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CynthiaWVirginia -> RE: friendship.. (7/2/2010 7:23:42 PM)
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Why is it that hard to find someone be it Dom/Master sub/slave or switch to just chat with share laughter over things
I disagree with others. When you asked is question, I felt it gave me given carte blanche to look at your profile and answer why there could be a problem with finding friends. I'm not about to go all psychic on you, but have to rely on how you present yourself to answer this.
Maybe I'm strange, but I didn't see any opinions given as attacks, only as an opinion offered by people who are willing to be honest with you and not just blow smoke up your ass.
Now I will give my own impression, as a woman who is not bi and is looking for friends here. I don't see your putting *looking for friends only* as invalidating anything else you're looking for. There is a search feature on the home page where people can choose to select "looking for friends" and then are given a list of profiles that had mentioned this somewhere. If you haven't added this into your profile, people literally searching for those interested in friendship, as I have done...would not find you there.
I would never have written to you just from your profile. Not that there is anything wrong with you, and not only that you didn't have looking for friends visible, but because your profile was so sexual in every aspect that I would assume anyone writing to you would be seen as wanting to get to know you sexually.
I'm not bi, nor bi curious, so there was nothing in your profile other than a wide range of musical preferences to comment on. I love Sci-fi, chess, cartoon movies, knitting, quilting, and other things that someone could safely comment on if they wanted to talk with me to start building a friendship. Friends have interests in common...so that's two changes in your profile I'd suggest if you also want friends. First, say so, and then give them something to talk with you about. I wouldn't be sending you a letter talking about deepthroating, kink, being a nympho, or orgasms, not unless we were good friends already.
I'm sorry our bluntness caused you to feel defensive or unwelcome. (I also hope you gift these horney, fascinated, or begging guys with some Wookie pix in their mailboxes, lol.)
Another thing...I'm not poly and I don't share. This is one of my quirks. If a friend of mine had problems with reigning in her sexuality and kept sending off all kinds of horney nympho signals, I would keep my man far away from her. [;)] Or else he would be in chastity with a shock collar around his dangly bits...and every time I caught him looking directly at her or reacting to her in the slightest bit...I'd punish him.
That being said, why not do as others have suggested and add your erotic writing into the area of the message boards that are made for this? You could write even more, and it will be easier to read than that scrawney little space in your journal. Just leave within your journal links to CollarMe/CollarChat to go read your erotic stories. You would even attract more readers who might decide to become friends with you over your writing.
Best wishes to you in your search.
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