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ORIGINAL: SubmissiveFox

>>>Mine was to completely shut down and we never got over that as a couple.

Missokyst - you're making me worry now.

Would you mind sharing more about this? Was the face slapping planned in your relationship or not? How often did you do it?

What was it about it that made you "completely shut down" and why do you think you were never able to get over it?

Why do you think your partner wanted to do it?

It's not something of great appeal to me personally but I'm not horrified by it & vaguely curious. But he is v. keen. But I wouldn't want to do it if it would destroy the relationship or give me a traumatic emotional reaction. Maybe the solution is to start very softly and see how it goes. . . ?

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I would have taken her anger and just held her and let her rant

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You might also want to be prepared for your response. Mine was to completely shut down and we never got over that as a couple. The next person that tried that ended up with a black eye.

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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael
Here is the thing many don't get, forget the physical intensity, look at the emotional aspect of it. Someone already mentioned it shut them down emotionally, this is serious play. For many, Aileen aside, you don't even need to do anything but raise your hand as if to hit and many will get a huge emotional reaction just from that. I don't hit as hard as Aileen speaks of and yet I get HUGE reactions from it because it is very much not the physicality of hitting the face but the whole taboo bit about it. I tend to just tap the face with my fingers and I get as much reaction as I would with a hard hit of a cane.

Same goes for breath play, I don't tend to do it much but I always do it. I don't wrap my fingers around their necks and squeeze till they spasm and collapse anymore, doing that once was enough for me. Placing your hands around a woman's neck without any pressure is intense enough to cause those with issues to react strongly, even to the point of freaking out.

Which brings me to what are called "emotional landmines", hidden psychological triggers from past issues or whatever that even the person who has them doesn't know about them. I once took my belt off and did the loop thing where you pull and they slap together to make a loud noise. Women went almost catatonic on me because her daddy did that before beating her. OOPS!

Here is where newbies fuck up. She got all pissed at me but that anger was because of her dad. I then got all pissed at her for getting pissed at me. BIG FIGHT.

The reality is it wasn't anyone's fault and if I had been more experienced, I would have taken her anger and just held her and let her rant. If she had a LOT more expereience, cause its HARD when it is YOUR emotional issue that just blew up, to say "what the fuck was THAT about" and laugh it off, or cry or whatever without turning that reaction into blame.

SO, start slow, start softly, and watch for reactions because it is very edgy stuff for a lot of people.

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Which brings me to what are called "emotional landmines", hidden psychological triggers from past issues or whatever that even the person who has them doesn't know about them. I once took my belt off and did the loop thing where you pull and they slap together to make a loud noise. Women went almost catatonic on me because her daddy did that before beating her. OOPS!

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ORIGINAL: ShoreBound149

I usually down a few boilermakers, close my eyes, do two full arm windmill revolutions and then launch an over hand right.....

We call it "Haymaker" play

To each their own....