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advice! - 6/10/2010 9:26:42 PM

cuckold4femme

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Can anyone recommdend a how to site that i can recommend to my girlfriend. I want to introduce her to female supremacy, but i dont want to scare her. are there any sites you would suggest that i could pass on to her to show what my interests are and how to achieve this lifestyle?

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RE: advice! - 6/10/2010 9:33:06 PM

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Sit down with her and talk.

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RE: advice! - 6/10/2010 9:34:04 PM

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You need a site to talk to your girlfriend about YOUR interests?

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RE: advice! - 6/10/2010 10:07:26 PM

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No no no no no!!!!

FFS, showing her some website is not the right way to go. You need to be there to ease her into this.

Just tell her things like, "I'd like to do something special for you tonight. What would you like?" Etc. Get her used to your submission a little at a tie.

And assuming that cuckolding is a fantasy based on your screen name, get used to the fact that 99% of women will not do that. Even Dommes.

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RE: advice! - 6/11/2010 7:35:42 AM

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I totally agree with what's been said. If she's not asked about being shown some sites for her to further her dominant side then there's no point going down that road. You need to ease her into it, just like DarkSteven has said. If she then expresses a wish to futher it more then the best site would be Elise Sutton's, but please don't just go and shove it in her face and expect to get a good reaction or you may be disappointed. Good luck with whatever you choose to do anyway.

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RE: advice! - 6/11/2010 9:33:08 AM

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Can anyone recommdend a how to site that i can recommend to my girlfriend. I want to introduce her to female supremacy, but i dont want to scare her. are there any sites you would suggest that i could pass on to her to show what my interests are and how to achieve this lifestyle?

Do you want to introduce her to "female supremacy" or to BDSM/femdom/kink, which are totally different things? Do you want to introduce her to a "female led relationship" - or to some spicy fun and kink in the bedroom only? The first thing you need to figure out is what you are seeking.

The first thing I tell men who are trying to introduce their girlfriend or wife to kink is they have to throw all their fantasies and expectations out the window - for a time - to allow the woman time to explore on her own and at her own pace. I have a section on my web site (see my sig) with a popular series of articles including "Enjoying female dominance" and "the Good Girls Guide to Domination" -- both of them take a different approach than than the typical "how to" articles which focus on the kinky acts or some very ethereal idea of magically turning your relationship into a femdom fantasy land.

My articles are more about how a woman can learn to enjoy and lust for female domination, so the rest follows appropriately and at her pace. I break down what excites many women about having control over her man - not just the 'benefits' (other articles take the approach, "look at what you can get out of having a man submit to you - being pampered and spoiled, having an attentive husband, etc.) - but what is sexy and exciting. I think a great many women can go through the motions of domination and just do it to get to the other end (a husband to leave her alone and stop nagging, a clean house, a bedroom free of drama and turmoil) -- but what I am more into is showing a woman how she can enjoy female dominance and bdsm for HER pleasure.

My theory is that while most sub men want and envision a very kinky lady doing all kinds of erotic acts, most of them would be willing to tone down their wishlist in exchange for a woman that honestly, in her blood, was getting off on his submission. If the couple can meet in the middle that way, she has more chance of learning to enjoy more acts at her own pace, rather than her trying to suffer through the least disgusting acts (in her opinion) to get him to leave her alone.

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RE: advice! - 6/11/2010 7:55:28 PM

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No no no no no!!!!

FFS, showing her some website is not the right way to go. You need to be there to ease her into this.

Just tell her things like, "I'd like to do something special for you tonight. What would you like?" Etc. Get her used to your submission a little at a tie.

And assuming that cuckolding is a fantasy based on your screen name, get used to the fact that 99% of women will not do that. Even Dommes.

Dark Steven...You have such amazing insight into what is REAL.
I wish more men ...(my subs), were like you...realistic, rational, logical.

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RE: advice! - 6/11/2010 8:02:22 PM

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ORIGINAL: cuckold4femme

Can anyone recommdend a how to site that i can recommend to my girlfriend. I want to introduce her to female supremacy, but i dont want to scare her. are there any sites you would suggest that i could pass on to her to show what my interests are and how to achieve this lifestyle?

WHOA!
Firstly is she loves YOU, she isn't going to want a bunch of lovers around.
Cuckolding is further down the road for a newbie.
If you love this woman, and she doesn't want this and you do, you could lose her.
ALWAYS be ready for the consequences of your desires.

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RE: advice! - 6/11/2010 8:35:58 PM

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I wish more men ...(my subs), were like you...realistic, rational, logical.

You forgot to mention "good looking"...

< Message edited by DarkSteven -- 6/11/2010 8:49:17 PM >

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RE: advice! - 6/11/2010 8:45:04 PM

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And so domly! Even with the cookie crumbs on your shirt! ;)

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RE: advice! - 6/11/2010 8:51:09 PM

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It's DS's distinguished silvery-grey whiskers, Lady Hib. Wherever that lad goes, they set the ladies' hearts a-fluttering. We malesubs may as well pack up and go home.

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RE: advice! - 6/11/2010 9:29:20 PM

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Peon, are you fishing for compliments?

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RE: advice! - 6/12/2010 11:52:42 AM

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Of course not. I hate compliments. Only girls like compliments.