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RE: The Importance of Touch - 6/25/2010 12:05:53 PM

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I'm a hugger. When I am with someone I care about, I often do touching.. a hand on the shoulder as I walk past them if they are sitting, holding their hand as we walk, etc.

To me, it's an outward expression of the mental/emotional connection we share.

That being said.. I agree with the person that said a bit of cuddling in bed is good, but then GTFO of me!! LOL

This, almost exactly; the only difference is that in general I'm an arm-linker, not a hand-holder.

I'm young and pretty enough that I can sit on people's laps without other people thinking it's weird. I take full advantage of that

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RE: The Importance of Touch - 6/25/2010 12:08:20 PM

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It's how I start and end every scene. It's why I prefer smaller, intimate toys. It's all about the connection.

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RE: The Importance of Touch - 6/25/2010 12:39:42 PM

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It's all about the connection.

Rightly so! Touch is the connection to the soul.

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RE: The Importance of Touch - 6/25/2010 1:01:54 PM

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Touch is a very complex thing to me. There are many people I don't even want in my personal space, let alone touching me. Even then, I am weird. I cannot stand groping needy touching. Touching that is all about trying to cop a feel or get a sexual/sensual thrill if I am not in the mood. For me, that is an unwelcome intrusion. I also don't like the touching that comes across as sucking up, wanting something from me I haven't already offered.

In that same light, there are times when foreplay is not wanted. It makes me impatient and irritable. I want to yell, "Just get to it dammit!"

And yes I agree, too light a touch is usually just annoying as hell.

It's a touchy.....subject. Hard to express how I feel without hurting someone's feelings.

Geez Louise...Do you have a laundry list or what....

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RE: The Importance of Touch - 6/25/2010 1:10:44 PM

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To be able to touch means a lot to me.

I'm a very affectionate person. I love to hug and kiss and cuddle. I love being close to the female I'm with as much as possible. I don't believe it's a gateway to enlightenment though....

A loving woman's flesh in my hands is a wonderful feeling.

On the flip side: I only want to be touched by those I want touching me. People patting me on the back or placing their hands on me isn't something they do for very long or again. Strange though..I'm okay with a hug from people.

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RE: The Importance of Touch - 6/25/2010 5:51:35 PM

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Greetings CD:

Touch has a dualistic nature in that touch can be experienced as delightful within the right circumstances and interactions. From another viewpoint touch can also be revolting or unwanted or rather repulsive if it has been forced upon another.

As far being a sensualist, well I could win an award for my excessive sensual ways. I have however over the years learned to express my sensual ways in a far more moderate manner as too much of anything that is desirous can form habits that are detrimental to personal self control if left unchecked.

IMO the necessity of touch to the human is required for survival as it is a primal instinct for myself. Sensual touch can be expressed in a most delightful manner thus bringing about sensations that releases all of those wonderful endorphins. On the other hand any form of unwanted touch is the least of my desires.

As I stated I am a sensual man without a doubt and with that being said I would add that I clearly prefer consensual touch in all instances. Feels so much more intense within the confines of mutual consent, IMO.

Ummmm Zevar? Have you seen the panties thread? I think your contribution would make some folks ... touch... you know... themselves.......

*not me of course. I'm a gooooooooooood girl!

Greetings Sunshine:

As a matter of fact I did view the panties thread and did contribute but not with anything that might be construed as related to sensual touch though. Just about those beast creatures; sleen.

Now a question:

Sunshine, tell me are you saying that "gooooooooooood girls don’t" like sensual touch?

Just clarifying.

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RE: The Importance of Touch - 6/25/2010 5:55:55 PM

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Greetings CD:

Touch has a dualistic nature in that touch can be experienced as delightful within the right circumstances and interactions. From another viewpoint touch can also be revolting or unwanted or rather repulsive if it has been forced upon another.

As far being a sensualist, well I could win an award for my excessive sensual ways. I have however over the years learned to express my sensual ways in a far more moderate manner as too much of anything that is desirous can form habits that are detrimental to personal self control if left unchecked.

IMO the necessity of touch to the human is required for survival as it is a primal instinct for myself. Sensual touch can be expressed in a most delightful manner thus bringing about sensations that releases all of those wonderful endorphins. On the other hand any form of unwanted touch is the least of my desires.

As I stated I am a sensual man without a doubt and with that being said I would add that I clearly prefer consensual touch in all instances. Feels so much more intense within the confines of mutual consent, IMO.

What does this mean?

I like touch. I have a loving touch I have been told. Learning about someone, how they like/dont like things is always good to know.

Greetings Heartcream:

What does what mean? Clarification would be most helpful, that is IF you really want me to answer your question.

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RE: The Importance of Touch - 6/25/2010 6:46:14 PM

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No, I'm saying that I'm so pure that I don't even touch myself.... I just think about it and then make sure to tie my hands behind my back so it doesn't happen and I can maintain my pure and innocent standard. *nod nod nod.

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RE: The Importance of Touch - 6/25/2010 6:51:14 PM

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I think littlewonder has it right when saying this is about being human. From my experience everyone likes to be touched or not touched in different ways, places, settings, times, mood and by particular people.
For me half the fun of foreplay (and sex) is discovering these things about the person I'm with. The more you explore and try things the more you will discover. I've often found things that they didn't even know about themselves. And I've had girls show me a thing or two about myself as well.
The key (especially for a dom) is to discover, and then use this information to heighten the pleasure you are both having.

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On the flip side: I only want to be touched by those I want touching me. People patting me on the back or placing their hands on me isn't something they do for very long or again. Strange though..I'm okay with a hug from people.

