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lurch999 -> RE: Domme Bonus Points (5/30/2010 7:17:05 PM)
Her patience has grown kind of thin and she is reconsidering any further involvement. She also wants me to look into therapy for ADD but i have failed to do so thus far. She agreed to take me on for a trial basis, and She has tried to take it slow with me because i had 0% experience before Her.

LadyAngelika -> RE: Domme Bonus Points (5/30/2010 7:19:57 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: PeonForHer Pardon? Apparently, it also depends on the man. ;-) - LA

PeonForHer -> RE: Domme Bonus Points (5/30/2010 7:23:28 PM)
All right, no need to shout! [;)]

CarrieO -> RE: Domme Bonus Points (5/30/2010 7:47:58 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: lurch999 Her patience has grown kind of thin and she is reconsidering any further involvement. To be totally honest, given your other THREAD I can understand her frustration. You need to figure out why you want to explore submission and what it means to you before you go any further. Good luck.

Rochsub2009 -> RE: Domme Bonus Points (5/30/2010 8:19:19 PM)
Wow. Having read his other thread that you referenced, i am starting to question whether he is submissive at all. He seems to have a track record of disobedience and argumentativeness. Hmmmmmm, perhaps a pro-Domme would be more appropriate for him.

Rochsub2009 -> RE: Domme Bonus Points (5/30/2010 8:22:34 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: VaguelyCurious Gorgeous post, Rochsub. Thanks, VC. BTW, i love the new tattoo.

lurch999 -> RE: Domme Bonus Points (5/30/2010 10:22:05 PM)
"Go to a pro" is a generic lifestyle rebuke. When you hear someone is arguing with their vanilla SO do you tell them to see a hooker instead of dating?

Rochsub2009 -> RE: Domme Bonus Points (5/30/2010 10:25:52 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: lurch999 "Go to a pro" is a generic lifestyle rebuke. When you hear someone is arguing with their vanilla SO do you tell them to see a hooker instead of dating? Actually, it's not. Some people look down at pro Dommes. i don't. i think they serve a very valid and valuable purpose. Because you seem to desire domination, but don't seem to be particularly submissive, i thought that a pro Domme might be a good solution. Have you ever seen a pro Domme? If not, don't knock it until you've tried it. i've actually had some very enjoyable times with pro Dommes. i actually think you will enjoy it too. Moreover, it will eliminate the arguing and intentional disobedience. BTW, pro Dommes are not hookers. Most provide no sex whatsoever. i thought i should mention that before some of the pro Dommes enter the conversation and correct you using less civil language. [;)]

BeautifulPhantom -> RE: Domme Bonus Points (5/30/2010 10:52:43 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: lurch999 When you hear someone is arguing with their vanilla SO do you tell them to see a hooker instead of dating? Yes, actually. It's the most honest relationship to be had. They both know what they are there and where the door is when it's over.

VaguelyCurious -> RE: Domme Bonus Points (5/31/2010 4:00:35 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Rochsub2009 BTW, i love the new tattoo. Thankyou [:D] OP: quote: i tend to lose the thread and direct attention back toward myself after 2 minutes and i have asked Ma'am one personal question about Herself in 7 months. Is that really true, or are you exaggerating? Because if it's true then I feel for your partner, I really do-that's not how most human beings interact.

seekingOwnertoo -> RE: Domme Bonus Points (5/31/2010 8:13:42 PM)
Why I looked at this thread ... I have no idea ... But ... From the perspective of experience ... and neither Domme, Dom or sub ... Inability to Listen ... is an acute ... threatening disease in todays society. You have to listen ... to grow and adapt ... as well as keep up, with what is happening. If You can be a bit of an annoyance ... your words in the OP ... then i suggest ... Listening can be an advantage ... in fact ... it usually gives you the upper hand ... in time. It takes time and experience .... and ONE HELL OF A LOT OF EFFORT. I once knew a Lady ... and She told Her whole family .. (over 50 people) .. this guy seems to have "Eyes In the back of his head" ... "he seems to be able to read my mind ... intuitively". And I was standing right there. Yet I knew it was my highly developed listening skills ... well ... and my sometimes ... photographic memory too! LOL But the photographic aspect ... comes from listening. So here is my advice ... practice listening to Her .. then improvise, adapt and overcome. At least ... you will not feel you are an annoyance ... any more.

