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Tantriqu -> RE: Appropriate Kissing Styles for Femdoms. (5/28/2010 6:38:53 PM)

Akasha has beautifully outlined a lot of what makes both our hearts race: I'll add:
The first kiss tells me so much about the man: gripping a man by his nape, tilting his head juuuust so, watching the pulse thrust in his neck against his barely-disguised gasps, his lids closed, his lips sweetly parted . . . perfect.

My two best lovers have been the best kissers: with both I literally saw fireworks.

What I do to him depends. I may require a slow building kiss, my full lower lip slotting neatly between his thin, warm, manly lips. I may need to lever his mouth fully open with mine, then drive him mad by juuuuust brushing then bruising his. I may need to lick his mouth inside and out. I may need to bite and nip his lips, lids, jaw, neck, then nape. Any of these will mean I'll shortly need his mouth for other activities.

Contrariwise, a man who tries to french-kiss my mouth is instantly dismissed [in contradistinction to other orifices], especially since he's always told so in the first place.

Unless she directs otherwise, dudes, don't try to french-kiss a Domme . . . 's mouth.



PeonForHer -> RE: Appropriate Kissing Styles for Femdoms. (5/28/2010 6:48:05 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Tantriqu
his lips sweetly parted . . . 


Can you tell me how to do the lips thing so that they're sweetly parted, Tantriqu, rather than just open?  I'm not all that clear on that bit. 



Andalusite -> RE: Appropriate Kissing Styles for Femdoms. (5/28/2010 6:59:52 PM)

I don't think there is any such thing as an inappropriate kissing style for Dommes. Sometimes I've kissed someone who was submissive to me or who was a bottom in a very assertive or even agressive way, sometimes it was tender, sometimes passionate. The whole point of being dominant is being able to do it my way, whatever that happens to be at a given moment.[:D] It irks me when people way that it isn't Dommely enough to have sex in a particular position or whatever.

I don't usually kiss my femsub playpartner, but when I do, the way I do it depends on my mood, what I'm trying to express, and so on. I'm more likely to sink my teeth into her neck, thigh, shoulder, or breast, and then lick the teethmarks, but sometimes I'm drawn to follow it up with a quick kiss.



Tantriqu -> RE: Appropriate Kissing Styles for Femdoms. (5/28/2010 7:02:42 PM)

worst: q-sign: mouth lolling open, tongue out like a :-q icon
slightly less worse: yawning baboon

sweetest:
after reading instructions: close your eyes, think of your most electrically sensual moment, now gasp and your lips sweetly part.
Amazingly and automatically the perfect dell for a questing, warm, muscular, agile, sensitive, swelling feminine lip or tonguetip.

Perfect.



PeonForHer -> RE: Appropriate Kissing Styles for Femdoms. (5/28/2010 7:35:38 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Tantriqu

worst: q-sign: mouth lolling open, tongue out like a :-q icon
slightly less worse: yawning baboon

sweetest:
after reading instructions: close your eyes, think of your most electrically sensual moment, now gasp and your lips sweetly part.
Amazingly and automatically the perfect dell for a questing, warm, muscular, agile, sensitive, swelling feminine lip or tonguetip.

Perfect.


Thanks, Tantriqu - wicked advice!  You didn't mention to clean my teeth and scrape my tongue if they feel kind of furry beforehand, but I already knew that anyway.  I'll know what to do should any woman ever want to kiss me again!



Venatrix -> RE: Appropriate Kissing Styles for Femdoms. (5/29/2010 2:46:29 AM)

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ORIGINAL: PeonForHer

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ORIGINAL: Politesub53

A true English gentleman never kiss and tells, Peon. [;)]

Since this is me though..there was this girl from Lawrence Weston.

[;)]


Ah - you see, PS, you're a natural poet.  'The Girl from Lawrence Weston' - I can already hear a merry tune to go with those words . . . .



There once was a girl from Lawrence Weston
Who looked rather like Charlton Heston
She kissed PS on the mouth
And, possibly, points farther south
So PS had to change the trousers he messed in

(Well, you wanted poetry; be careful what you wish for.)



sunshinemiss -> RE: Appropriate Kissing Styles for Femdoms. (5/29/2010 3:35:39 AM)

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Finally, and most crucially (read: a response to this is compulsory): Who has the longest, strongest and most assertive tongue amongst the femdoms using this board?


