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RE: What's your opinion on having a checklist? - 4/13/2006 3:18:09 PM   
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Status: offline 		Every morning i make out a list of what i want to accomplish that day, but it doesn't inlclude routine things, i can still remember those most of the time.  I do include anything Hubby has asked me to do.

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RE: What's your opinion on having a checklist? - 4/13/2006 4:28:24 PM   
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Status: offline 		I love lists...  I am very ADHD and things go in and out of my head faster than I can get them written down at times.  Daddy sees my lists that I write for myself and smiles, knowing that if I don't have things on paper, they will be long forgotten at the end of the day.  If He wrote a list for me and gave me stickers, I would be tickled.  We love to laugh and this would be the sort of thing that would just bring out the giggles and make me feel like I've done a good job getting my stuff done.  I wouldn't take it as a slight to me at all. 

(*skips merrily to stationery section of store, picking out stickers for her chart*) 

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RE: What's your opinion on having a checklist? - 4/13/2006 4:55:42 PM   
littlesarbonn


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Status: offline 		I guess it depends on the submissive. For me, I'd love it cause that kind of micromanaging control is just cool. But I can see how others might not like it. I guess in the long run, if it's what makes her happy and comfortable, how could I not like it?

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RE: What's your opinion on having a checklist? - 4/13/2006 8:59:12 PM   
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As subs/slaves, what's your opinion on having a little checklist like this from your Dom/me?


Having to check off things like checking the mail, calling Master, and making coffee would annoy me to no end, because I would view it as one giant waste of time I could be spending doing something much more productive - like hanging new wallpaper in the foyer.  What's more important?  A checkmark on a piece of paper, or a well-kept house?  My dominant side says it's the house.  My slave side says it's whatever He says is important, and if He says it's the checkmark I'm going to do it, but I'll still be annoyed.
 
I think checklists CAN serve a purpose, such as for scheduling household chores and appointments and vacation needs and such, but for daily life?  Not for this girl.

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RE: What's your opinion on having a checklist? - 4/13/2006 9:10:39 PM   
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Status: offline 		Last time I was handed a check list... it was in play. A weekender. There were things I was going to have to check off as a reminder to us both that needed to be done over the course of the weekend and it was my job to not only remember them, but check them off as got done. If it wasn't done by Sunday night, well... I was reminded I had screwed up somewhere. But as a daily check list... nope. Had one Dom tell this was a requirement. When I was done laughing, I kindly declined his request to continue working towards a more steady relationship. And only because to him, this was his deal breaker, take it or leave it,.... I left it... LOL

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RE: What's your opinion on having a checklist? - 4/14/2006 4:59:39 AM   
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RE: What's your opinion on having a checklist? - 4/14/2006 6:45:33 AM   
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Status: offline 		I would not mind a checklist periodically say for a special lesson or event.  I love the occasional assignments, instructions to follow, orders to be completed (such as call me when you to work). 

For me the structure works, though a daily checklist would just eventually bore me.  I need variety in the structure. 

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RE: What's your opinion on having a checklist? - 4/14/2006 9:52:33 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Proprietrix

As subs/slaves, what's your opinion on having a little checklist like this from your Dom/me?


personally I would love it.. and have in the past.. helps to organize the day for me, plus I like to use them anyway.

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RE: What's your opinion on having a checklist? - 4/14/2006 11:40:25 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Proprietrix

This question goes out to both subs and slaves, both male and female.
In regards to beginning a new relationship, how do you (or would you) feel if you Domme gave you a daily checklist?

To elaborate: I type up a little chart that in one column has a list like "check mail, brew coffee, boot computer, call when you get to work, stop by store for dinner items, etc....", then there's a little column for subbie to put a checkmark, and then a little column for me to put a smiley face or cute little sticker.

I've gotten some rather odd (and definitely unexpected) responses to this. Some have said I'm being anal retentive. Some have said I don't "trust them to remember their duties as a sub". Some have even said that a checklist is like keeping the lifestyle in a fantasy realm.

As subs/slaves, what's your opinion on having a little checklist like this from your Dom/me?



Such checklists would be very helpful to me as a slave.  I've always had a very quirky memory.  My mother used to say that I would forget my head if it wasn't firmly attached.  Also, being half deaf, I'm not good at taking and retaining verbal instructions or information.  I absorb such things best by reading them. 

