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What Does a slave look for in a Master - 4/11/2006 1:29:51 PM   
Trainer3867


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Status: offline 		Ok, I have been on here and other sites with out much success, I am looking for eventual LTR 24/7 the whole thing complete 24/7 Master/slave. I want to take it in stages; email to IM to phone to temp collaring (trail training period) to full collaring 24/7 live together as Master/slave permanent. I see a lot of women that say that they want the same thing. I email them send a picture since I don’t post one for professional reasons. I never here back from any one. Never had a chance to talk, get to know or even see if we are a match or not. I know that subs and slaves get email bombed by the players.   What is it that you need to get the ball rolling to chat and see how W/we connect?
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RE: What Does a slave look for in a Master - 4/11/2006 2:05:28 PM   
darklilwolf


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Status: offline 		lowers her eyes and smiles, well this one cant speak for everyone, but in this one opion dont come off to strong in the relashionship aspect, be casual and soft handed, but be as much Dom, if it makes any sence. i know for this onethat gental yet fim with the mistierious in a Master is a real turn on. other then that this one is not sure what els to tell you Sir other then be patiant the right one for you will come along with great respect.

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RE: What Does a slave look for in a Master - 4/11/2006 2:20:13 PM   
mylittlesub


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Status: offline 		Unfortunately I don't think there is any "classic" response to your question.  With the volume of people exposed to the lifestyle on the Internet over the last few years, sadly respect and common courtesies like a "thanks, but no thanks" are sorely lacking. 

However, assuming that you are interested in meeting or chatting further with a submissive/slave who has posted their profile as being available and seeking a new Dominant or Master, I would suggest that presenting yourself as gentlemanly, courteous, and gracious in sending a message of introduction to them.  I would also dare to offer that perhaps sending said message without an attached picture will allow you to filter out those who may be so immature as to base their choices on someone's appearance, rather than on the Man you may prove to be.  It's not at all unusual for many submissives to be inadvertently influenced by a photo, whereas with a message perhaps they will be challenged to begin thinking deeper than mere physical appearance.  Unless of course, they themselves are Barbie, and then perhaps they can afford to be a bit more choosy... *grin*

Good luck to you in your search - its never easy when you are 'seeking' that special someone, but patience really does pay off.


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RE: What Does a slave look for in a Master - 4/11/2006 3:14:23 PM   
littleone35


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Status: offline 		I am not a slave i am a sub but what i was looking for in a Master is kindness and gentleness but also firm.  A sense of humor and intellegince is very important.

Matt's littleone

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RE: What Does a slave look for in a Master - 4/11/2006 3:41:28 PM   
ladychatterley


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Status: offline 		I really appreciate it when men take the time to respond about things that aren't sexual.  I'm looking for someone who can relate to me on an intellectual level and common values as well as a sexual one.  I mean other things too, but I list those (local, age, etc.)   However, my headline screams out "intellectual--liberal."  It isn't at all subtle.  I would say look at what her ad mentions first, glance at her "can't live without it"s.  Anytime someone has read my profile and can comment on a common interest, that really, really stands out.

For me, I'm looking for a relationship, and that includes a lot more than kinky sex--I want to know that I will have someone to talk to about things that matter to me. 

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RE: What Does a slave look for in a Master - 4/11/2006 6:22:20 PM   
kisshou


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Status: offline 		Why are you limiting yourself to only getting involved with someone you met from online?

Also I think your choice of nickname makes you sound like you are looking for a temporary relationship.

I personally think you should change your nickname to MrWood ( a little play on words there, with you being an expert wood worker)

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RE: What Does a slave look for in a Master - 4/12/2006 11:38:05 AM   
acctonthelook


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Trainer3867

Ok, I have been on here and other sites with out much success, I am looking for eventual LTR 24/7 the whole thing complete 24/7 Master/slave. I want to take it in stages; email to IM to phone to temp collaring (trail training period) to full collaring 24/7 live together as Master/slave permanent. I see a lot of women that say that they want the same thing.

