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ElanSubdued -> RE: What would you do in this situation? (6/4/2010 10:58:57 AM)
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Reply on two issues: the notion that video games appeal only to illiterate, uncultured, unmotivated people and "your tits are in the way, could you move over please".
I know a lot of literate, well balanced people who play video games. The biggest issue I see with video games is that they are designed to be addictive. They are also designed to consume huge amounts of time. That's the reason I decided to largely eradicate them from my leisure activities. It's not that I didn't enjoy them or that I felt they didn't improve my mind in some way, but the payoff requires too much time investment. I can read a book in two hours and enrich myself in many ways (improve my vocabulary, glean knowledge in subjects unfamiliar to me, etc.). This isn't true of the large majority of video games, whether these be epic role playing games or quick, connect three jewels, rinse, repeat affairs. Just try and get much value in a two hour Morrowind session (or WOW, if that's your thing). It's not going to happen! At the eight hour mark, you're finally in the groove of solving a quest and many hours later you may have completed that quest and this leads to... you guessed it, another quest or guild that will consume hours upon hours of time to uncover its benefits. I just don't have this kind of time in my life anymore to spend on one, specific thing.
So... on to "tits". As with most things in life, context and timing are significant. If you've got a date with your partner, that's not the time to start up a detailed, self-focused, solo project. Conversely, during those times when people do solo activities, it's not unresonable to expect cooperation from your partner. If I'm in the midst of threading a small part onto a spindle, this probably isn't the best time for my partner to flirt (naked or not). My attention isn't on her and anything she does by way of interruption, unless for a significant reason, isn't likely to be welcome at that moment. Similarly, if my partner is in the middle of a solo project, that's not the best time for me to grab her attention... again, unless there is some significant thing that requires her input. Perhaps, if she needs a break and gives some verbal or non-verbal cue that this is the case, then my interruption may be welcomed, but otherwise her time is *her time*. I wish this all happened organically and without planning, but realistically this doesn't always work. Thus, it's a good idea to communicate with your partner and schedules times for various activities - those solo, together, and with others. I find this eliminates a lot of miscommunicaiton and it makes activities more enjoyable for all involved.
Elan.
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