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ORIGINAL: osf

after a failed relationship or two you'll either learn or not, during this the best you can hope for is not to fuck the poor girl/s up too much

and there ought to be a law no one should be allowed to learn to be a dom before thirty

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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

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ORIGINAL: osf

after a failed relationship or two you'll either learn or not, during this the best you can hope for is not to fuck the poor girl/s up too much

and there ought to be a law no one should be allowed to learn to be a dom before thirty

Proof that those over 30 can be just as bad as those under it.

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ORIGINAL: Focus50

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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

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ORIGINAL: osf

after a failed relationship or two you'll either learn or not, during this the best you can hope for is not to fuck the poor girl/s up too much

and there ought to be a law no one should be allowed to learn to be a dom before thirty

Proof that those over 30 can be just as bad as those under it.

And that nothing quite moves a discussion along like the ole "glass is one tenth empty" perspective.

Focus.

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ORIGINAL: Andalusite

Focus, I'm confused. Michael didn't say that all Dominants over 30 are immature or should be avoided, just that age doesn't guarantee maturity. When I was looking last year, I preferred men who were within 10 years of my age, though I was open to a roughly 15 year range. Some of the younger men were very mature, well-spoken, etc., and I did run into a couple of guys who were in their 40's or 50's but who were in fantasy land or childish in other ways.

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ORIGINAL: aldompdx

Mastery is first of one's self.
Wisdom is not gained by watching, but by being.
Honor and respect is not gained by what you do to another person, but by who you ARE as a person.

Work over yourself first.

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ORIGINAL: Andalusite

Level, I certainly haven't dated enough people, or interacted with them on a deep enough level, for a statistical analysis! Actually, I've only dated a couple of gentlemen in their early 50's, as that is the very top of the age range I'm open to, and both seemed to be mature, ethical, and had integrity and manners. So did most of the 20-something Dominant/etc. men who I have interacted with in person. I haven't noticed a direct correlation between age (within the range I'm looking for) and maturity, I just seek out men who are both mature, and within that age range. I've seen a lot of posters here who are older but seem very childish, and have talked with plenty of (afaik) vanilla women whose husbands went through a midlife crisis in their 40's or 50's who behaved in immature ways. I try to judge/evaluate people as individuals, whether they would be a good fit for me, and on various things that are important to me. Age (within that range, maybe slightly older), ethnicity, D/s or BDSM orientation, and height don't matter as much as how interesting they are to talk with, being reasonably physically active, having compatible views on D/s, getting along with my friends (and vice versa for me with their friends), having a compatible sense of humor, being trustworthy, the way they treat other people (especially service people), how easily they get angry and how they handle it when they do, and so forth.

At the risk of thinking our relationship (and your attention) is all about me, did you just drop a rival's name during the throes of our passion and pillow-talk...?


Focus.

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ORIGINAL: Andalusite

I'm sorry! Anyway, I was thinking this over a bit more, and you're probably right that the percentage of mature men does increase with age, both in general, and for Dominants. I just try to focus on people as individuals rather than stereotyping them. I don't want to date anyone who is immature, regardless of their age.