I never here back from any one. Never had a chance to talk, get to know or even see if we are a match or not.

What is it that you need to get the ball rolling to chat and see how W/we connect?


Suggestion:  Use the above that I underlined only, which comes across to me much more clearly and less demanding than your profile.  Your profile is clear that you will strip every ounze of the person, in the first part of what you want. Only at the ending do you even mention a person that can debate with you is someone you'd enjoy.
 
If I was reviewing your profile, I would not have continued pass the first section!  I am a person with feelings thoughts, desires.  It's absolutely impractical to think most women would become your doormat at first light. 
 
I had been emailing with very intelligent and successful Dom.  One day he wrote back saying the exact same things.  Strip my mind, my possessions only to serve him. I declined further emailing and wished him luck.
 
Sorry for most woman, that just doesn't work or sit well upfront without developing it over time.  For many Dom's they don't seem to want a robot, door mat, live in free labor/service right off the bat (or if ever), coming right out of the gate, so to speak.  That is clearly what your profile is saying you want.  Me personally, I would not concede to such a man or respond to an email coming from a man with that type of profile. 
 
Maybe you are a little harsh, maybe tone it down in your profile.  Keep it simple for now.  Pay attention to others needs, it's not always just about you.
 
I did have 24/7 in my profile and a Dom friend said I should probably remove it because I was too new and did not understand what that really meant.  He told me I was not ready for that sort of D/s or M/s.  He was right!  After reading posts and hearing everyone discuss it, it is nor will it ever be something I can relate to.  That's me though.  What I'm saying is that, even though a woman's profile says it doesn't always mean she 'knows' what it means.

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RE: What Does a slave look for in a Master - 4/12/2006 12:09:11 PM   
doggyon


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Status: offline 		he looks for how to teal his master's money

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RE: What Does a slave look for in a Master - 4/12/2006 10:45:24 PM   
passion513


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Status: offline 		Understanding, willing to share his knowledge to expand their slave/sub's knowledge base. Knows when she needs TLC more than a beating..Knows what she needs before she needs it. Love, cherish, protect. Always  Always does what he says .honesty. You have to have all of the before to develop the Trust for a great relationship. Once you get one little niggle of doubt..you have to either start all over again, or walk away.

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RE: What Does a slave look for in a Master - 4/12/2006 10:57:10 PM   
cariad


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Status: offline 		what girl looks for in a Master is the following:
  1. Good Communication Skills
  2. Loving
  3. Understanding
  4. Being Non-Judgemental
  5. Caring
  6. Willingness to Listen to His slave/sub
  7. Guidance
  8. Protection
  9. Honesty
  10. Trust
  11. Willingness to help His slave/sub grow
  12. Making sure His slave/sub gets rest when she needs it
  13. Is He going to hold His slave/sub when she needs it?
  14. How strict is He?
  15. What will He do with a slave/sub who is disrespectful? (what types of punishment?)
  16. What types of punishment does He prefer?
  17. Ability to keep promises
  18. Willingness to learn along side His sub/slave
  19. Does He have references?
  20. If so, is He willing to give you the references?
  21. How long has He been a Dom/Master?
  22. Does He believe in safe words?
  23. Does He believe in safe signals when words can not be used?
  24. Is He willing to meet in a public place?
  25. Does He believe in safe calls ?

now these are just general questions girl asks/seeks in a Master while she is searching.

in fact if girl could paste her list of questions she would......lol

girl is lucky so far because she has spoken with a Dom whom she is hoping to go see soon and He agreed to speak to girl's Protector/Mentor, and also has agreed to girl making her safe calls, in fact He insisted on it.

hope this helps you a bit and please let us know how things go. 

as passion said "Once you get the least little feeling of doubt, you either start again or walk away."

Blessed Be

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RE: What Does a slave look for in a Master - 4/13/2006 2:51:26 AM   
doves


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Status: offline 		i agree with cariad ... but i also look for consistency ...

Mean what You say, and say what You mean.

i have an excellant memory, so if i happen to be talking with someone, and they lie, or back track, i notice.  