ElanSubdued -> RE: Domme Bonus Points (6/2/2010 2:04:10 PM)
quote: PeonForHer: Pardon? LadyAngelika Apparently, it also depends on the man. ;-) Also, during instances like this, pay attention to a woman's winkie. Apparently women like it when you notice and acknowledge their winkie. :-) E.

peppermint -> RE: Domme Bonus Points (6/2/2010 3:56:16 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: lurch999 She also wants me to look into therapy for ADD but i have failed to do so thus far. For once, DO what she tells you to do. Also, take her your x box to show her you trust her judgment.

LadyAngelika -> RE: Domme Bonus Points (6/2/2010 4:40:06 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ElanSubdued quote: PeonForHer: Pardon? LadyAngelika Apparently, it also depends on the man. ;-) Also, during instances like this, pay attention to a woman's winkie. Apparently women like it when you notice and acknowledge their winkie. :-) E. So it takes a winkie to bring you out of hiding, E? ;-) - LA

ElanSubdued -> RE: Domme Bonus Points (6/5/2010 11:54:14 AM)
Lady Angelika, quote: So it takes a winkie to bring you out of hiding, E? ;-) Depends on how bold (read: long and thick) the winkie is. [;)] E.

MistressOfGa -> RE: Domme Bonus Points (6/6/2010 1:39:44 AM)
quote: She agreed to take me on for a trial basis, and She has tried to take it slow with me because i had 0% experience before Her. Again with this cop out. My former had no experience whatsoever. Not with BDSM and not with women at all. Yet, he would have never use these stupid excuses you seem to be getting away with using. So what if you had no experience. You have been with your Lady now for 6 months, there is no reason why you should still be acting up like this. NONE. Maybe some unasked for advice for Mistress Xbox, and I mean this is the best possible way. Stop coddling him. Stop going so slow with him, you are now enabling his behavior by allowing him to use this same lame excuse of being new. He isn't new anymore. He is way past the "I have had no experience" excuses. MoGa

Toppingfrmbottom -> RE: Domme Bonus Points (6/6/2010 2:31:35 AM)
DommeKeliDallas, unless you know his dom, how do you know she'd want gift certificats to bed bath and beyond, or even want him to go grocery shopping with out her asking him to? I personally would think someone was not very aware of what I liked if they gifted me a card to bed bath and beyond, since I am not very interested in that store. Not all women like BBnB quote: ORIGINAL: DommeKeliDallas Go grocery shopping for her...without her asking you. Or... stop by one of her favorite dining places and get take-out for her. Gift cards to Bed, Bath and Beyond will also score points with her.

Toppingfrmbottom -> RE: Domme Bonus Points (6/6/2010 2:35:21 AM)
Are you available to swing by my house and help re arrange, hehe I can't get Daddy to hardly do anything like that and I been asking sweetly for a very very long time. quote: ORIGINAL: joether Help on a room she wants to rearrange, change, or simply touch up. If all else fails give her a hug!

Toppingfrmbottom -> RE: Domme Bonus Points (6/6/2010 2:54:46 AM)
Your behavior is not ADHD, it's self absorption and ass shattery. Therapy is not going to help you stop being an annoying self absorbed immature person. That's a personality flaw, and not a therapists job to fix out of you. It's your job. quote: ORIGINAL: lurch999 Her patience has grown kind of thin and she is reconsidering any further involvement. She also wants me to look into therapy for ADD but i have failed to do so thus far.

sirsholly -> RE: Domme Bonus Points (6/6/2010 5:31:23 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Toppingfrmbottom Your behavior is not ADHD, it's self absorption and ass shattery. Therapy is not going to help you stop being an annoying self absorbed immature person. That's a personality flaw, and not a therapists job to fix out of you. It's your job. quote: ORIGINAL: lurch999 Her patience has grown kind of thin and she is reconsidering any further involvement. She also wants me to look into therapy for ADD but i have failed to do so thus far. This advice is not correct. One of the main signs of ADD/ADHD is a lack of impulse control. Lurch fits the pattern with his purchase of the XBox game, his bratting behavior and even some of the posts he has written, knowing his Mistress may read them and they may cause her pause in taking him back. I strongly suggest to Lurch that he start with a visit to his PCP for a physical and a chat about medications to control ADD/ADHD in the event they are needed. Then, have an eval by a therapist to see if ADD/ADHD is an issue. Where as your behavior is not a personality flaw, it is deeply ingrained and therapy can be a huge benefit in learning self control.

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