/email addresses. i.e. yahoo, aol etc...Telephone numbers, birthdates, children's names and ages, specific home whereabouts. In some cases even requesting a photo can quickly indentify someone who wishes to remain anonomous until they feel comfort in revealing themselves.

I wish you gentlemen would be more cognizant of the why we ladies need to remain safe and discreet until we feel comfortable with you. Many of you ask for personal information within the first correspondence and when we do not give it to you, we're accused of not being 'real' whatever that means. Quite honestly, if you're just seeking a quick hookup that very evening most likely you're not for me anyway.

So I ask those of you who want personal information right away, why is this important for you as opposed to getting to know a lady in the comfort zone of this site first?

Thanks for reading. Joy.
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RE: Personal Information - 4/9/2006 7:58:23 AM   
LuckyAlbatross


Posts: 19224
Joined: 10/25/2005
Status: offline 		While I don't consider myself a little lady who needs to watch out for herself more than any male does- many people online are fairly clueless when it comes to the social dance.  SO they trip over themselves, ask all the wrong questions at all the wrong times and have no sense of how a good seduction is done.

At least they make themselves obvious- just say not interested and move on.

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RE: Personal Information - 4/9/2006 8:38:50 AM   
Alumbrado


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Status: offline 		There is a significant difference between asking for information that would compromise someone's security, and asking for assurance that someone isn't a 16 year old boy or a 60 year old guy posing as one of  "...we ladies".




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RE: Personal Information - 4/9/2006 2:15:17 PM   
MrDiscipline44


Posts: 1776
Joined: 1/5/2005
Status: offline 		Asking for your email shows little concern for for your well fair? What kind of crap is that? Just makeup a dummy email for the purpose of contacts and don't put your personal name and address on it. Funny, I thought asking about personal information shows that one wants to get to know you better as to move on to actual face to face meetings.

Personally, if I was in contact with someone for more then a week and I knew nothing more about them then a screen name, I would consider them worthless endeavor and move on to someone alittle less paranoid. Though I would extend the time frame to two if they're interesting.

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RE: Personal Information - 4/9/2006 2:20:20 PM   
Tikkiee


Posts: 1099
Joined: 4/6/2006
Status: offline 		I have to agree with MrDiscipline here. I see nothing wrong with someone asking me, or me asking them, for certain information right off the bat. Granted, telephone numbers and home addresses are priveledged information and take a bit more time to come to, but email addresses, photos, etc...no big deal there.

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RE: Personal Information - 4/9/2006 2:30:43 PM   
slavejali


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Status: offline 		I dont get the problem with handing over certain information, think about it, if you met someone in the street, struck up a conversation, they might ask for your number and you'd give it without a thought if you were interested, even though you hardly knew a thing about the person. I guess with the internet though it might take more than a quick conversation to assess whether your interested enough to talk on the phone..but I really dont see that being a very long process at all.

The internet certainly brings up dynamics we just wouldnt face in day to day life.

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RE: Personal Information - 4/9/2006 2:35:09 PM   
cariad


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Joined: 9/25/2004
From: Calgary, Alberta
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quote:

I have to agree with MrDiscipline here. I see nothing wrong with someone asking me, or me asking them, for certain information right off the bat. Granted, telephone numbers and home addresses are priveledged information and take a bit more time to come to, but email addresses, photos, etc...no big deal there.



girl disagrees with both of you, only because she gave out her an email addy with no information on it but the Dom who started attacking her verbally via the email account soon found her offline and started stalking her.

if one is computer savy (sp) they can take your ip addy which fyi does show up in emails and do a search on you that way, find you and start stalking you.

personally girl will not give an email addy, her yahoo or msn nicks until she has exchanged a few emails here as for a pic well girl's profile has several on it although there are no full body pics because girl hasn't had someone come in and help her take any, however hopefully that will soon change.

ok girl is done with her rant here as she knows it will be attacked as her other posts have been in other forums, but alas she knows we are all entitled to our own opinion.

by the way girl was trained in Gor and this is why she posts using girl or this girl, she just wanted to get that out there afore someone asked why she posts this way.

Blessed Be


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RE: Personal Information - 4/9/2006 2:41:25 PM   
slavejali


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Status: offline 		Cariad, im not being disrespectful of you, just curious and I have asked other people this question who speak certain ways in type...

