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RE: What's your opinion on having a checklist? - 5/27/2006 3:59:52 AM

DominantCPL

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I think it is a great idea to have a check list that gives the Master or Mistress a place to start. And to know the things you will and will not do, It also gives them a chance to see where and what you are willing to learn. The problem is most sub and slaves dont have one and if a Master or Mistress ask them to do one. They take it as an insult. Also would be nice if they would also have somthing writen up that tells you about there experieces and what other duties they do . The lifestyle is not all about sex it also has its other side of serving. What are your skills, can you mow the lawn do dishes, vacccum the floor. What to you bring with you to this home that will bennefit all.

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RE: What's your opinion on having a checklist? - 5/27/2006 5:55:39 AM

fastlane

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He's making a list and checking it twice..going to find out who's naughty and nice!

Hey, If it's good enough for him...I'm using one too!
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RE: What's your opinion on having a checklist? - 5/27/2006 6:19:04 AM

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The problem I see with a daily list is that perhaps the sub/slave will become dependant on it and in the longer term forgetting to use their own mind and common sense to know and anticipate what is required of them. In essence it gives them more reason not to think and a whole lot more dependant on the dominant for simple things that should come rather easy following a few reminders. I personally don't believe it would be a long term benefit to either of the parties.

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RE: What's your opinion on having a checklist? - 5/27/2006 6:30:15 AM

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Hit fast reply....

If my Dominant were to tell me several things that are out of the daily routine and there were more than maybe five or six of them, I may indeed write them down so that I don't forget them. To have a daily checklist to know when to make coffee,vacuum the rug or clean the toilet though?.....no, that would not work for me. I'm actually pretty capable of looking around a house and assessing what needs to be done. As for the smiley faces, while I must admit it's cute, I don't really need that to know I've done well. The "thank you" that comes when I hand him that cup of coffee is more than enough.

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RE: What's your opinion on having a checklist? - 5/27/2006 6:54:55 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: fastlane

He's making a list and checking it twice..going to find out who's naughty and nice!

Hey, If it's good enough for him...I'm using one too!
Socks full of coal, Kevin

roflmao ....

tali says, as she raises her hand and jumps out of her seat...*o, o, i'm naughty, i'm naughty*

For me, it would depend on just how detailed and microscopic the list was... if i spent longer checking things off, than i did actually doing things that would please Him... what good is that?

If there were important things needed doing and not forgetting... then ok...

If He simply wanted to have the list, just because it pleased Him and He said this is how its going to be...well, then i'm all for it Afterall... it would not be my place to question Him what pleases Him (He would know, one would hope ), but i would simply obey.

i think You do what works for You... the right sub/slave will fit with You

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RE: What's your opinion on having a checklist? - 5/27/2006 10:49:43 AM

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If my dom felt I needed that then I would do it. I do not have feelings about such lists. I know what needs doing and I do it regardless of lists, but if he wants to do that I will comply.

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RE: What's your opinion on having a checklist? - 5/27/2006 11:57:44 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Proprietrix
I've gotten some rather odd (and definitely unexpected) responses to this. Some have said I'm being anal retentive. Some have said I don't "trust them to remember their duties as a sub". Some have even said that a checklist is like keeping the lifestyle in a fantasy realm.

If I wished to do things that way and got that responce I must admit that my reply to them would be along the lines of "That is the way *I* wish to do things, IF you have a problem with that you know where the door is!"

You can imply from that dear that I find nothing wrong with doing things that way, especialy with someone new.

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RE: What's your opinion on having a checklist? - 5/27/2006 4:24:50 PM

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To the OP..I use a calender in my day to day living so if any Dom would wish to add his wants and needs to it,then I would not object..I am getting older and remembering everything any more is nigh on impossible..and as to the smileys or stickers ,hey! not a hard limit if it pleases him to do so..eh..why not?..be well.Tempting

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RE: What's your opinion on having a checklist? - 5/27/2006 8:56:36 PM

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Someone show me their checklist and I will find a way to make you run screaming out of the dungeon and all done well within the "limits" of your checklist. Heck, give me the top 10 things you love and I can pervert them into something that will leave you in sweats anytime you think about it.

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RE: What's your opinion on having a checklist? - 5/27/2006 9:03:51 PM

babysburnin

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I'm sure I'm not alone here...

I WISH to do many of those things - I'm INSPIRED to do so...

You may be pushing it a bit - but, I'm not there - I don't know....

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RE: What's your opinion on having a checklist? - 5/28/2006 11:20:58 AM

ayasha

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This one believes that things such as making coffee each morning should not have to be told to the submissive more than once. That should be a given each day after that unless told differently. one also believes it is the submissive's responsibility to do what is told - some things he/she can remember, some things he/she may need to write down. Why not put this responsibility on the submissive? After all, it is You who give the order - it is up to them how they remember to accomplish it. What happens when you are sick, or get injured - the submissive would not be able to function through the day without their list because that is how he/she was conditioned. Just a thought...........................

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RE: What's your opinion on having a checklist? - 5/28/2006 1:27:20 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Proprietrix

This question goes out to both subs and slaves, both male and female.
In regards to beginning a new relationship, how do you (or would you) feel if you Domme gave you a daily checklist?

To elaborate: I type up a little chart that in one column has a list like "check mail, brew coffee, boot computer, call when you get to work, stop by store for dinner items, etc....", then there's a little column for subbie to put a checkmark, and then a little column for me to put a smiley face or cute little sticker.

I've gotten some rather odd (and definitely unexpected) responses to this. Some have said I'm being anal retentive. Some have said I don't "trust them to remember their duties as a sub". Some have even said that a checklist is like keeping the lifestyle in a fantasy realm.

As subs/slaves, what's your opinion on having a little checklist like this from your Dom/me?

Sounds like more work than I want to do,but I could have My secretary take care it.As far as having the list.Do want You want.I dont see it as anal,I see it as making sure Your clear about whats expected.

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RE: What's your opinion on having a checklist? - 5/28/2006 1:41:16 PM

DarkSideOfThMoon

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I think it could be fun for a day or so, but then it would just get dull...

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RE: What's your opinion on having a checklist? - 5/29/2006 3:48:12 PM

mellian

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If it helps the Domme to dominate me, humiliate me and other nefarious intentions, so be it. *shrugs*

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RE: What's your opinion on having a checklist? - 5/29/2006 8:24:01 PM

zumala

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Personally, I find lists helpful. I don't need a daily list to include things such as 'prepare breakfast' or 'have dinner ready when I get home'. Those are a given.

HOWEVER, I am ADD and I have motivation issues at times. I am also a perfectionist. I am a list maker for myself, in addition to that. So what happens at times is that I make a list of EVERYTHING that needs to be done, look at the finished list... and realize there's no way in hell I can actually complete it in one day. Then I get discouraged and do nothing and feel horrible about it.

So when my hubby makes a list of the 6 or 7 things HE thinks should be done that day, it helps me focus and gives me motivation. If I happen to finish everything early and have extra time and inclination, there's no reason why I can't add something myself.

zuma

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