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RE: When a Dom falls in love with a Domme -what happens? - 6/13/2010 7:20:56 AM

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God KNOWS what ol SHore brought back from termy's place!

An increased appreciation for central air conditioning

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AIleen is ruined!

To be fair, she had a pretty good running start before I stepped in and destroyed her soul.

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RE: When a Dom falls in love with a Domme -what happens? - 6/13/2010 7:47:40 AM

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And if they ever have kids, then they learn who the real dominant in the family is, and both spend the next 18 years in service (if not longer)

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RE: When a Dom falls in love with a Domme -what happens? - 6/13/2010 8:29:51 AM

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How do Dom / Domme couples function?

They do it in enough ways to make your teeny tiny head explode.

I know one couple where the Master is also the little girl of his slave who is her mommy (lesbians)

I dated one where we just had rough sex and a good bit of daddy energy and were completely private and out of the scene.

People have mentioned all sorts of variations and there are many more than you will ever read here.

YOU JUST DON'T GET THE FUNDAMENTAL TRUTH OF ALL THIS, THERE ARE NO RULES OF HOW TO FORM A HAPPY AND FUNCTIONING RELATIONSHIP

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RE: When a Dom fall in love with a Domme -what happens? - 6/13/2010 12:02:35 PM

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Whatever they want to happen and work to make happen.

This was extremely useful and quite informative answer.

This is the best answer you'll ever recieve.

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RE: When a Dom falls in love with a Domme -what happens? - 6/13/2010 5:00:49 PM

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My Wife is a lifelong Domme and I have always been a Dom, we met, it was love at first sight and we got married thirty years ago. She currently has six very fit young men in her circle and two nice girls and she plays with them all regularly.
We share everything and everybody, in all sorts of ways and it never fails to be great fun. I have two fabulous women who have been playing with me for over twenty years and a very nice young lady who recently married and keeps her fun with us under wraps.
I am the stronger of the two of us and my love accepts that. I rule the roost, but only in the bedroom, outside of that we are complete equals. We never argue over anything or anybody, there is quite enough in the world that we agree on.
It works and it always will because we are painstakingly honest and just never do anything without the other in full agreement.

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RE: When a Dom falls in love with a Domme -what happens? - 6/13/2010 5:18:49 PM

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With Neets and I we are in many ways equal. I will not argue with her seriously in public even if she makes a gawd almighty screw up, she gets my total support and it is later after i have sorted the mess up, we talk about it so she understands the mistakes. I have long accepted she is better than I am in some areas which I have asked her to take charge of. I delegate many areas even for a period to Neets because with me being 65 in August and she being 35, there is an outside chance she'll outlive me and I need to know she can competently handle everything including the finances if I do die (jolly unlikely but someone may just get a luck shot at me one night). All this said I am in a very Victorian sense, am the Master of Bruin Cottage so it is common for Neets to let me know what she did and ask if I am ok with that. Some unenlightened folks have said Neets is more switch. In some aspects the switch tag may be correct but only on rare occasions and more likely in the bed even when we are playing with another, she is likely to be more subby to me then not. 'Tis but part of our boudoir protocol and naught more.

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RE: When a Dom falls in love with a Domme -what happens? - 6/13/2010 5:36:53 PM

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It is a disgusting union. Why would any self respecting man want to be around them type of folks? Look up the word "cunt" and their is a picture of a domme.

Usually it is the union of a Dom and a sub. But the Dom is such a puss that he demands that his sub transform herself into a "domme" thereby allowing them to ensnare more dumb subs into their web of deceipt.

It's hot.

What kind of a self respecting Dom would be attracted to the cunt that is the domme?

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RE: When a Dom falls in love with a Domme -what happens? - 6/13/2010 6:49:54 PM

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ORIGINAL: SocratesNot

How do Dom / Domme couples function?

Do they always need to have some submissives?

Can it be an egalitarian relationship or is one usually owned by the other, despite being a dominant?

In their relationship (not including other people) do they usually switch with each other or stick to vanilla-like dynamics?

Any such couples here who could let me know about their experiences first hand?

I won't speak for everybody here. As a member of what is easiest described as a D/D couple, I'll tell you how it works for us.

In our relationship with each other, we are like any other couple that you would want to meet. There is no power play between us. Neither is in service to the other. There isn't one of us that has authority over the other. We compromise when we don't agree. It literally is 50/50.

The only thing that swings power in the household is who actually has a submissive. Anyone collared to Me is collared to Me alone. My other half doesn't make decisions in regard to My dynamic with clip or anyone else who has been in service to Me. They interact as friends. The orientation doesn't come into it.

In My opinion, if you have a couple that is D/D, but one is actually submissive toward the other, you really have a D/switch couple. Even if the person is only submissive to the spouse, it still counts in My book. That's not what happens in My household, so I'll move on.

As I said in the beginning, it's easiest to call us a D/D couple. A more accurate label would be a M/T (Mistress/Top) couple. I'm a leather/protocol person with more experience in the lifestyle than he has. While he has a Dominant personality, he's never had a submissive of his own. To Me, that doesn't equate a Dominant any more than someone who has never been married is a husband. A huge majority of the topping skills that he has, I've taught him, and he'll gladly admit that. It doesn't change how we interact. It's just an area of life that I have more experience than he does.

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RE: When a Dom falls in love with a Domme -what happens? - 6/16/2010 7:41:37 PM

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It's like when first cousins marry. If they procreate the offspring will look very similiar to the folks waiting at the bus stop on the square in Lancaster, Pa.

I've been to Lancaster... yikes!

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RE: When a Dom falls in love with a Domme -what happens? - 6/16/2010 7:47:26 PM

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It's like when first cousins marry. If they procreate the offspring will look very similiar to the folks waiting at the bus stop on the square in Lancaster, Pa.

I know not of Lancaster, PA, but the implied deformity of body or mind would take several generations to happen and depending on the genes of the original couple could take many many generations.

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