Do you speak like this in everyday life? Like if you were talking to your mom would you be speaking like this?

In regards to your personal safety measures, thats cool, better to be safe than sorry hey

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RE: Personal Information - 4/9/2006 2:57:43 PM   
cariad


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Joined: 9/25/2004
From: Calgary, Alberta
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quote:

Do you speak like this in everyday life? Like if you were talking to your mom would you be speaking like this?


heavens to betsy not with that woman, girl told her she was a slave in the lifestyle and well sadly her mom won't speak to her unless mother dearest wants something from girl. it depends on the situation at hand, ie: if girl was at a munch she may use this girl or girl, in vanilla settings though no she does not use girl or this girl. 

girl does appreciate the questions though as she knows some get confused when reading her posts.  girl will always do her best to answer questions anyone has and if she doesn't know the answer she will explain that and try to get the answer as soon as she can




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RE: Personal Information - 4/9/2006 3:24:14 PM   
SirKenin


Posts: 2994
Joined: 10/31/2004
From: Barrie, ON Canada
Status: offline 		Unless you look like a half eaten dog treat what is the problem of giving out a photo?  What are they going to do, fly across the country going "have you seen this breakfast?".

Emails, what is the worst that can possibly happen?  They email you and say hi or "you look like you just fell out of My butt".  Oh NO!!! The world is going to come to an end.

To Me you just sound paranoid and I would drop you like a hot potato, thinking something was up.  I have no doubt that I am not the first person you have run across that has arrived at the same conclusion.

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RE: Personal Information - 4/9/2006 3:37:12 PM   
cariad


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Joined: 9/25/2004
From: Calgary, Alberta
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quote:

Unless you look like a half eaten dog treat what is the problem of giving out a photo? What are they going to do, fly across the country going "have you seen this breakfast?".

Emails, what is the worst that can possibly happen? They email you and say hi or "you look like you just fell out of My butt". Oh NO!!! The world is going to come to an end.

To Me you just sound paranoid and I would drop you like a hot potato, thinking something was up. I have no doubt that I am not the first person you have run across that has arrived at the same conclusion.


*Falls off her chair laughing.* fYi: girl has pics on her profile as she stated.

 insecure she is NOT

 careful and cautious she IS.......


girl has had a Dom find her by looking up her ip addy and stalk her from an email but she has since blocked Him and does not give out her email addy until she is comfortable in doing so. therefore, You saying girl sounds "insecure," is waaaaaaaaaaaaaay off base.

there is a saying, "Don't Judge the Book by It's Cover."

well "Don't judge this slave without getting to know her," is how she is going to end her post.


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RE: Personal Information - 4/9/2006 3:39:34 PM   
wytchywoman


Posts: 510
Joined: 2/27/2006
From: Southeastern Michigan
Status: offline 		Cariad,

Please read the mail I sent you. I think you're way off base if you think someone actually tracked you down by just doing an  IP trace on an e-mail you sent. I gave at least a partial explanation for my reasoning in the message I sent you on the "other side".


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RE: Personal Information - 4/9/2006 3:48:44 PM   
cariad


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From: Calgary, Alberta
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quote:

Cariad,

Please read the mail I sent you. I think you're way off base if you think someone actually tracked you down by just doing an IP trace on an e-mail you sent. I gave at least a partial explanation for my reasoning in the message I sent you on the "other side"


*smiles softly as she thinks on how to respond to this.*  girl will see if she has email from you, and if so will read it ...  on that note, a lil off topic here but why is it when one comes to the site they have message and respond but keep checking by hitting the refresh button or home button and find no messages?

ok girl is overtired, and getting in a weird mood so is going to try and find that thing others are calling "sleep."


after leaving the site and returning girl does not see an email for her from you wytchywoman, but will keep checking :)


< Message edited by cariad -- 4/9/2006 3:58:02 PM >

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RE: Personal Information - 4/9/2006 3:56:52 PM   
kittensmailbox


Posts: 744
Joined: 1/7/2005
From: Youngstown, Ohio
Status: offline 		Cariad, on here you say "girl" however, when i looked uped your profile, you do use the words, "i", "me" "mine"...  so why the difference?

