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GDG: On mutual respect - 4/11/2006 1:02:31 PM   
subapplicant


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Status: offline 		A wise woman once wrote:

"If you do not agree with My lifestyle information, as listed honestly in My profile, that is your right. But please don't feel you need to send a judgmental email. Just pass Me by! Mutual respect should be a given on this site."

Do you agree that it extends to posts as well? That we owe each other mutual respect, and the benefit of the doubt?

Like you say, if you don't agree with the lifestyle information, or a post, isn't better not to be harshly judgmental, and just to pass by?
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RE: GDG: On mutual respect - 4/11/2006 1:06:06 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		Depends on the post, the motivation, the mood and the purpose.

There's always a "rude/not rude" line no matter what format you are in, but there's a difference between pro-actively making a point to say "You suck" and someone putting up a post and asks "Do I suck?" and you reply "Yes, you suck."

At some point we will all be told we've been mean, rude, wrong, disrespectful, etc.  It rarely actually changes anything.  If you put something in a public forum, be prepared to get anything and everything in return.

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RE: GDG: On mutual respect - 4/11/2006 1:08:43 PM   
subapplicant


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Status: offline 		No sweat. I agree. The free exchange of ideas is worth it. And you do expose yourself when you pitch a post.

Like I said, I can take it, doesn't bother me. And, of course, the same courtesy extends to me as well. I can respond in a manner that I see appropriate.


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RE: GDG: On mutual respect - 4/11/2006 1:13:28 PM   
gooddogbenji


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No, I don't agree. 

Your personal profile is, to a certain degree a personal ad.  Whether you are seeking a partner or just friends, the purpose is for someone to read it and, if they fit your criteria, respond to it.  Usually it is written for the longer term, and is a simple invitation to like minded people to strike up a conversation.

A forum post is something you want to announce to the world, usually (except in the humour and such forums) in the form of a question.  People WANT answers, they often just don't want the answers they get. 

If only those people posted who agreed with the OP, or who were nice and diplomatic, the forums would not only be a bland read, but also many questions would go unanswered. 

Yes, sometimes a thread gets hijacked, or insults are hurled back and forth, but that's because not everyone sees every issue the same way.  The reader can make their own decision about what they like.

And if someone can't handle being disagreed with, they should not post anything on a discussion board.

That's my opinion, disagree, agree, insult me.  Actually, just insult me, I tend to like that.

Yours,


benji

PS:  After posting, I noticed this is in the ask a Mistress forum. I'm not a Mistress, but that scroller just makes me not read where it is.  I stand by my opinion though, but apologise to all Mistresses whose thread I have invaded

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RE: GDG: On mutual respect - 4/11/2006 1:26:56 PM   
subapplicant


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Fair enough. I know that if I put my thoughts out, and bear the slings and arrows when they do come back.

And..of course..give as good as I get.

One of my posts was like a personal ad? Really? Shocking! I admit it is out of place on site that is devoted to personal ads. What was I thinking?

I am responding mostly to one poster who wrote about and dissected my posts, to my eyes, with an amazing level of detail and criticism.

Sheesh. All I wanted to do was to post something that let people know who i am, at least a small facet. And am I guilty of trying to attract somone as a side benefit?

Damn. You got me!

Appreciate the post. Truly. It means that people take it seriously. Which is important.

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RE: GDG: On mutual respect - 4/11/2006 1:33:59 PM   
gooddogbenji


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I think you misunderstood me, and now that I reread my post, I can see why.

What I meant is that ANY profile is a personal ad, to some extent, not yours specifically.  It should be accepted as what each person is looking for.

A forum post is throwing information out to the masses, which can and should be criticised.  At the end of the day, it should, as you rightly said, make yourself look attractive to whoever you're trying to attract.  And in the introduce me forum, it can even be blatantly obvious you are trying to find someone via the forums.

Glad I didn't offend you though.  I would hate to see two relative newbies kill each other.

Yours,


benji

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RE: GDG: On mutual respect - 4/11/2006 1:37:02 PM   
subapplicant


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Status: offline 		Thanks, good dog.

Very (very) appreciated.

Now. Go out there and find the Dominant of your dreams!

That's an order!

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RE: GDG: On mutual respect - 4/11/2006 1:39:29 PM   
ShiftedJewel


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quote:

Like you say, if you don't agree with the lifestyle information, or a post, isn't better not to be harshly judgmental, and just to pass by?


I don't see a lot of point in being harshly judgemental for any reason. But then again, I strongly believe in karma...lol

quote:

If only those people posted who agreed with the OP, or who were nice and diplomatic, the forums would not only be a bland read, but also many questions would go unanswered.


