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RE: Newbie seeking advice RE: pro domme - 4/12/2006 5:43:27 PM   
BlkTallFullfig


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ORIGINAL: michaelGA
there's a old addage that states: "those who can, do...those who can't teach" but, in this case it's: those who can, do...those who can't charge by the hour"
Dude!????You really like suffering, and the online spankings.   M

P.S. I should reply to colosubseeking...
I think seeing a pro for your first experiences is an excellent idea...  In fact I think seeing a pro to get your needs met while you look for the right counterpart for you is awesome and proactive of you in your quest for happiness.
I liked your statement
quote:

i know what i would say -- Yes, please, thank you.
Followed by- do you need any yard work done or anything? lol
Shows a service orientation that will make a domina keep you because you're not all about you!.   M


< Message edited by BlkTallFullfig -- 4/12/2006 5:47:03 PM >

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RE: Newbie seeking advice RE: pro domme - 4/12/2006 5:45:18 PM   
michaelGA


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RE: Newbie seeking advice RE: pro domme - 4/12/2006 5:58:41 PM   
colosubseeking


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Status: offline 		i dont really know what got this all started, but can we lay off the flamewar please? i was hoping this would be a nice, peaceful thread where i could get some advice. And to those of y/You that have given advice/opinions, thank y/You for y/Your time, and i appreciate the input. i've pretty much decided that i am not going to cancel my appointment, and i think i will enjoy myself immensely. i'll be as polite and courteous as i can, and do everything i can to impress, but i won't get my hopes up.

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RE: Newbie seeking advice RE: pro domme - 4/12/2006 6:48:08 PM   
stef


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Status: offline 		colosubseeking, you can safely ignore any "advice" Michael gives you. He's a bitter little whiner with absolutely no real world experience.

Go into the encounter with an open mind and no lofty expectations. Let her know where you're coming from (if you haven't already,) have fun and just enjoy the experience. Good luck and please do let us know how it goes.

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RE: Newbie seeking advice RE: pro domme - 4/12/2006 7:15:45 PM   
MsSonnetMarwood


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quote:

i dont really know what got this all started, but can we lay off the flamewar please? i was hoping this would be a nice, peaceful thread where i could get some advice. And to those of y/You that have given advice/opinions, thank y/You for y/Your time, and i appreciate the input. i've pretty much decided that i am not going to cancel my appointment, and i think i will enjoy myself immensely. i'll be as polite and courteous as i can, and do everything i can to impress, but i won't get my hopes up.



Unfortunatley prodommes are a touchy subject on here, and invariably the same crew of male subs (usually with a vanilla wife or girlfriend) who can't find a lifestyle domme (go figure) and have little to no real time experience (no matter how much they profess to hate online) yet are experts on what is "real" and "not real" step in to make sure you know that the big bad prodommes are in fact heartless businesswomen that shouldn't be allowed to exist.

Fortunately there are a lot more enlightened (and often experienced) people around that, whether or not they are pros or would go to pros, acknowledge that there are decent aspects of the profession and that while prodomming is a different beast than being in a lifestyle relationship, it certainly has it's place, fulfills a need, and there are certainly a lot of good prodommes out there.

I think you should keep your appointment and ENJOY yourself.  You should consider that while tipping isn't necessary, it's always appreciated.

Myself, I'm going to go get a pedicure tomorrow.  My pedicurist is obviously a bad person because she expects me to pay for her services so perhaps she's not a real pedicurist because she does this as a profession and is not, I don't believe, a lifestyle pedicurist.  I suppose I could ask her out and see if she would do my pedicures on a lifestyle basis, but I have to be honest, I'm really not ready to commit to one pedicurist.  I also think ultimately that it would probably cost me more to court her than to just pay her for her services, and there's no guarantee that if I was seeing her on a lifestyle basis that I could get the pedicures I want when I want them.