I kinda agree here too. I can't stand when dudes walk up giving me random pats or shoulder rubs. I know they mean well and where they're from it's probably a socially acceptable thing to do, but touching me is a privilege and people that do these things make me feel very uncomfortable.
When it comes to hugs and some other forms of touch, you know are coming. They're more like an invite. And I too am ok with that. It's like, "Hey you wanna hug?", sure! I love hugs! But again, I've known people that can't stand hugs. Everyone's different..

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RE: The Importance of Touch - 6/25/2010 10:44:34 PM

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No, I'm saying that I'm so pure that I don't even touch myself.... I just think about it and then make sure to tie my hands behind my back so it doesn't happen and I can maintain my pure and innocent standard. *nod nod nod.

sunshine the theory >>>>>>>>>>>> <<<<<<<<<<<<<<< sunshine the reality.

Greetings sunshine:

At the first read of your reply entry to my posting I smiled at the imagine of you tying your hands behind your back and then the thought of you doing this to maintain your purity & innocence well…I laughed at that thought. A good laugh that is.

You know laughter releases endorphins too. Not like sensual touch though but a close second that is if the laughter is combined with thoughts that are sensually pleasurable.

And then that imagery with the seesaw...got to watch those dueling darlings. You know the infamous Yo-Yoing, Back - Forth, In- Out, Up - Down. You get the idea, right?

Enjoy the ride. Can be quite sensuous. Like the necessity of touch.

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RE: The Importance of Touch - 6/25/2010 10:49:20 PM

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Back - Forth, In- Out, Up - Down. You get the idea, right?

Enjoy the ride. Can be quite sensuous. Like the necessity of touch.

:: THUD ::

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RE: The Importance of Touch - 6/25/2010 11:54:23 PM

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Back - Forth, In- Out, Up - Down. You get the idea, right?

Enjoy the ride. Can be quite sensuous. Like the necessity of touch.

:: THUD ::

Reaches toward sunshine to give her a hand at regaining her composure saying,

” Isn’t this ironic, you out of left field or was that right field, regardless you thudding to the floor and to think over Yo-yoing. Another form of touch. Do you agree? Or was it the power of touch that never ceases to amaze when leased expected? “

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RE: The Importance of Touch - 6/26/2010 12:00:13 AM

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What does what mean? Clarification would be most helpful, that is IF you really want me to answer your question.

Okay do you need me to ask you twice to validate my question?

What does the bolded bit mean from your post I quoted?

Is that good enough?

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RE: The Importance of Touch - 6/26/2010 12:01:55 AM

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Geez Louise...Do you have a laundry list or what....

This is funny especially after reading the post you made next, hahahahahaha.

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RE: The Importance of Touch - 6/26/2010 12:13:36 AM

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I'm a hugger. When I am with someone I care about, I often do touching.. a hand on the shoulder as I walk past them if they are sitting, holding their hand as we walk, etc.

To me, it's an outward expression of the mental/emotional connection we share.

That being said.. I agree with the person that said a bit of cuddling in bed is good, but then GTFO of me!! LOL

This, almost exactly; the only difference is that in general I'm an arm-linker, not a hand-holder.

I'm young and pretty enough that I can sit on people's laps without other people thinking it's weird. I take full advantage of that

agreed. really more arm-linker, arm around the waist kinda thing...

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RE: The Importance of Touch - 6/26/2010 12:57:19 AM

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What does what mean? Clarification would be most helpful, that is IF you really want me to answer your question.

Okay do you need me to ask you twice to validate my question?

What does the bolded bit mean from your post I quoted?

Is that good enough?

Validate your question? No! Rather clarify your question. I cannot reply with an intelligent response without clarity. BTW the emphasis with "IF" meant just that IF. Nothing more. So I will simply leave it at that. Enough said.

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What does this mean?

I like touch. I have a loving touch I have been told. Learning about someone, how they like/dont like things is always good to know.

Take care of you and your like of touch. I know I plan to continue my deep appreciate of touch in my life, be it sensual or otherwise.

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RE: The Importance of Touch - 6/26/2010 7:10:42 AM

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Geez Louise...Do you have a laundry list or what....

This is funny especially after reading the post you made next, hahahahahaha.

It was intended so

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RE: The Importance of Touch - 6/26/2010 7:36:02 AM

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Everyone has given great replies here. We all know humans need touch.

I am an affectionate and sensual person. I like differen types of touch at different times, slow and soft, rough and hard, etc.

One thing that is very telling to me when you are with someone is how they say they feel about you vs. how they touch you.

Sometimes a person thinks that they are showing you they care by touching you sensually/sexually/intensely all the time.

But for me, it is the smaller signs of touching that indicate how someone really feels about me. A guy just idly stroking my hair while watching TV, or keeping his hand on my thigh while driving is sometimes more intense than a highly sexual touch.

It is like kissing. Some people think you can have great sex or a scene and never kiss. Too me, the kiss starts it all. Without the kiss it is just exercise.

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RE: The Importance of Touch - 6/26/2010 10:26:50 AM

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No, I'm saying that I'm so pure that I don't even touch myself.... I just think about it and then make sure to tie my hands behind my back so it doesn't happen and I can maintain my pure and innocent standard. *nod nod nod.

sunshine the theory >>>>>>>>>>>> <<<<<<<<<<<<<<< sunshine the reality.

~coughs politely~

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RE: The Importance of Touch - 6/26/2010 11:46:39 AM

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Wha'?

sunshine, the good girl

I'm reminded of the classic study in touch by Harry Harlow http://hkjpaed.org/johnson/TouchInLabourAndInfancy/02.htm

They found that monkeys needed touch or they would become anti social.

Anyway, I've been up all night dancing and gotta get to bed.

Night everyone!

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