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RE: Public or Private Displays. - 6/7/2010 8:46:14 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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It's likely that none of us thinks its appropriate to give someone else oral sex in public.


Actually I do. I think as long as you aren't blocking anyone's way, leaving a mess for someone else to clean up, not being noisy to interfere with other peoples conversations, then I don't really care what you are doing between yourselves. When I said my dividing line was around interfering with other people, I really meant it.

Oral sex = no biggie. Talking during a film = huge problem

I recognize that 99% of the world disagrees with me and has some strange warped idea that somehow it's "Bad for younger humans."

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RE: Public or Private Displays. - 6/7/2010 8:46:43 PM   
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RE: Public or Private Displays. - 6/7/2010 9:00:58 PM   
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Great points.  Is it okay to swear in public?  Or swear in front of children?  Yet it happens everyday.

Nothing is more polarizing than discussing religion or politics.  And nothing has the potential to be more offensive.  Yet people do it everyday.

i am obviously African-American.  And i find it offensive when that the KKK is free to have a public rally and wear their robes and masks if they choose to.  But they have that right.  Similarly, anyone who lives in the Southern US knows that seemingly every pickup truck has a confederate flag bumper sticker proudly displayed on it.  This also offends me.  But nobody gives a rat's arse about my feelings. 

So excuse me if i think there are far worse things to worry about than if someone's feelings get hurt because they are exposed to a bit of kink.

It's always amazed me that so many in the BDSM lifestyle seem so adamant about not exposing others to their kink.  Sure, not exposing them to open sex is a wise thing (and it could also get you arrested).  But why shouldn't someone be able to be submissive in public?  Why shouldn't a crossdresser be able to wear what he wishes in public?  Perhaps the world at large needs more exposure to WIITWD, not less.

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RE: Public or Private Displays. - 6/7/2010 9:01:48 PM   
SimplyMichael


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Oh, and in the social area before we went in to play she started kissing this friend of mine's woman who then started biting her nipple, her dom asked if he could do the same and then well it got messy from there.

Someone walking by bitched that we were having sex in the social area. No matter where you go...there are always critics...

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RE: Public or Private Displays. - 6/7/2010 9:06:45 PM   
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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

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It's likely that none of us thinks its appropriate to give someone else oral sex in public.


Actually I do. I think as long as you aren't blocking anyone's way, leaving a mess for someone else to clean up, not being noisy to interfere with other peoples conversations, then I don't really care what you are doing between yourselves. When I said my dividing line was around interfering with other people, I really meant it.

Oral sex = no biggie. Talking during a film = huge problem

I recognize that 99% of the world disagrees with me and has some strange warped idea that somehow it's "Bad for younger humans."



I have no "younger humans" nor is that my concern, however....I do not want to see oral sex being given, no matter what the circumstances are. Seriously. It isn't always about children. Sometimes it is about people that don't enjoy displays of overt sexual behavior while they are having dinner out or anywhere else. It's disgusting. Not impressed by someone trying to shock me, I find it incredibly juvenile and tasteless.

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RE: Public or Private Displays. - 6/7/2010 9:08:31 PM   
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It isn't always about children. Sometimes it is about people that don't enjoy displays of overt sexual behavior while they are having dinner out or anywhere else. It's disgusting. Not impressed by someone trying to shock me, I find it incredibly juvenile and tasteless.


Agreed. I'm not even close to being a prude, but I do very much believe in decorum.

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RE: Public or Private Displays. - 6/7/2010 9:10:39 PM   
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RE: Public or Private Displays. - 6/7/2010 9:13:39 PM   
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I don't get shocked. I just get turned off.

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RE: Public or Private Displays. - 6/7/2010 9:14:15 PM   
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I would like to know how people feel about public or private play. I feel very strongly that what goes on between 2 people should remain private.


I have no aversion to it either way. In the end I'm going to do what I'm told. I trust the person I'm involved with isn't going to take unnecessary risks that require an attorney's assistance.

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RE: Public or Private Displays. - 6/7/2010 9:16:32 PM   
SimplyMichael


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ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika


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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

Shocking vanilla people is childs play

Shocking kinksters priceless


I don't get shocked. I just get turned off.

- LA


It can be so much fun, some people have such narrow view of what "kink" is and how we are all supposed to act that messing with their perceptions is so much fun.

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RE: Public or Private Displays. - 6/7/2010 9:22:15 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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ORIGINAL: Aynne88
I do not want to see oral sex being given, no matter what the circumstances are.

