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Could I get some more general advice? - 6/18/2010 11:03:32 AM

NewDomCouple87

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I tried to find some other advice threads first, but it seemed like every thread was more interested in specific situations or directly related to a D/s relationship dynamic.

My wife and I are new to this scene and have only experienced any play with each other and one other. We're finally decided on bringing our Dominant desires to the forefront but are a little naive on where to start.

Is there any advice you could give us, not on the specifics of our engagement with a potential sub, but on interacting with the community. More specifically, finding local members of the community and getting to know them without seeming too ignorant or rude.

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RE: Could I get some more general advice? - 6/18/2010 11:09:50 AM

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I did a quick search on bdsm Louisiana

links
and more links .... if you look towards the bottom of that list there is a link to the TNG group which is for younger bdsm'ers

All the best in your new journey together

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RE: Could I get some more general advice? - 6/18/2010 11:11:48 AM

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go thru the enter, and slosh around until you get the meet people button to the left and look for groups and munches in your area of the bayou........you will find a wealth of info at them, usually, for damn near everything, even situations like this.

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RE: Could I get some more general advice? - 6/18/2010 11:24:00 AM

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Thank you very much. I'll give those a look through.

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RE: Could I get some more general advice? - 6/18/2010 10:52:09 PM

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You are going to be moving overseas in a month or so. You will also be having a baby soon. They are both very stressful times of anyone's life. I would suggest that you give up trying to add a submissive to you family until AFTER you are settled in your new place and AFTER the baby is born and into a routine. You have NO idea how busy and exhausted you will be.

Once your life is stable you will have plenty of time to seek that submissive.

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RE: Could I get some more general advice? - 6/19/2010 3:45:40 AM

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I agree with peppermint u have two trying time ahead either has stress many people out beyond limits, and taking on a subbie is not like shoping at store for a dog or cat, u have to get to know a sub, understand the service between the three which is basicly poly, with two as tops, basicly u are looking for someone u both can just boss around, not comman for married couple to both wake up to wanting to be a Dom, but stranger things has happen.

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RE: Could I get some more general advice? - 6/19/2010 3:15:50 PM

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Those are some of the reasons why I was asking for more general advice on getting to know the community as opposed to anything directly related to taking on a sub. We're more interested in getting to know people here online and where we are headed to since as of right now we know no one over there.

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RE: Could I get some more general advice? - 6/19/2010 4:29:13 PM

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Its fun to interact with people who share the same general kink as you do. You may find someone who would be willing to be your volunteer victim , and let you practise some of your skills.
Go for it.

You don't have to make a major commitment to casually play with someone.

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