But what the hell, it feels good when she massages my feet, and my toes look great afterwards, so overall I'm not too concerned whether it's a real pedicure or not.

< Message edited by MsSonnetMarwood -- 4/12/2006 7:29:16 PM >

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RE: Newbie seeking advice RE: pro domme - 4/12/2006 7:31:20 PM   
Proprietrix


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quote:

My pedicurist is obviously a bad person because she expects me to pay for her services so perhaps she's not a real pedicurist because she does this as a profession and is not, I don't believe, a lifestyle pedicurist.


I'm going through the same thing with my dentist.
(And I know he's just all about the oral aspect of it anyway!)

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RE: Newbie seeking advice RE: pro domme - 4/12/2006 7:36:02 PM   
michaelGA


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RE: Newbie seeking advice RE: pro domme - 4/12/2006 7:39:57 PM   
MsSonnetMarwood


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ORIGINAL: michaelGA

i sure wouldn't waste my money on some player like he's fixing to do.


Excellent.  I suggest you don't.

Can we assume then you personally have met face to face the prodomme he is planning on seeing and can therefore be qualified to know if she is indeed a player or not?  Should we also assume that your knowledge of what is real and what is not real is based on your many years of real time interaction (NOT online) and real time relationships with those also in the lifestyle?

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RE: Newbie seeking advice RE: pro domme - 4/12/2006 7:45:38 PM   
michaelGA


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RE: Newbie seeking advice RE: pro domme - 4/12/2006 7:48:20 PM   
MistressLorelei


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ORIGINAL: michaelGA

i sure wouldn't waste my money on some player like he's fixing to do.


He will be the one gaining experience and learning about himself and this lifestyle... and you will still be here perfecting your complaining abilities.

Providing a service to people who WANT it is leaching?  Ugh...

Best of luck ColoSub...  

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RE: Newbie seeking advice RE: pro domme - 4/12/2006 7:49:05 PM   
MsSonnetMarwood


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quote:

ORIGINAL: michaelGA

no, but anyone who would leach off of others can't be good.



There are all sorts of leeches out there.  I happen to think that boys who basically want "free sessions" without investing themselves or paying for them to be leeches.

I don't consider my pedicurist a leech because, quite simply, she's providing a service that I want, and I expect to have to pay her to get that service.  She has the equipment and expertise I require to get the pedicure experience when I want, and I want her to be available to service me when I chose for her to do so.

That aside, if one wants others to give weight to their opinions on what is real, not real, etc....perhaps it's best to have some "real" to back it up. Otherwise, said person might come off as just showing sour grapes for something he can't have anyway.

< Message edited by MsSonnetMarwood -- 4/12/2006 7:53:47 PM >

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RE: Newbie seeking advice RE: pro domme - 4/12/2006 8:07:43 PM   
theRose4U


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Status: offline 		Sweet one here's a few suggestions from Denver.

1) there is a little red hand at the lower left of each reply to what you've had to say. It makes the bitter nonsense that michaelga spouts go away ever so quickly.

2) There are a few wonderful Pro-Dommes that I've made aquaintence with and would say that this may be a good way to learn what you like and don't like as far as scening. SOME have even been known to take on clients as their personal boys but this may be setting yourself up for heartache assuming that you'll be the one. Take this on a session by session basis and let it evolve of it's own accord.

3)Make sure that you have a safe call. All you have to tell them is that you're meeting a girl from the internet and you'll call them at x time, if you don't respond they should send the police to the address that you have in a sealed envelope.
Be careful of when you have your check calls, having the police show up on your new Dommes doorstep when you're not dead is bad form.

4) www.coloradobdsm.com is the link for the local munches, meetings, and the like. Hope to meet you sometime.

4) http://www.thunderinthemountains.com/main_frame.htm this is the big event coming up in July. It might be worth volunteering as a way to get to know some people in the area.

Also FYI for anyone else coming in for Thunder please drop me a line on the other side as I'd love to meet you guys in person even if it's just to put a face with the posts.