It's disgusting. Not impressed by someone trying to shock me, I find it incredibly juvenile and tasteless


Well so are crocs and a lot of other fashion deals, but I have to endure those and they also are not doing any harm to anyone.

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RE: Public or Private Displays. - 6/7/2010 9:27:41 PM   
Aynne88


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ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika

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It isn't always about children. Sometimes it is about people that don't enjoy displays of overt sexual behavior while they are having dinner out or anywhere else. It's disgusting. Not impressed by someone trying to shock me, I find it incredibly juvenile and tasteless.


Agreed. I'm not even close to being a prude, but I do very much believe in decorum.

- LA


Moi aussi. *was that right?* lol. I am rusty....l

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RE: Public or Private Displays. - 6/7/2010 9:32:00 PM   
Aynne88


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ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika


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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

Shocking vanilla people is childs play

Shocking kinksters priceless


I don't get shocked. I just get turned off.

- LA


Yes and I also find it so tasteless that I pity the idiots that are trying so hard to shock me. It's just declasse, and rather pathetic. Want to shock me? It isn't going to be with getting your penis sucked in front of me. That's just sad.

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RE: Public or Private Displays. - 6/7/2010 9:34:49 PM   
Aynne88


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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross


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ORIGINAL: Aynne88
I do not want to see oral sex being given, no matter what the circumstances are.

It's disgusting. Not impressed by someone trying to shock me, I find it incredibly juvenile and tasteless


Well so are crocs and a lot of other fashion deals, but I have to endure those and they also are not doing any harm to anyone.



LA, I love your posts generally, but comparing bad fashion to public oral sex? Apples and kangaroos really...

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RE: Public or Private Displays. - 6/7/2010 9:36:18 PM   
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Status: offline 		Wait, when you people are whining about "public oral sex" are you talking about someone doing it at a movie theatre or in a dungeon?

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RE: Public or Private Displays. - 6/7/2010 9:39:29 PM   
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I am not whining Michael, if I read this correctly, I am working under the assumption that by the comments given it is truly public. Not appropriate.

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RE: Public or Private Displays. - 6/7/2010 9:48:55 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Aynne88

I am not whining Michael, if I read this correctly, I am working under the assumption that by the comments given it is truly public. Not appropriate.



Aynne88,
Earlier in the thread, someone said that kissing in public was inappropriate.  Someone else said that helping one's Domme put her shoes on is inappropriate.  i stated that many feel that seeing gay couples in public is offensive.  How do you feel about those acts?

Giving oral sex in public is illegal, and thus, is slightly irrelevant.  It takes the focus off of the murkier (and more legal) activities that the BDSM community seems to have little consensus on.  But one things seems certain to me.  The majority of the BDSM community seems to believe that we should be in the closet (even if we're doing nothing illegal).

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RE: Public or Private Displays. - 6/7/2010 10:03:50 PM   
Aynne88


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ORIGINAL: Rochsub2009

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ORIGINAL: Aynne88

I am not whining Michael, if I read this correctly, I am working under the assumption that by the comments given it is truly public. Not appropriate.



Aynne88,
Earlier in the thread, someone said that kissing in public was inappropriate.  Someone else said that helping one's Domme put her shoes on is inappropriate.  i stated that many feel that seeing gay couples in public is offensive.  How do you feel about those acts?

Giving oral sex in public is illegal, and thus, is slightly irrelevant.  It takes the focus off of the murkier (and more legal) activities that the BDSM community seems to have little consensus on.  But one things seems certain to me.  The majority of the BDSM community seems to believe that we should be in the closet (even if we're doing nothing illegal).



The first things you mentioned? I have no issues with any of them. Especially gay couples in public. I am liberal and that is silly to me to be offended by, as is kissing and putting on someone's shoes. Blowjobs? Whole different thing to me.

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RE: Public or Private Displays. - 6/7/2010 10:27:05 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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LA, I love your posts generally, but comparing bad fashion to public oral sex? Apples and kangaroos really


See to me it really isn't. Again, if you're quiet, out of the way, not leaving a mess, what's the problem?

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RE: Public or Private Displays. - 6/7/2010 10:44:41 PM   
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Status: offline 		Since the OP just made a blanket statement about public vs private displays, people just went off on what ever tangent.  As yet, she has still has not explained what she meant by public/private.  What the heck. 
In my view if you don't like it, dont do it.

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