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SusanofO -> RE: Cock of the Block (4/15/2006 4:45:22 AM)
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It's All subjective. And there are so many examples out there of what's "attractive." Concrete examples? Limited examples off the top of my head might be (And I am talking character here, not looks): Think actor Gregory Peck in the movie To Kill A Mockingbird.
Does anyone know who the actor Timothy Dalton is? (he played HeathCliff in a film version of Wuthering Heights. He played James Bond once, too).
Sean Connery is sexy, no doubt about it. I don't think brains are necessarily a subsitute for having good judgment. I know meteorologists who wouldn't probably have their own homes prepared for "the big one" (Earthquake -even if they'd predicted it was coming -it's just an analogy but, know what I mean)?
When I was about 11 years old I had a huge crush on 1950-60's horror movie king Vincent Price (what a subtle, calming voice he had. Made me melt every time I heard it. He's dead now (sniff). So is Richard Burton. Peter O'Toole.
The list could go on and on. Regardless of their appearance their character was so - I don't know - durable. (an Actor was mentioned so I'm going with actors).
*The main thing that sparked me about these actors' characters was that -
I consistently got the impression they could just handle themselves - and consequently - anything anyone else was worried about just wasn't going to be much of a problem for them. That is very calming (not to be confused with 'Daddy Dom-ness' though I know it could work there too, but it's not necessarily what I am describing (as a personal preference, though that label can be "fluid", shall we say).
Not the same thing, either, as not having tough moments or being maybe sorely challenged sometimes but - they seemed to have courage (I know Vincent Price might sound weird but he was building a human clone in his basement lab in several of his movies, and "everyone else" thought he was nuts. He was doing it anyway).
Very calming characters, but smoldering with intensity, even if its sometimes just under the surface.Give the impression being near them will spark deeper and deeper devotion; they'd have one so mesmerized they'll simply just Believe.
They appeared devoted to seeking and discovery of whatever they were curious about or deeply believed in - and in a pretty intense way.
A man I was in a relationship for a year who introduced me to this life had those qualities. They knew what they wanted and pursued it.
Smart, maybe but mostly Wise. This does not preclude a sense of humor (not at all. No sense of humor is having one less tool that can be used for so much good in tough moments and just everyday life.They had one and knew when to use it and knew how to have fun.
Corny illustration of devotion to a dream or belief but here's one: Like Fox Mulder on the "X-Files") they believe that even if perhaps nobody else believes what they do, the pure intensity of their own belief and willingness to doggedly pursue it, despite obstacles (even if that might not always look like what they're doing), is a quality admired so much it increases faith that "the Truth is out there" (that show had millions of viewers and still does even in re-runs. He had that poster in the office that said "I Want To Believe".(I realize life is not a movie. Nor am I a Charles Manson fan if that is the impression I am creating here. I am just trying be "concrete").
Gave the impression they'd just keep looking for ______(it) and it didn't matter all that much what anyone else said about it, really. Maybe a bit secretive (but not "stand-offish" or "cold"(there is a difference). Sometimes, maybe, they'd really like to "tell you more" -but if they did, they might have to kill you - hehe(joke).
Whatever it is they are looking for might be buried in a tunnel nobody else believes exists 5oo feet underground. But they will find it - dig through the Earth with an old kitchen spoon if they have to - with no help from anybody else, if necessary, thank you very much.Then come up back up to the surface after they've found their pot of gold or treasure, and mention, under their breath that they didn't really need anyone else's help anyway (not that they would have let you help if you'd asked. They knew what they were doing all along...(well, maybe not all the time, but much of the time -if they didn't - you're not going to know. And if you do, you better not say that. Not that they will destroy you for it , or even scream or yell but - they will remember. They know when to be kind, but can create the impression that you better become (if you're not already) a quick(er) study. Is that "cocky" Not to me when they know learning is a process.
Preferences can change I am supposing, if someone is exposed to a person helps them smash any stereotypes they hold about what they consider intensely attractive ... If one doesn't believe a person has confidence, why would they want them to be their Dom or Master in the first place?
I think people can spark eachother's confidence by focusing on thier good qualities and then maybe they grow like wildfire (who knows). Anything is possible.I need to think about this more. Good question.
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