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RE: Newbie seeking advice RE: pro domme - 4/12/2006 8:11:37 PM   
theRose4U


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ORIGINAL: MsSonnetMarwood
I actually don't think male doms get inundated with emails like women, be they dominant or submissive, do. 


No male Doms fill up our mailboxes because they want to find the "right" Domme to submit too. They're secretly switch and only want to be on their knees for you. How is it that the ones with brand new profiles that read "I'm a dominant man kneel and submit to me", are always the ones that end up in my box wanting to be my nancy boy?

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RE: Newbie seeking advice RE: pro domme - 4/12/2006 8:16:25 PM   
colosubseeking


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Status: offline 		Thank You, theRose4U. i just so happen to be free that weekend, and i think i will volunteer for Thunder. it's about a 20 minute drive for me, and i think i would enjoy it a lot.

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RE: Newbie seeking advice RE: pro domme - 4/12/2006 8:18:47 PM   
MsSonnetMarwood


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ORIGINAL: colosubseeking

Thank You, theRose4U. i just so happen to be free that weekend, and i think i will volunteer for Thunder. it's about a 20 minute drive for me, and i think i would enjoy it a lot.


Excellent idea :-)  Volunteering and getting involved in your local scene is a great way to meet all kinds of people in a positive manner.

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RE: Newbie seeking advice RE: pro domme - 4/12/2006 8:29:31 PM   
theRose4U


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Volunteering and getting involved in your local scene is a great way to meet all kinds of people in a positive manner.


You also never know when your service might catch the eye of the Domme of your dreams.

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RE: Newbie seeking advice RE: pro domme - 4/12/2006 8:31:51 PM   
Jasmyn


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Myself, I'm going to go get a pedicure tomorrow.  My pedicurist is obviously a bad person because she expects me to pay for her services so perhaps she's not a real pedicurist because she does this as a profession and is not, I don't believe, a lifestyle pedicurist.  I suppose I could ask her out and see if she would do my pedicures on a lifestyle basis, but I have to be honest, I'm really not ready to commit to one pedicurist.  I also think ultimately that it would probably cost me more to court her than to just pay her for her services, and there's no guarantee that if I was seeing her on a lifestyle basis that I could get the pedicures I want when I want them.

But what the hell, it feels good when she massages my feet, and my toes look great afterwards, so overall I'm not too concerned whether it's a real pedicure or not.

 
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RE: Newbie seeking advice RE: pro domme - 4/12/2006 8:34:31 PM   
cloudboy


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Now that's the spirit!! But please be careful of that peskly TOS, you never know when the nuns will wrap your knuckles citing:

>4.3.(8) Insults to other persons or companies, including but not limited to: material that is threatening, harassing, libelous or in any way a violation of intellectual property laws.<

Don't worry, you have my support (O and that counts of a lot) because I think "the truth" although unpleasant, is best heard and spoken aloud.


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RE: Newbie seeking advice RE: pro domme - 4/12/2006 8:58:59 PM   
colosubseeking


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Status: offline 		Well, i guess i should have read the fine print more carefully first, but apparently Thunder is only open to people 21 and over, and i'm 20 . Unless they are willing to make an exception, i may have to wait until next year....

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RE: Newbie seeking advice RE: pro domme - 4/12/2006 9:00:13 PM   
stef


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ORIGINAL: MsSonnetMarwood

Myself, I'm going to go get a pedicure tomorrow.  My pedicurist is obviously a bad person because she expects me to pay for her services so perhaps she's not a real pedicurist because she does this as a profession and is not, I don't believe, a lifestyle pedicurist.

How can you condone such an activity by wasting your money on a player like that?  Anyone who would leach off of others like that can't be good.  If you're only interested in the "technical" aspects of the pedicurist lifestyle it might be ok, but you lose the emotional and personable aspects of the lifestyle. There's no "REAL" emotional connection there.

~stef

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