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Toppingfrmbottom -> RE: Domme Bonus Points (6/6/2010 11:15:28 AM)
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True, but he also just wants what he wants, how he wants it regardless of having a D/s relationship. Being all about me me me me me me me, and never once asking about her, is also ass shattery, if I dare say so.
And I have ADHD, and I have compulsion controll problems, and have compulsivly shopped my self to massive amounts of debt in the past, and still do some days, Was diagnosed as a small child, and I know that not every ADHD'er out there is the same, but I'd never blame self absorption with myself on my ADHD. My scatter brain'ed ness, My inability to stay centered sometimes, Bouncing out of my skin when I desperatly want to be calm and still and stop and relax sure, but not something like only ever having asked a personal question of my partner and their interests once in 7 months.
I am also in therapy, once a week every week, and yes, it can be helpful for exploring behavior issues, and motivations and learning self control and in my case, she's eventually going to work on calming my social behaviors a bit too, so I don't over whelm and run over people socially with my energy, inability to focus sometimes, and to temper how friendly and chatty cathy ish I can be. The important thing is though, that I have to be present and willing to do the work, and Lurch, doesn't give me the impression he cares enough to work on his poor behavior and his issues.
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ORIGINAL: sirsholly
This advice is not correct. One of the main signs of ADD/ADHD is a lack of impulse control. Lurch fits the pattern with his purchase of the XBox game, his bratting behavior and even some of the posts he has written, knowing his Mistress may read them and they may cause her pause in taking him back.
I strongly suggest to Lurch that he start with a visit to his PCP for a physical and a chat about medications to control ADD/ADHD in the event they are needed. Then, have an eval by a therapist to see if ADD/ADHD is an issue.
Where as your behavior is not a personality flaw, it is deeply ingrained and therapy can be a huge benefit in learning self control.
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