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RE: Is Sexual Preference a Function of Vision? - 6/16/2010 3:06:49 PM   
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do you think you could identify the one same sex 'assailant'?
No assuming obvious care was taken to avoid contact with hairy thighs, etc. I'm not quite sure what the purpose of the question is though. I readily acknowledge that with enough sensory deprivation I cannot tell male from female. I readily acknowledge that in such a circumstance, and assuming that whole "emotional intimacy" thing was resolved somehow, I might easily get pleasure from both men and women. But that wouldn't actually change my predilection for partnering with women rather than men and then preferring to have sex with my partner over strangers.

Now, here's one to make your head hurt. When you take a look at mixed reality environments like Secondlife (which I do with more than just the passing interest of a participant), you see lots of interesting insights into how humans actually work because a great many real life restrictions are removed. We all know, for instance, that a significant number of males choose to use female avatars... sometimes part time and sometimes full-time. Now take a look at the fact that some of those female avatars prefer sex with other female avatars. So this clearly indicates that the male player's orientation is towards women. But what about the straight males who play female avatars that orient on male avatars? Now what we're seeing is an orientation towards heterosexuality regardless of gender.

I LOVE mixed reality environments like SecondLife specifically because you can see things like that.

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RE: Is Sexual Preference a Function of Vision? - 6/16/2010 3:22:58 PM   
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It has everything and completely to do with gender for me. If it's not a man I find attractive and who knows how I operate, then it will do absolutely nothing for me.

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RE: Is Sexual Preference a Function of Vision? - 6/16/2010 3:51:00 PM   
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RE: Is Sexual Preference a Function of Vision? - 6/16/2010 3:51:04 PM   
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If the result was that more favorable sensations were produced by the same gender would you consider changing your confirmed orientation to include a same sex partner without being blindfolded?


Absolutely not, I require far more from my partners than the ability to stimulate my clitoris.

The best oral sex I ever got was from a woman. My husband has no interest in going down on me. And I have absolutely no interest in divorcing the man I love, who is able to stimulate all five senses, and turning lesbian because of their superior clit licking skills.

A cubic inch of flesh doesn't dominate my decision making skills I'm afraid.

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RE: Is Sexual Preference a Function of Vision? - 6/16/2010 3:57:05 PM   
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Status: offline 		I'd have to pass on the Pepsi Challenge for a number of reasons, and it just ain't about sexual preference a function of vision. Mind you vision plays a big part in it. The visual is not a matter of beauty being in the eye of the beholder, it also involves being able to read body language. This might sound lame but the sound of a voice and little sounds being made play a role in things as well.

Needless to say, It ain't centered around touchy feely for me, because if it were well then gender would not make a difference to me, along with how attractive or unattractive somebody is. Hell, I would be one of those guys that would literally screw any hole, including holes in trees. LOL

There's a certain flow/bond of mental energy that really get's me off as well. Something that the Pepsi Challenge is well... void of or lacking. The visual and audiable communication going on makes a big difference.

I'd much rather get off on socializing with a group of lesbians at a bar somewhere, that would be way more thrilling and freeing to my soul.

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RE: Is Sexual Preference a Function of Vision? - 6/16/2010 4:03:09 PM   
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There's a certain flow/bond of mental energy that really get's me off as well. Something that the Pepsi Challenge is well... void of or lacking. The visual and audiable communication going on makes a big difference.


Exactly!

To be honest I don't think I could even enjoy oral sex if I were in a room full of people staring at me waiting to see if I would come.

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RE: Is Sexual Preference a Function of Vision? - 6/16/2010 4:05:22 PM   
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ORIGINAL: littlewonder

I've been blindfolded and had women touch me but even not being able to see them I could still tell it was a female; their touch, smell, the "air" around them. It still did zero for me. I still hated every single bit of it. This notion that another female can best pleasure a female imo is total bunk.

It has everything and completely to do with gender for me.


i am with you 100% here. females absolutely give off a "vibe" which is detectable (to me anyway no matter how blindfolded or otherwise sensory-deprived i may be. call it a female aura if you will...i am completely incapable of being sexually aroused if i sense however minutely the aura of another female. another female actually touching me sexually?!?! i would absolutely be able to tell and i wouldn't just be unaroused, i would be physically repulsed.

likewise i believe we give off vibes based on our particular sexuality...homo, hetero, bi or somewhere else along the continuum. for instance my Master tells me he has always been able to sense...actually physically sense...homosexuality in females. He says that he cannot describe it, except to say that it's a distance and dead energy between him and that female, even if they happen to get along great. i myself have felt this same sense when around homosexual males. vision and other superficial senses have nothing to do with it.


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RE: Is Sexual Preference a Function of Vision? - 6/16/2010 4:26:27 PM   
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If sexual preference is a function of vision, maybe the fact that I'm legally blind without my glasses is the explanation for my bisexuality.

