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TreasureKY -> RE: Being Happy... (6/3/2010 9:50:05 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Aileen1968 Wow. He makes me incredibly happy. My children make me incredibly happy. My family makes me incredibly happy (sometimes). I can live without material things. People I cannot live without. It's people that make things worthwhile for me. Dogs and cats and guinea pigs and hamsters too.... I absolutely rely on others to bring joy to my life. I rely on myself as much, but it would be pointless to not be able to share that with those I love around me. I do not like being alone. I like alone time. That's completely different. But I do not like being alone. Being in love and loving those close to me is a key component to my happiness. I am happier since I've been with him. He enhances my life and I'm so lucky for that. Rambling.... I couldn't have said it better, myself. [;)]

lucylucy -> RE: Being Happy... (6/3/2010 9:53:28 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Aileen1968 quote: ORIGINAL: Icarys quote: ORIGINAL: Aileen1968 quote: ORIGINAL: jbcurious As to material possesions... I completly agree that these are things which may bring convenience or pleasure to our lives and have a difficult time relating to those who derive happiness from aquiring them...but I honestly don't see how one puts relationships and people into the same category as material possesions. A lot of people on this planet do just this... And the world is full of people who are about as self-aware as a turnip so what's your point?[:D] She seemed a bit unaware that there were materialistic people...or at least unable to relate. Just thought I'd point out that there are a lot of people that equate happiness to having lots of stuff. Whether or not they're successful or not in finding happiness through those means is a whole other thread. [:D] right back at you. The people I know who equate happiness to having lots of stuff are generally miserable. I'm thinking of one particular person I know who really treasures his stuff--obsesses over it being kept in the ideal conditions (temperature and light are monitored, etc.), spends large amounts of time looking at his stuff, cataloging his stuff, researching his stuff, talking about his stuff, using his stuff . . . and treats the people in his life like shit. He is miserable (and admits to being miserable). I want to tell him that if he treasured the people in his life the way he treasures his stuff, he'd probably be a lot happier . . . but he doesn't listen to me, so why bother. Yeah, just one person--not enough to make a grand statement about people who love stuff, but my gut feeling is that this guy is typical of people who equate happiness with having lots of stuff.

heartcream -> RE: Being Happy... (6/3/2010 10:10:17 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: lucylucy The people I know who equate happiness to having lots of stuff are generally miserable. I'm thinking of one particular person I know who really treasures his stuff--obsesses over it being kept in the ideal conditions (temperature and light are monitored, etc.), spends large amounts of time looking at his stuff, cataloging his stuff, researching his stuff, talking about his stuff, using his stuff . . . and treats the people in his life like shit. He is miserable (and admits to being miserable). I want to tell him that if he treasured the people in his life the way he treasures his stuff, he'd probably be a lot happier . . . but he doesn't listen to me, so why bother. Yeah, just one person--not enough to make a grand statement about people who love stuff, but my gut feeling is that this guy is typical of people who equate happiness with having lots of stuff. I adore my stuff and for the most part take really good care of it. I name my stuff. My bike has a name, my guitars have names, I love my stuff and feel really blessed and happy to have my stuff and look forward to more stuff to love. I adore beautiful things and good design. I would love to have stuff in my life to go with my really great friends and one day a partner would be lovely too.

lucylucy -> RE: Being Happy... (6/3/2010 10:24:54 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: heartcream quote: ORIGINAL: lucylucy The people I know who equate happiness to having lots of stuff are generally miserable. I'm thinking of one particular person I know who really treasures his stuff--obsesses over it being kept in the ideal conditions (temperature and light are monitored, etc.), spends large amounts of time looking at his stuff, cataloging his stuff, researching his stuff, talking about his stuff, using his stuff . . . and treats the people in his life like shit. He is miserable (and admits to being miserable). I want to tell him that if he treasured the people in his life the way he treasures his stuff, he'd probably be a lot happier . . . but he doesn't listen to me, so why bother. Yeah, just one person--not enough to make a grand statement about people who love stuff, but my gut feeling is that this guy is typical of people who equate happiness with having lots of stuff. I adore my stuff and for the most part take really good care of it. I name my stuff. My bike has a name, my guitars have names, I love my stuff and feel really blessed and happy to have my stuff and look forward to more stuff to love. I adore beautiful things and good design. I would love to have stuff in my life to go with my really great friends and one day a partner would be lovely too. Stuff just doesn't do it for me. I do name some of my things (I always name my car, for example) and I do take good care of my things (part of being an environmentalist) but I'm not attached to them. When my husband and I divorced, I didn't quibble about any of the stuff. I wanted our daughter and that was all that mattered to me. Stuff is nice, but it requires upkeep. I hate to dust. Edited: This post sounds judgmental. Sorry.

reynardfox -> RE: Being Happy... (6/3/2010 11:40:02 PM)
I thought I was happy before I met herself, but I was sorely mistaken. I was never happy until I found the other half of me. Thank God I never knew that at the time.

GreedyTop -> RE: Being Happy... (6/3/2010 11:56:54 PM)
I am essentially a happy person. I have been reminded again that what makes me happy is friends, family, and the cats.. I do have STUFF that greatly contributes to my native happiness, but there are very few things that I would mourn if my place burned to the ground...

jbcurious -> RE: Being Happy... (6/4/2010 1:53:32 AM)
I don't think we should wait around for someone to complete us...that there's a mystical "other half" out there...we should strive for self fufillment and be able to find happiness within ourselves...but I also look at a partner as much more then icing on the cake... more like adding a cup of sour cream and some frangelica to a Devils food cake...it's still a devils food cake, but taken to a whole new level... I know, I'm beating this food analogy into the ground... [:)] Aileen...I may be somewhat naive in matters BDSM... but not in the world, I know that many base their happiness and self worth on material possessions... I just have a hard time relating or understanding them Even when I lived the lifestyle and had all the stuff, I enjoyed being able to provide it for my daughter but it was quite meaningless to me.

Icarys -> RE: Being Happy... (6/4/2010 6:58:20 AM)
You complete me! ~SirJerry (Can I have some cake now?)

heartcream -> RE: Being Happy... (6/4/2010 6:58:39 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: lucylucy Stuff just doesn't do it for me. I do name some of my things (I always name my car, for example) and I do take good care of my things (part of being an environmentalist) but I'm not attached to them. When my husband and I divorced, I didn't quibble about any of the stuff. I wanted our daughter and that was all that mattered to me. Stuff is nice, but it requires upkeep. I hate to dust. Edited: This post sounds judgmental. Sorry. Up to you on your stuff. I value my things and also have given away almost everything I own more than once. I am the sort who gives it away doesnt sell it (much to my chagrin when there has been no cash). I gave so much of my stuff to a young mother who was really grateful to have all my pretty things when I moved to the usa and then when I went to Oz I gave away hoards of my stuff again. I think now I would be more careful about that, would not be so quick to give my things away. I value my things and have learned to value them more. Sure if I lost all my stuff due to some disaster (please no) of course I am grateful for my life most of all, and I would yet again start over but I do value my things and I feel my things appreciate it.

VirginPotty -> RE: Being Happy... (6/4/2010 7:47:19 AM)
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