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RE: Why Boast - 6/15/2010 10:43:29 AM

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not getting defensive..... I'm enjoying your post with a friend. And we agree with you. Just didn't want anyone else to think I was speaking of giving up ones right. That's not even a thought in this ones mind. And I appreciate your response. It's interesting to read others thoughts on topics discussed on these message boards.

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RE: Why Boast - 6/15/2010 10:44:41 AM

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You are amazing.

Do you know what the word "amazing" even means?

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RE: Why Boast - 6/15/2010 11:01:20 AM

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They know what you mean...your words were just fine. I’ll bet every poster on this thread has faced your question at some time in their lives.

Some are so alone in this world that their actions have no repercussions on those around them. Others are look at me people…some are so messed up they want to push their lifestyle in everyone’s faces and say fuck the world if you don‘t like it.

Most well adjusted people don’t want their private lives the talk of the town. Just as the average vanilla couple don’t broadcast their sex lives. If anyone asks me I tell them it is private and not for discussion.

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RE: Why Boast - 6/15/2010 11:06:49 AM

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Most well adjusted people don’t want their private lives the talk of the town. Just as the average vanilla couple don’t broadcast their sex lives. If anyone asks me I tell them it is private and not for discussion.

And I think this is the point I find fascinating. The average, well adjusted vanilla couple DOES broadcast their marriage and the state of being married is not generally a private thing for most well adjusted vanilla couples. It is in exactly that sense that Carol is my slave and I treat it accordingly but with a bit of sensitivity to other people's sensibilities. If I thought of it as being similar to our sex lives, then nobody would know anything.

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RE: Why Boast - 6/15/2010 1:39:51 PM

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From what I gather...marriage is a form of boasting,... collaring ceremonies is a form of boasting... and that's all great. Adults that enter into a binding relationship is all great. And USUALLY one guesses that the couple binding to each other are sexually active. I DO NOT see anyone asking the binding couple how they have sex.. if they have sex.....etc...

A couple of weeks ago I met a man at the mall. Introduced to me by my younger daughter. I smiled shook his hand and he blurted out right off the bat.. I"M GAY. And within 5 minutes was explaining to me about how he could tongue a gal to orgasim. Of course he asked me if I was impressed to which I replied... not in the least. Then he went into how he swung both ways. His boasting turned into a joke to me. And this is was when I really wondered about how or why some feel it nessasary to bellow out their private life style.

kdsub.... interesting post. Thank you.

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RE: Why Boast - 6/15/2010 1:55:54 PM

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From what I gather...marriage is a form of boasting,... collaring ceremonies is a form of boasting...

And what I find telling is that for YOU, YOUR interpretation is that it's all about boasting. It is not for me. It is not for others. So that begs the question, why do you see it in this light and at least some others do not? It's not that I'm obtuse. I can certainly see that in some sense, ANYTHING we do in a social sense is boasting... advertising some condition or another about ourselves to others. But honestly, I don't process my day-to-day reality in terms of how much I'm impressing other people. Other people's opinions don't matter that much to me. I've always assumed my goings on don't really matter that much to other people.

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RE: Why Boast - 6/15/2010 3:00:04 PM

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ORIGINAL: truesub4u

From what I gather...marriage is a form of boasting,... collaring ceremonies is a form of boasting... and that's all great. Adults that enter into a binding relationship is all great. And USUALLY one guesses that the couple binding to each other are sexually active. I DO NOT see anyone asking the binding couple how they have sex.. if they have sex.....etc...

A couple of weeks ago I met a man at the mall. Introduced to me by my younger daughter. I smiled shook his hand and he blurted out right off the bat.. I"M GAY. And within 5 minutes was explaining to me about how he could tongue a gal to orgasim. Of course he asked me if I was impressed to which I replied... not in the least. Then he went into how he swung both ways. His boasting turned into a joke to me. And this is was when I really wondered about how or why some feel it nessasary to bellow out their private life style.

kdsub.... interesting post. Thank you.

I think we see it differently. What you're calling boasting, I'm calling sharing My happiness with others. Very much the same way that I enjoy it when they share their happiness with Me. While I realize that not everyone feels the same way about it, I'm genuinely happy when good things happen to other people. (Very good thread on that concept a while back.) To use Jeff there as an example, when he posts something that is positive in his relationship, I'm happy for him. When he posts that he has an area that he's struggling with, I have empathy for him and hope he and Carol get through their rough patch.

The guy you met at the mall may have been boasting. Not everybody on the planet has class. Plus, I don't really see that as an example of sharing joy with you, so it's kind of hard to compare his supposed sexual talent to someone who is getting married.

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RE: Why Boast - 6/15/2010 3:03:56 PM

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Yeah... see... boasting is like this...

Carol is a WAY better slave than you LP

*chuckles*

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RE: Why Boast - 6/15/2010 3:09:39 PM

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That's not boasting. That's fact. I don't even attempt to hide it. I'd make a lousy submissive and an even worse slave.

I've seen the job. I don't want it.

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RE: Why Boast - 6/15/2010 3:42:16 PM

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That's not boasting. That's fact. I don't even attempt to hide it. I'd make a lousy submissive and an even worse slave.

I've seen the job. I don't want it.

perhaps for many of us, regardless of original intent, "boasting" is in the "eyes of the beholder", que no?

for instance, using LadyPact's response as an example...she has absolutely nothing invested in being a submissive or slave, so the comment by Jeff that Carol is a way better slave than she is, isn't perceived as a boast (even if that was his intent)...but as a statement of facts.

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Just curious as to others thoughts on this...

To the OP:
this slave is of the mind that if one's submission is only during sexual relations, perhaps maybe one should have some discretion as to who they share that with...seeing as there are many for whom any sort of talk about sex is offensive, depending on your family and circle of friends...however, if submissive is who you are and not just what you do during sex, then this slave interprets it as merely a statement of facts, not TMI.

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RE: Why Boast - 6/15/2010 4:44:36 PM

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for instance, using LadyPact's response as an example...she has absolutely nothing invested in being a submissive or slave, so the comment by Jeff that Carol is a way better slave than she is, isn't perceived as a boast (even if that was his intent)...but as a statement of facts.[/color]

Oh it definitely was a boast. I finally figured out that I can win the "who's the best slave" competition if I pick the comparison point carefully *laughs*

I win at discussion boards

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RE: Why Boast - 6/15/2010 11:57:52 PM

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I was going to respond to Mercnbeth's posting but changed my mind.

And i'll make this my last post on the subject.

I asked a simple question. And just wondered about other persons thoughts, ON THE TOPIC... not what others people thought of MY thoughts.

The question was... what do YOU think of boasting..... not what do you think of MY THOUGHTS on boasting.

But thanks for playing anyways.

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RE: Why Boast - 6/16/2010 12:19:42 AM

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Sadly

I

Do not have anything to boast

about - (

Kick me out of the club,

I'll only crash it later - )

quote:

I was going to respond to Mercnbeth's posting but changed my mind.

And i'll make this my last post on the subject.

I asked a simple question. And just wondered about other persons thoughts, ON THE TOPIC... not what others people thought of MY thoughts.

The question was... what do YOU think of boasting..... not what do you think of MY THOUGHTS on boasting.

But thanks for playing anyways.

Would of been much simpler to say

You're Fired

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