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RE: Is Sexual Preference a Function of Vision? - 6/16/2010 4:33:39 PM   
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Great!  Who's bottoming?

Silly question. The real question is..... how many will be bottoming?


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RE: Is Sexual Preference a Function of Vision? - 6/16/2010 4:35:09 PM   
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Silly question. The real question is..... how many will be bottoming?


In other words, I should count you in?


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RE: Is Sexual Preference a Function of Vision? - 6/16/2010 4:50:59 PM   
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In other words, I should count you in?

Of course..... just not for the "pepsi challenge"


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RE: Is Sexual Preference a Function of Vision? - 6/16/2010 4:53:04 PM   
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RE: Is Sexual Preference a Function of Vision? - 6/16/2010 4:55:19 PM   
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Have a coke (some wax) and a smile.

As long as it is before 10PM..... although I doubt I will match the 'orgy noises' previously mentioned (and heard by the neighbors)


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RE: Is Sexual Preference a Function of Vision? - 6/16/2010 5:12:58 PM   
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RE: Is Sexual Preference a Function of Vision? - 6/16/2010 5:19:02 PM   
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As much as I adore DCNovice. I sadly would not let him blow me.

I think he will get over that.


It'll take time and skilled therapy, but I'm sure the healing will come.

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RE: Is Sexual Preference a Function of Vision? - 6/16/2010 5:22:36 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth


If the result was that more favorable sensations were produced by the same gender would you consider changing your confirmed orientation to include a same sex partner without being blindfolded?



The flaw in the "challenge" is that typically, partners do things to EACH OTHER. Your experiment is interesting, but the result you are looking for asks for a conclusion where the person would then enjoy doing things TO someone of their same gender.

Kind of like you might pick your nose, but do you want to pick someone else's nose? Just because it is possible to experience great enjoyment from someone of the same sex performing oral sex on you, doesn't mean that you want to perform oral sex on someone else.

For instance Merc...you admit you would be open to trying the experiment. Do you believe that because you might find a blow job from a guy out of this world, that you would then consider sucking dick? All things just aren't equal in that scenario, are they?

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RE: Is Sexual Preference a Function of Vision? - 6/16/2010 6:40:24 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth
FORCED, strapped non-consentually to a chair, blindfolded, suffering from the oral/manual manipulation of 5 unknown assailants, 4 of the opposite sex and one the same sex as you; with the life of your monogomous, intimate, non-casual, life-mate on the line based upon your ability - do you think you could identify the one same sex 'assailant'?


I've been co-topped in BDSM ways while I was hooded or blindfolded, and could almost always tell which one was touching or hitting me. Plus, there are clues such as scent, women's hands are generally smaller and their skin is usually smoother, etc. I wouldn't care which gender they were, except for the outcome for my partner. Once I was freed, I would go to the police and have all 5 charged with sexual assault, if they could be identified. I'm not sure what additional charges would be applicable to the one who had made the threats.

I'm heteroflexible, and open to having a girlfriend in the right circumstances, but not casual sex. I'm ok with casual BDSM play, and have been tying up and thwacking my femsub playpartner occasionally for a few months. If I did find a girlfriend, and it turned out I didn't enjoy sex with her, I still wouldn't rule out the possibility of a different woman. Someone else might be more skilled or have more chemistry with me. Back to the vision aspect, but leaving gender out, someone might be willing to have sex with or do BDSM play with someone they thought was ugly or just not especially attractive, but not want a relationship with that person. I think that's fairly common, actually, especially if they are a bit desperate or drunk. It works the other way around as well, some people look great and are good in bed, but just not relationship material for whatever reason. I don't see why someone would be likely to have a relationship with someone just because they had good oral skills, if they otherwise were a poor match (for gender or any other reason).

Lafayette Lady, I know several gay men who will only "give" or only "get," and some who will do oral but not anal. I think it's less common in lesbian relationships, but does occasionally happen. If it works for the people involved, it's all good.

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RE: Is Sexual Preference a Function of Vision? - 6/16/2010 7:39:42 PM   
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Certainly makes for a good Meet & Greet or just a getting to know you guys.  

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RE: Is Sexual Preference a Function of Vision? - 6/16/2010 8:08:22 PM   
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I really do not enjoy oral sex. I am willing to be that I would dislike it equally from either gender.

But how do you exclude SCENT?

Fun idea!

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RE: Is Sexual Preference a Function of Vision? - 6/16/2010 11:37:46 PM   
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Kind of like you might pick your nose, but do you want to pick someone else's nose? Just because it is possible to experience great enjoyment from someone of the same sex performing oral sex on you, doesn't mean that you want to perform oral sex on someone else.


Soooo true.

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