I <3 Peon.

Ok... now... I've not read the posts, but I would be willing to conduct the necessary research on this. Yes I would. definitely willing to help out a buddy here. Oh yes.



PeonForHer -> RE: Appropriate Kissing Styles for Femdoms. (5/29/2010 3:54:57 AM)

Thank you, Sunshinemiss.  Your commitment to the scientific endeavour is to be admired!



slavekal -> RE: Appropriate Kissing Styles for Femdoms. (5/29/2010 6:34:16 AM)

Mistress Brutal Gemini once related a story of how she played with a hapless male she briefly encountered.  He was working at the gas station she pulled into, and Mistress Gemini told him to open his mouth.  She spit into it.  "That's how I kiss", she told him.



PeonForHer -> RE: Appropriate Kissing Styles for Femdoms. (5/29/2010 7:07:11 AM)

Ow!  That's harsh, Kal.  I wouldn't put that under the general heading of 'Romantic Kisses'. 



LadyAngelika -> RE: Appropriate Kissing Styles for Femdoms. (5/29/2010 7:27:07 AM)


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ORIGINAL: PeonForHer

Ow!  That's harsh, Kal.  I wouldn't put that under the general heading of 'Romantic Kisses'. 


Me neither. I actually don't even like to spit, period.

But that is a perfect example of the very large spectrum of practices in the D/s world.

- LA



MissBeautiful2U -> RE: Appropriate Kissing Styles for Femdoms. (5/31/2010 3:09:27 PM)

Venatrix, your choice of numbers really tickled me tonight. 1234 and 4 times a year.  Awesome :)

OP: Kissing styles vary depending on the chemistry with the person I am with and what exactly we're doing.



ElanSubdued -> RE: Appropriate Kissing Styles for Femdoms. (6/2/2010 12:47:18 PM)

Peon,

It has been a while since I posted anything on this forum (or on Collar Me for that matter).  As you know, I'm usually a fan of your points of view and of your questions.  This current thread doesn't sit right with me at all though.  Acceptable for femdoms to kiss?  Ah, yes, I'd think so.  And, given that dommes are women, and, more importantly, people, they'll kiss any way they like to, which could involve much of what you've described or none of what you've described.  What you've got here is an archetype (and a script) that marginalizes the woman and the individuality of an individual.  Sorry to come down so hard on your OP, but really... this just seems ludicrous, especially coming from someone as mature, sensible, and intelligent as yourself.

Afterthought:  did I miss something in your OP?  Is this supposed to be humorous or satire?  (Yes, I'm asking seriously 'cause this type of OP doesn't seem like your style or sensibility.)

Elan.



ElanSubdued -> RE: Appropriate Kissing Styles for Femdoms. (6/2/2010 12:52:15 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Venatrix

Silly boy. It clearly states in Chapter XXII (Part 3, Section iv) of the Domina's Guide to Absolutely Everything that dominas are allowed to kiss their submissive four times per year, no tongues, only on the solstices and the equinoxes.


Precisely.  I mean, any literate, well educated person would know this and even the less literate too! :-)

R.



ElanSubdued -> RE: Appropriate Kissing Styles for Femdoms. (6/2/2010 12:56:49 PM)

SylvereApLeanan,

quote:

There's an appropriate style of kissing for women?  Well, fuck me...


Well, since you asked so nicely... :-)

Side note to Peon:  perhaps I was a bit hard on you.  This thread is getting considerably better as I appreciate its more subtle nuances.

E.



PeonForHer -> RE: Appropriate Kissing Styles for Femdoms. (6/2/2010 1:16:43 PM)

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ORIGINAL: ElanSubdued

Afterthought:  did I miss something in your OP?  Is this supposed to be humorous or satire?  (Yes, I'm asking seriously 'cause this type of OP doesn't seem like your style or sensibility.)


Of course it was meant to be humorous, you looney!  It wouldn't have mattered what I'd said in my OP.  I knew various women would turn up to wax lyrical about kissing - just as I knew no men would say a word about it.

