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Mercnbeth -> RE: Sub Males..... What Are You Actively Doing? (6/21/2010 12:13:00 PM)
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ORIGINAL: LadyPact
Being as someone who had a policy of trying to meet within a certain amount of time before you met beth, I would have to think that you see My logic on this.
I see your logic. I don't find fault in it taken in totality. The fault is applying it to the pool of potential partners which would require facts not in evidence and contrary to the results experienced. Based upon your OP, I'd say the fallacy is confirmed.
What fallacy?
The fallacy that everyone representing themselves (male or female) as submissive IS submissive.
That reality dovetails into to setting a very limited time period from contact to meeting. The investment of time, emotions, and energy is not a good idea when, as you say, with access and in a direct contact those representing themselves 'submissive' stay in the shadows if they show up at all.
LP - I've found in the most part it's the 'IDEA' of being submissive (or dominant) that attracts people. That was, by far, the biggest group of people from my days of search. The next biggest batch, were those who wanted to experience the sensation side of the 'submissive' or 'dominant' activities. Not representing those experiences as 'bad' or 'good'; in fact without exception most were a lot of FUN! However, deliberately or as a consequence of experiencing the 'sensations' the nuances along with the emotional/mental 'non-sensation' aspects of D/s weren't for them.
The meeting process and the resulting discussions and disclosures established the relationship criteria; pure S&M physical play, friendship, 'fuck-buddy', whatever.
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There are a heck of a lot more threads started out there by submissive males who claim that they can't find a Dominant woman, rather than by female submissives saying they can't find what they are looking for. I don't think there is a male/female difference except as it exists in every other male/female physical encounter - acceptance and access. I've not been part of any 'bar scene' for a long time, but I'd hazard to guess if an equal number of horny men and woman went into a bar the men would have to put a lot more energy and market themselves a hell of lot more than any woman would to accomplish the same goal. I see no difference or exemption of that result when 'submission' is involved.
There is no pragmatic gender equality of access to a partner willing to 'scratch' your particular itch. Perhaps as another thread represents, female 'Pros' may be barely making a living equivalent to waitressing; however as a career path for men a heterosexual male 'Pro' would make more money turning bottles into cash versus turning tricks on corner.
The reason for more men posting isn't that there are more men in that situation. It a reflection that there are more men in that situation who can't find a partner - at least a non-'Pro'. Woman, even if they have similarly poor results, are usually not so much into the humiliation factor a similar public exposure would convey.
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