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PeonForHer -> RE: Fake Domme & Tactics of a Con: A cautionary (7/13/2010 12:00:52 PM)
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ORIGINAL: Sleeper233
I'm very new to this site and just fell for an elaborate scam. I was stupid and ignored my instincts out of a strong sense of false hope. However, if this saves others from making a stupid mistake and thus denies this con artist his/her money, than I'll feel a small measure of comfort.
Please note that as per the policy of this site, I will not name this user. I suspect it wouldn't be much good anyway as I'm sure somone so cunning has multiple accounts. I hope this policy doesn't extend to general tactics. If Collarme.com cares about it's users, it will keep this post up.
Men, beware of the following;
Solicitation from a dominant, apparently attractive woman who contacts you about a possible slave/partner position. In this message, she will direct you to another website having an ad for this position including detailed instructions of the sort of message she requires. If you write her, she will return your message indicating that your reply was far more intelligent than most of the replies she receives (this fooled me, as my reply was quite detailed & well written & so I thought it was a true comment).
She will ask you to describe yourself, your fantasies and to then provide her with a picture. After she said my pics were fine, I felt very relived but this was just another trick. I don't she/him even looked at them in retrospect.
It is at this stage, on the 3rd or 4th message, that she/he moves in for the kill.
She will say that she needs to know that you're geniune, honest and not a fake "online masturbater" - and thus, you need to give her a gift. She will even say that I realize this sounds sketchy & could turn you off, but that it is a test to see if you're "real". The self-awareness of this remark fooled me.
Other things to note, she does NOT show her face in the photos provided even though it appears to be the same person. The website she directs you to appears completely real but if you do some google searching using the name of the website she sends you, you'll find many others have been taken in or almost taken in by this game
I was very, very stupid in retrospect. My mind screamed "no" but I was desperate and lonely that I choose to believe the lie... I'm sure I'm not alone and that others will fall victim to this elaborate ruse.
My mission on this site is no longer to meet anyone but to expose this person for the fraud that they are.
Sleeper,
It seems a shame to me that this is a thread that's turned into one in which everyone falls over themselves their enthusiasm to tell you how little sympathy they have for you, no matter how often you tell them that you weren't searching for their sympathy anyway. You're not the bad guy here, the con artist was.
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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus
I don't get it, Lockit. I happens SO often to men who genuinely have common sense in other areas!
Lady Hibiscus, at least, has said something useful and helpful. Con artists are good at getting money out of people who, in most respects, are considered to have common sense.
The person who contacted you was a con artist and she or he was using standard con-artist tricks. It's worth googling the phrase 'con artists' techniques' - because you'll see the same tricks used in a wide variety of contexts.
I only really know of a few of those tricks, but the knowledge of them has blocked all of the cons that have been tried on me on this site. (Even that by the 'school of submission' - and their game is artful indeed. Watch out for them!)
The first, and main, trick, is that of the 'You're special, you're better than all the rest' ploy. Your con-artist did this well with his/her comment that your reply 'was far more intelligent than most of the replies that she receives'. Ego boost time. Submales don't often feel special - she had you there. You look great, too, she/he will say, even though when you check your 'Who's viewing me' button you don't see 'her' name come up.
She/he had you a second time with 'her desire to read about your fantasies'. She/he wants to go to the trouble of knowing you, deep down, with all the things that go in your mind. Nonetheless, in the process of your writing all your deepest and innermost, something in you will begin to make you believe that you're 'connecting with her' in a major way. It won't cross your mind that she won't even read it.
Then she/he puts you on the back foot by getting you to wonder not if she's 'real' but if you're real. Panic time! You've got to reassure 'her' that you're not that most contemptible of beings, a 'masturbator'. That line of pseudo-logic about 'a tribute to show you're genuine' is really common. You've been puffed up big by the 'special' compliment - it's painful to have someone's opinion of you drop so instantly and terribly by revealing yourself to be a 'masturbator'.
As you know, Google is your friend. It's worth reading about con artists' tricks. It's fun - but also a bit depressing, because conning is really all about preying on weaknesses - vanity, insecurity, mainly. And, pretty often, the enticement of sex.
You consider yourself stupid for being conned - well, in that case, most of us are. If that weren't the case, with regard to cons, then the advertising industry would be out of business. So also would large sections of the fashion and cosmetics industries, to name but two.
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