I completely agree here, a good debate offers up a lot of information. Granted sometimes some of the information you get is the mindset of someone else.. but it's still a learning experience.

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One of my posts was like a personal ad? Really? Shocking! I admit it is out of place on site that is devoted to personal ads. What was I thinking? 


And I think he was saying that your personal profile was basically an ad, differentiating it from a forum post so the answers would be quite different. I didn't read where he said it in a bad or sarcastic manor.

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PS:  After posting, I noticed this is in the ask a Mistress forum. I'm not a Mistress, but that scroller just makes me not read where it is.  I stand by my opinion though, but apologise to all Mistresses whose thread I have invaded


benji... it's ok to post anyplace here, all opinions are welcome... now...

benji, you've been a bad boy, come 'er and bend over hon.... weg

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RE: GDG: On mutual respect - 4/11/2006 1:43:24 PM   
subapplicant


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Status: offline 		Guilty.

I thought good dog was talking about a post, not a profile. I see that he was drawing a distinction between all profiles and all posts.

gd had no sarcasm in his post. The sarcasm was all mine.

We are not perfect. Especially....

Me!

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RE: GDG: On mutual respect - 4/11/2006 1:53:13 PM   
ShiftedJewel


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quote:

We are not perfect. Especially....

Me!


Oh thank God... I was wondering...lmao...
 
But.............. you are perfect for someone

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RE: GDG: On mutual respect - 4/11/2006 1:54:41 PM   
subapplicant


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Status: offline 		Imao?

"In my..."

Hmmm.

This computer-speak. I know not what it means.

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RE: GDG: On mutual respect - 4/11/2006 1:55:27 PM   
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quote:

benji, you've been a bad boy, come 'er and bend over hon.... weg


Jewel, Ma'am,

Don't tempt me!  Indiana is not that far from Toronto, especially not since the invention of the airplane.

Yours,


benji

PS: I hope the quoty thing works..  First time using it....

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RE: GDG: On mutual respect - 4/11/2006 1:57:33 PM   
subapplicant


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Status: offline 		How does one use that "quoty" thingy...whichamacallity...thing.

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RE: GDG: On mutual respect - 4/11/2006 1:57:34 PM   
gooddogbenji


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Status: offline 		Could that have been LMAO?

Laugh my butt off?

Yours,


benji

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RE: GDG: On mutual respect - 4/11/2006 1:58:44 PM   
subapplicant


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Status: offline 		LMBO?

Now I'm totally confused.

You want to limbo?

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RE: GDG: On mutual respect - 4/11/2006 2:00:28 PM   
gooddogbenji


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Status: offline 		Butt, as opposed to ass...  I forget whether we're allowed to swear or not.

Yours,


benji

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RE: GDG: On mutual respect - 4/11/2006 2:02:36 PM   
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Status: offline 		Yoohoo! Moderator! benji said "ass"!

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RE: GDG: On mutual respect - 4/11/2006 2:08:04 PM   
ShiftedJewel


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quote:

How does one use that "quoty" thingy...whichamacallity...thing.


You copy what you want to post, then hit reply, when the window pops up you click on the little balloon looking thing next to the spell checker and paste what you copied between the quote codes.

quote:

Could that have been LMAO?

Laugh my butt off?

Yours,


benji 


quote:

  LMBO?

Now I'm totally confused.

You want to limbo?


quote:

Butt, as opposed to ass...  I forget whether we're allowed to swear or not.

Yours,


benji  


quote:

Yoohoo! Moderator! benji said "ass"! 


Lordy... it would be a blast to get the two of you together... personally I could have more fun then one human being should be allowed....
 
laughing my ass off

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RE: GDG: On mutual respect - 4/11/2006 2:10:26 PM   
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quote:

laughing my ass off


Apparently, we are allowed to swear.  Take that!

Yours,


benji

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RE: GDG: On mutual respect - 4/11/2006 2:14:23 PM   
MistressLorelei


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Status: offline 		I do not like to be rude, nor do I like to see it anywhere.  However, I am reality-based enough to know that rudeness can be found here, there, and everyhere.  I also recognize that some here tend to purposely (in My opinion) phrase things with a tone which causes the reader to want to react negatively.  Some thrive on confrontation.

Most people here, even when in disagreement can do so with tact, others can't.  It's a public  forum, you will find a little bit of everything.

In regards, subapplicant to the recent posts which you have found to be problematic, It seems to Me you are trying a little too hard to get attention, though you do seem to be getting it,  even if more negative than perhaps you desire.  I have no problem with anyone  (including you) over-trying or seeking attention, just sometimes I might tend to wonder why. 




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