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RE: Personal Information - 4/9/2006 3:57:23 PM   
MzPam


Posts: 59
Joined: 7/21/2004
Status: offline 		Hello  personally I like to see who I am talking to, I see no problem with a picture, I tend to not give a personal email addy untill a few emails and only if I feel compy with it. There are alot of strange and dangerous people out there BUT there are alot more of U/us nice ones :). Caution is always a good thing, just like when you have talked to someone and you go to meet, make it always public and have safety calls, or let someone know where your going. Even I tell My boy where I am going and who I am meeting, not that I don;t "trust" the person, it is always better to be safe then sorry.
 
for the girl cariad  I am sorry your own mom feels this way knowing who you really are, I am blessed My mother knows and so did My dad when he was alive.
 
Mz Pam

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RE: Personal Information - 4/9/2006 3:59:51 PM   
MasterCoyote


Posts: 11
Joined: 4/17/2004
Status: offline 		As I see it, there are 2 sides to this issue....

On the one side, (no offense intended at all to the site or it's creators) sometimes communication strictly through the board can be a pain (and not the good kind).  There's plenty of ways to set up anonymous email addresses that can't be traced back to you.  Also, there are tons of fakes out here - for those of us who are actually for real and seeking, the whole thing can get pretty tiresome sometimes.

However, on the other hand, safety should always be of primary concern, and for those who are truely trying to find someone, the internet provides a perfect opportunity to (hopefully) get to know someone and get more comfortable and trusting (although again - there's plenty of convincing fakes - so even in that care should always be taken).  Anyone who conducts themselves through pressure, accusation, and insult are not the type you would want to associate with anyway - so in the long run, it's for the best that they show their true selves early on when you can block them and move on...

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RE: Personal Information - 4/9/2006 4:01:07 PM   
cariad


Posts: 943
Joined: 9/25/2004
From: Calgary, Alberta
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quote:

for the girl cariad I am sorry your own mom feels this way knowing who you really are, I am blessed My mother knows and so did My dad when he was alive.

Mz Pam
 

girl thanks You for Your kind words Ma'am :)


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RE: Personal Information - 4/9/2006 4:03:30 PM   
cariad


Posts: 943
Joined: 9/25/2004
From: Calgary, Alberta
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quote:

Cariad, on here you say "girl" however, when i looked uped your profile, you do use the words, "i", "me" "mine"... so why the difference?


girls profile was written long ago, before she started using girl, this girl, this slave.


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RE: Personal Information - 4/9/2006 4:49:10 PM   
SirLordTrainer


Posts: 820
Joined: 5/6/2004
From: Indy
Status: offline 		I Myself find nothing wrong with exchanging email addys, photos or sites.. I think the OP is a tad bit paranoid as there are many safeguards in place if one uses some common sense

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RE: Personal Information - 4/9/2006 5:09:25 PM   
SirKenin


Posts: 2994
Joined: 10/31/2004
From: Barrie, ON Canada
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quote:

ORIGINAL: cariad

quote:

Unless you look like a half eaten dog treat what is the problem of giving out a photo? What are they going to do, fly across the country going "have you seen this breakfast?".

Emails, what is the worst that can possibly happen? They email you and say hi or "you look like you just fell out of My butt". Oh NO!!! The world is going to come to an end.

To Me you just sound paranoid and I would drop you like a hot potato, thinking something was up. I have no doubt that I am not the first person you have run across that has arrived at the same conclusion.


*Falls off her chair laughing.* fYi: girl has pics on her profile as she stated.

insecure she is NOT

careful and cautious she IS.......


girl has had a Dom find her by looking up her ip addy and stalk her from an email but she has since blocked Him and does not give out her email addy until she is comfortable in doing so. therefore, You saying girl sounds "insecure," is waaaaaaaaaaaaaay off base.

there is a saying, "Don't Judge the Book by It's Cover."

well "Don't judge this slave without getting to know her," is how she is going to end her post.



First, I did not say insecure.  I said paranoid.  If you hope to form a cohesive and relevant post please read ALL of what I said in it's entirety.

Second, nobody traced you by the IP address in your email header.  That is a giant crock of shit.  It is impossible unless he was a tech for your ISP.  I am an IT pro, running My own computer business (sales, service and networking, homes and SMBs), and I am telling you straight to your face, along with everyone else here, that you are either fabricating or embellishing a story to back up your point.

< Message edited by SirKenin -- 4/9/2006 5:18:25 PM >

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