Such checklists would completely remove the daily "what the heck am I forgetting to do" anxiety.  It would also help my confidence in my ability to please my Owner, being able to check just exactly what She expects of me today and track my progress.

While I have a masochistic streak a mile wide, I have never wished for punishment.  I don't hope to find a Domina who will beat me for displeasing Her.  I would rather find a Sadistic Domina who will beat, or otherwise torture me for no other reason than it pleases Her (and me) to do so.

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RE: What's your opinion on having a checklist? - 4/15/2006 1:32:56 AM   
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Status: offline 		I've recently received a checklist......but its an initial one, what i love, what i can't tolerate.   He will send his to me once i do.  Its fabulous as an icebreaker, yet i think i'd like it down the line as well......

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RE: What's your opinion on having a checklist? - 4/16/2006 5:50:58 PM   
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Status: offline 		I've run accross subs who had check lists for what they wanted in a Domme.  I suppose that is not really the same thing but it does come off as anal.  Although it is good to know what you want, I get turned off when someone gives me a big laundry list of wants and needs or fetishes they want fulfilled.  I really think that it is impossible to know someone or to figure out how to communicate with someone via a checklist.  If I look at it from the Domme perspective, I probably would not make a long list of assignments either.  I think that those things come in time but it is better to concentrate on a few main priorities rather than a dozen.

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RE: What's your opinion on having a checklist? - 4/16/2006 7:14:05 PM   
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Status: offline 		a checklist is a wonderful idea!!! i could use one. i think its good because then as a slave you would know exactly what your Owner wants done! and then when it comes down to it, you can not get into trouble for forgetting something because the checklist was right there.

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RE: What's your opinion on having a checklist? - 4/16/2006 7:40:56 PM   
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Status: offline 		I've had some that needed a list for daily organization and others who I only had to tell things to and they remembered. It just depends on the individual. Do I like to give a list? I can be very detail oriented about certain things (some call it anal....eh) and for that reason they can be beneficial.

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RE: What's your opinion on having a checklist? - 4/16/2006 7:49:52 PM   
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Status: offline 		I would find that very helpful.  I gets forgetful in me old age.

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RE: What's your opinion on having a checklist? - 5/26/2006 9:10:19 AM   
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RE: What's your opinion on having a checklist? - 5/26/2006 11:39:53 PM   
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Last time I was handed a check list... it was in play. A weekender. There were things I was going to have to check off as a reminder to us both that needed to be done over the course of the weekend and it was my job to not only remember them, but check them off as got done. If it wasn't done by Sunday night, well... I was reminded I had screwed up somewhere. But as a daily check list... nope. Had one Dom tell this was a requirement. When I was done laughing, I kindly declined his request to continue working towards a more steady relationship. And only because to him, this was his deal breaker, take it or leave it,.... I left it... LOL

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A checklist was a deal breaker?  Holy s**t.  Was "play act 24/7/365" one of the things on the list?  Sounds like a sci-fi version of D/s.
 
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RE: What's your opinion on having a checklist? - 5/26/2006 11:48:40 PM   
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Status: offline 		A checklist is great if you have alot of task that need to be done. If you have the same routine then all you need is your mental checklist.

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RE: What's your opinion on having a checklist? - 5/27/2006 12:36:59 AM   
brightspot


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Status: offline 		My former Domina was one to make list's about and for everything, including me a lot of the time. I didn't mind at all and a list helped me keep my focus when really important things needed to be done.
I don't know about a check list or special stars though, that seems a bit juvenile to me. Besides I would rather have her show her appreciation with me personally.
 
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RE: What's your opinion on having a checklist? - 5/27/2006 12:48:19 AM   
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ORIGINAL: ElectraGlide

A checklist is great if you have alot of task that need to be done. If you have the same routine then all you need is your mental checklist.


I don't know about that.  My brother was a helicopter pilot for 35 years.  He would never take off without going completely through the checklist, even though he had it memorized.  It's too easy to forget one little item, even when it's part of a regular routine.

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RE: What's your opinion on having a checklist? - 5/27/2006 12:59:17 AM   
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Status: offline 		I use lists from time to time, (I would really benefit from using a shopping list now and again).  Lists are not a problem.  Calling as soon as I get to work would be a problem.  In fact, I may not be able to call from work all day.  Column for little smiley faces?  Problem.  Huge problem.  Last time I checked, I completed kindergarten about 37 years ago. 

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