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ORIGINAL: cloudboy
Write me down as one who thinks online domination is potentially more exciting than F2F, the reason being that it requires maximum communication skills and imagination, two things that physical contact sometimes over powers or muffles.

Also, keeping things online means the Domme can be more dominant and the sub can be more submissive -- in a dungeons & dragons flight of fantasy way. In this sense, the real world can't even compete.

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ORIGINAL: LadyNTrainer


I don't know as it would be *more* exciting, but it does open up some awesome possibilities for delving into shared fantasy realms.  In my triad, all three of us are pretty hardcore nerdly fantasy roleplaying gamers, and two of us are published authors in the industry.  We've done some interactive erotic story writing and a bit of online roleplaying here and there, and exploring creative fantasy realms together can be a really amazing amount of fun. 

Some of the specific kind of fear play that my secondary partner enjoys can't really be done without invoking some fantasy, so we do use fantasy settings and characters in real life roleplaying also.  Within the boundaries of the scene, I can threaten to do a lot more than is actually practical (or safe, or sane) to do in real life, and we both feel that suspension of disbelief works better when you're inside a fantasy character's head.  I still think it's hotter to do this kind of fantasy roleplaying in real life, with the understanding that nobody is really going to be branded on the forehead with a red hot cattle iron or have body parts chopped off.   But there's a whole lot to be said for good, creative, high quality interactive storytelling online as well, and not necessarily as just a substitute for face to face play. 

What I'm talking about is a whole other realm from the typical lowbrow cybersexx0rs crap, obviously.  And most people aren't going to have the interest, let alone the creative writing skills, to pull it off.  Usually you'll see stuff more like this (oh yeah, Bloodninja FTW) than what I'm describing.  But when you do have a couple of reasonably skilled creative writers playing together online, some pretty goddamn hot stuff can result.  It's not for everyone, but if you're wired to appreciate creativity, it can be remarkably gratifying to play this way with a partner.

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ORIGINAL: AAkasha

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ORIGINAL: LadyNTrainer


I don't know as it would be *more* exciting, but it does open up some awesome possibilities for delving into shared fantasy realms. 

Absolutely agree.  ....

I don't think cyber or online anything is a REPLACEMENT for in the flesh S&M (which is core to my happiness), but it's an awesome, awesome supplement.

I make partners "tell me a story" sometimes, or write me a story. 

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Fair enough.

So how many long term relationships have you had with someone via online domming, and how long did they last?

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cloudboy: you make a valid point. But you must know that while most females who weighed in DO like some online play, most only engage in it with men they already have established relationships with me. For instance, I have had subs who were in the military. Of course the military has a long history of separating lovers for war, military classes, training exercises, you name it. In those instances when I was separated from someone whom I cared for, online play was very good. But most women will get nothing out of dominating a man online whom they have not met and have no real connection to.