I'm just trying to picture it, now - me lying there, saying to some woman, 'No, I'm sorry, you're not kissing in a proper dommely fashion.  Your tongue isn't aggressive enough.  No - I'm afraid you've failed.  Next, please! *Cackle*



ElanSubdued -> RE: Appropriate Kissing Styles for Femdoms. (6/2/2010 1:18:28 PM)

Peon,

Oh, alright.  I'll get into the spirit. :-)

I've had kisses taken from me in very rough fashion and, yes, this was hot.  But, something softer, more gentle, and evoking a particular "ambiance" can be equally hot and sometimes more connective.  I'm thinking of one particular kiss where my partner crawled across the floor (yes, dominant women crawl when they want to... who knew?), over my body, and pinned me to the ground in front of a roaring fireplace.  She got on top of me and put her knees across my shoulders so I truly could not move.  Then, she leaned down, her long hair surrounding and caressing my face and chest, and gently kissed me, wetting my lips, tasting me, and allowing me to taste and smell her scent.  This was, at the time and given what we were doing, totally unexpected, but very much enjoyed.  We shared other "aspects" later on, but the most memorable part wasn't rough and tumble nor was there biting and tongue grappling (not that I'm against such things).

Edited to add:

--- PeonForHer:
--- ...just as I knew no men would say a word about it.

Not true.  As far as I'm concerned, kissing is at the absolute upper end of "compatibility metrics".  Say that phrase three times:  compatibility metrics, compatibility metrics, compatibility metrics.  See?  And you thought I wasn't a romantic.  Pish! :-)

E.



PeonForHer -> RE: Appropriate Kissing Styles for Femdoms. (6/2/2010 1:35:44 PM)

Brilliant!

I honestly didn't think any man would want to write about his experiences of kissing.  I don't think is necessarily about men being less romantic.  Instead, I think it's one of those peculiar things:  any amount of lurid detail about sexual experiences - but not kissing.  Oh no.  For men, sex is less personal than kissing.  Kissing is *private*.

Or, at least, that was my hypothesis.  Thank you for showing that there can be exceptions, Elan!

. . . Oh, and I agree with you about the 'hair' thing.  Being surrounded by a woman's hair when she's kissing is so good.   Like being stroked by a thousand miniature hands. 



ElanSubdued -> RE: Appropriate Kissing Styles for Femdoms. (6/2/2010 1:47:12 PM)

PeonForHer,

quote:

...Oh, and I agree with you about the 'hair' thing.  Being surrounded by a woman's hair when she's kissing is so good.  Like being stroked by a thousand miniature hands.


Not disagreeing with your reply or the text I've quoted above, but... just for variety and contrast...

I've had the utter pleasure of holding a mostly bald woman's head in my hands, of seeing her eyes and face totally unencumbered, of enjoying her intamacy and personage, through her lips, through the entirety of her naked head, and through the verbal and non-verbal communication we shared.  Highly recommended.  Long hair can be one style of "female sexy", but it is far from the only style.

E.



CallaFirestormBW -> RE: Appropriate Kissing Styles for Femdoms. (6/2/2010 2:05:42 PM)

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As for the tongue, I'm not big on lots of tongue, at least not in the beginning, and especially not that darting spastic electric eel out of water kind of tongue. Ewww.

No no no....

It needs a slow, smouldering build up, lips brushing against one another, little nips, breathing, more brushing, my hands clenching his neck tie or shirt collar, pulling him to me, essentially, setting the pace, and if he gets too eager, slowing him down, backing away and smiling, leaving him hanging, then slowly starting up again, winding him up like a little toy, building his desire to want to kiss me deeper, but letting him know that he will can't, at least not until I'm ready for him too.


Yup, that tends to pretty much describe my terms for "owning the kiss" as well. My cardinal rule for kissing as a dominant individual -- I initiate the kiss if the other party yields to me. (I live in a household where there are multiple dominants, and we have... well... fluctuating ideas about who gets to start the kiss with whom when it's Keeper to Keeper). I set the pace, I control the tongue (I prefer less rather than more), there will BE no slobber, and I control the alpha and omega of that kiss. Other than that... well... hmm... no 'other'... that's everything.

Calla



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