Mercnbeth
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Sometimes I have to admit that I think the majority of people discussing this lifestyle online are prone to over exaggeration and out right lying, I just wonder where this image comes from.
Very true - because most of the people "discussing this lifestyle on-line" only have on-line experience to draw upon. It's high school gym class with the experience representing blow hard having the BMOC 'image' talking about all the girls he's been with when the reality is the last woman he was inside was his mother at birth.
Usually they try to hide this fact by putting up a false bravado or hiding behind a caricature which they hope will be associated with them and convey their power. Reality being much too scary a place, they revel in their on-line persona; creating their own rationalized sense of others who enjoy experiencing what they can only dream of having the courage to try.
As I said before - you can't trust any on-line representation. Many self professed 'experts' in relationships or any aspect of the 'lifestyle' garnered that 'experience' while one-handed web surfing.
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ORIGINAL: AQuietSimpleMan
It just seems that the consistency of day to day interaction is not consistent with that of those I meet in person. Having met QSM I'd agree with his perspective; stipulating that he is as "consistent" as possible. However consistency is a function of access and opportunity and includes compromise in the nuances of day to day reality; which is where there is a disconnect from on-line representation.
QSM had a problem being identified as a 'sadist', and I think at one time he may have thought ill of me representing myself as one. It was outside the on-line 'image' he had of me. In real time I had the opportunity to reconcile the issue with him and said it is possible to be a socially acceptable 'sadist' instead of a psychotic, or sociopath sadist. What's the difference? Well, a socially acceptable sadist will come and help you and pick you up if trip and fall as quickly as non-sadist; the only difference it a sadist will be giggling when they ask you if you are OK. A sociopath or psychotic sadist may giggle too - but he also is more likely to have tripped you in the first place.
In every situation there is a "Yeah but..." exception. In real life deal with it as it happens as a reaction. You do get to see the 'real' person; which may or may not be the image you got from on-line interaction. On-line, there is the luxury of the delay involved with typing or, confronted with a difficult situation where the 'image' may have to be compromised - you can always use the; "my computer locked!" until you reconcile the response with your caricature on-line image.
Also as has been represented, regardless of the post and poster, in the on-line world there are always some 'head-bobbers' waiting in the wings to provide on-line 'legitimacy'. Even if their not waiting, they are easy enough to 'create' if need be as are 'Farmville Neighbors'. In real life, especially over the long term, there really are very few who would enable, support, and be a partner in a relationship with such a false 'image'.
That leaves you with reality. Whether it's personified by the represented palatial estate bing a single wide with outside toilets or the 6'2" Adonis mistaking height for width; its better to find it out early instead of investing emotions on a caricature on-line image.
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