Having a good memory has been, at times, the bane of my life.. but its also saved me a lot of heartache over the years.

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RE: What Does a slave look for in a Master - 4/17/2006 6:50:06 AM   
Trainer3867


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Status: offline 		I thank you for your all your advice. A lot of good ideas

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RE: What Does a slave look for in a Master - 4/17/2006 8:47:32 PM   
TemptingNviceSub


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Status: offline 		Have to agree that your s/n leads one to believe that you are more in the capacity of trainer or mentor at first sight...also personally..I wish for any Dominant that I would want to be with that he first desires me as a person with feelings,intellect (or lack of..grin)the whole ditzy, clumsy package of me then desire the submissive me..I do not wish to be considered simply on the basis of me submissive, that would make it that any jane,ethel,or ashley sub would do just as well...Tempting

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RE: What Does a slave look for in a Master - 4/18/2006 4:01:07 AM   
CanadianGuy


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Status: offline 		I think a lot of submissives look for a dominant who doesn't need to ask other submissives how he should go about getting himself a submissive.

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RE: What Does a slave look for in a Master - 4/18/2006 6:24:20 AM   
unquenchable


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Status: offline 		Trainer3867,

Instead of stating what I may be looking for, I will tell you what I am not.....

I am not looking for someone whos whole profile mentions the word "training"...I don't need to be trained into anything.

Also...'no limits'... I truly hope that every human being on the face of the earth has limits.  Maybe they are something to push but only a strong relationship can do that.

Maybe if you first try to look at a submissive as a person and not an object you will get more responses.

Best of luck.
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RE: What Does a slave look for in a Master - 4/18/2006 7:03:11 AM   
BeingChewsie


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quote:

ORIGINAL: CanadianGuy

I think a lot of submissives look for a dominant who doesn't need to ask other submissives how he should go about getting himself a submissive.


Ya think? I'll go out on that limb with you and agree.

Anyway to the OP:
Be dominant
Be consistent
Be decisive
Be direct
Be honest
Did I mention be dominant?

Good luck.

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RE: What Does a slave look for in a Master - 4/18/2006 7:30:57 AM   
subprostration


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Status: offline 		Actually I am glad he asked the question. Being new to the site but not to the scene if we can change one persons idea of how to apprroach us like humans I say it's a good thing. Since I am new I am being bombarded by some of the rudest people and they also think that they are the only ones that I have email from it takes time to respond to eery email and some get downright beligerent if you don't email them back the minute they click the send button. It tickles me that when a guy (I do not throw Dom and Master around loosely) gets no response to his email after he tells you all the harsh things he will do to you, then you become a non submissve or wannabe. 

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RE: What Does a slave look for in a Master - 4/21/2006 5:26:00 PM   
Level


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quote:

ORIGINAL: CanadianGuy

I think a lot of submissives look for a dominant who doesn't need to ask other submissives how he should go about getting himself a submissive.


I would prefer to see someone ask genuine questions than flounder around in the dark. Being a dominant does not mean you know everything.
 
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RE: What Does a slave look for in a Master - 5/2/2006 10:23:37 AM   
MsRachelxxx


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quote:

Actually I am glad he asked the question. Being new to the site but not to the scene if we can change one persons idea of how to apprroach us like humans I say it's a good thing. Since I am new I am being bombarded by some of the rudest people and they also think that they are the only ones that I have email from it takes time to respond to eery email and some get downright beligerent if you don't email them back the minute they click the send button. It tickles me that when a guy (I do not throw Dom and Master around loosely) gets no response to his email after he tells you all the harsh things he will do to you, then you become a non submissve or wannabe. subprostration



Sooooo, very, very true.....................in my experience anyway.....LOL

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RE: What Does a slave look for in a Master - 5/2/2006 5:13:35 PM   
CrappyDom


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Status: offline 		I hope they look for the kind of red flags your post is full of and run like hell.  Sadly, most don't know any better and fall for crap like this.

And people wonder why I rail against "training"...

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