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karatekickme1 -> Finding a Martial Artist Dom (7/3/2010 6:03:13 AM)

Hello,

I am having a hard time finding a black belt martial artist DOM who is gay and or bi and would be sadistic with his feet . . . any ideas of websites where I can post for this and hopefully find this person in the Chicago area? Any help would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks!




Jeffff -> RE: Finding a Martial Artist Dom (7/3/2010 6:06:27 AM)

That's a pretty narrow criteria.

That and the fact that someone skilled would likely fuck you up.............


good luck




DesFIP -> RE: Finding a Martial Artist Dom (7/3/2010 6:15:52 AM)

And the fact that martial arts discipline and training strongly discourages this sort of thing.




ShoreBound149 -> RE: Finding a Martial Artist Dom (7/3/2010 7:09:02 AM)

Greenwich Village, NYC and Asbury Park, NJ are likely chock full of them.




IronBear -> RE: Finding a Martial Artist Dom (7/3/2010 7:43:21 AM)

In fact any martial artist who has been trained properly should be able to delivers many blows and kicks to give maximum pain with out long term damage. Didn't you know that sadism is the core training of all instructors and the ability of being able to inflict pain on students who cock up is a given.. 




AquaticSub -> RE: Finding a Martial Artist Dom (7/3/2010 2:43:20 PM)

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ORIGINAL: karatekickme1

Hello,

I am having a hard time finding a black belt martial artist DOM who is gay and or bi and would be sadistic with his feet . . . any ideas of websites where I can post for this and hopefully find this person in the Chicago area? Any help would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks!


As a black belt martial artist, I would be at least somewhat disturbed if someone sought me out and wanted to do to them what I've learned in the dojo to hurt them.

As much as I respect IronBear, I was not taught how to inflict pain without damage. I was taught to inflict pain and damage without killing someone. I was taught to break elbows, kneecaps, noses, etc. I was taught to put someone down so that they won't get up again. Of course, this will depend on the specific style. OP, it may behoove you to do some reading on the various styles of martial arts, their beliefs and what they teach.

These are not skills I would be comfortable using in a scene. The body holds and some of the take-down techniques, yes. But not the attacks - I firmly believe those are only to be used to defend my life or someone else's.

That said... your kink is your kink. If you find someone to enjoy it with, I'm happy for you. Just a warning that you may encounter some resistence and disbelief from the martial arts community.




sirsholly -> RE: Finding a Martial Artist Dom (7/3/2010 5:57:37 PM)

quote:

Any help would be greatly appreciated.
if all else fails, do you know anyone that has a Kangaroo?




DaddysInkedSlut -> RE: Finding a Martial Artist Dom (7/3/2010 6:04:27 PM)

Last time I was at the crucible there were these 2 women who were wrestling around on the mats. One of the women was punching the other in the ribs, face, chest, ect. The woman on the bottom walked out with obvious bruises. Not my thing, infact I would be afraid of damages. OP be be prepared to stuggle finding someone into this.




WinsomeDefiance -> RE: Finding a Martial Artist Dom (7/3/2010 6:20:05 PM)

Just enlist. You'll be under the boot of a well trained sadist in no time.




windchymes -> RE: Finding a Martial Artist Dom (7/3/2010 6:25:58 PM)

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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

And the fact that martial arts discipline and training strongly discourages this sort of thing.


Oh, I can think of all kinds of ways to be sadistic with one's feet without going against Martial Arts law....

He can let his toenails grow and sharpen them and then play footsie in bed.  He can ice them down and then play footsie in bed.  He can wear the same gym socks for a week and then demand a tongue bath. 

Lots of ways.




IronBear -> RE: Finding a Martial Artist Dom (7/3/2010 7:09:15 PM)

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ORIGINAL: AquaticSub

quote:

ORIGINAL: karatekickme1

Hello,

I am having a hard time finding a black belt martial artist DOM who is gay and or bi and would be sadistic with his feet . . . any ideas of websites where I can post for this and hopefully find this person in the Chicago area? Any help would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks!


As a black belt martial artist, I would be at least somewhat disturbed if someone sought me out and wanted to do to them what I've learned in the dojo to hurt them.

As much as I respect IronBear, I was not taught how to inflict pain without damage. I was taught to inflict pain and damage without killing someone. I was taught to break elbows, kneecaps, noses, etc. I was taught to put someone down so that they won't get up again. Of course, this will depend on the specific style. OP, it may behoove you to do some reading on the various styles of martial arts, their beliefs and what they teach.

These are not skills I would be comfortable using in a scene. The body holds and some of the take-down techniques, yes. But not the attacks - I firmly believe those are only to be used to defend my life or someone else's.

That said... your kink is your kink. If you find someone to enjoy it with, I'm happy for you. Just a warning that you may encounter some resistence and disbelief from the martial arts community.


G'day AS,

I agree with you, it's just I was taught both but we are still on the same page.




juliaoceania -> RE: Finding a Martial Artist Dom (7/3/2010 8:22:06 PM)

My last dom had a third degree black belt...

But he was straight, only mildly sadistic, and he lives in LA...

Edited to add.. it did give him a leg up on inflicting pain... sometimes with his weapons... like a cane he had.... etc...lol




Plasticine -> RE: Finding a Martial Artist Dom (7/3/2010 8:24:08 PM)

There is going to be a "Body Punching" workshop at Dungeon Servitus down here next month.  There are definitely people who do this stuff and people who want to learn it.  I don't think I am one of them, but I might attend the class anyway.




AquaticSub -> RE: Finding a Martial Artist Dom (7/4/2010 8:11:32 PM)

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ORIGINAL: IronBear
G'day AS,

I agree with you, it's just I was taught both but we are still on the same page.



Good to know. [:)]

I have a great deal of respect for you. In my training, we were taught avoidance, avoidance, avoidance.... and then if the attacker won't allow you to avoid, break their joints so that you can avoid killing them. [:D]

All training I've had in how to hurt without causing damage has come in the "standard" BDSM way - asking tops to teach me since I'm a curious little creature.




IronBear -> RE: Finding a Martial Artist Dom (7/5/2010 5:17:34 AM)

This is not so different to my late Sensei using a bamboo pole or cane to attack students who were lax or slow never damaging but inflicting a great deal of pain. later one learned this tool for it is often, in a non war situation, sufficient to to inflict pain and to punish and thus teach manners and that crime is not a good option. This is far better and less paper work than knee capping some unruly miscreant. Ergo Martial Arts Masters are by their being, Sadists and students are Masochists. My thoughts any way.. It taught me that quitting was not an easy way out and not an option just a very painful and humiliating one.





gedienstig -> RE: Finding a Martial Artist Dom (7/5/2010 5:41:23 AM)

Billy Blanks? Did a few of the Tae Bo DVD's, he sure is sadist enough, don't know if he's gay/bi though.

But why does he have to be a black belt martial arts? I know it's more dangerous, but there must be someone who is willing to kick you, even if he's not that skilled at it. There's a serious punch fetish I know, so you should be able to find a kick fetish on the "normal kinky dating sites".

EDIT: I know I couldn't advertise them on the forums, but I'll C-Mail you a site or two which helped me find some "loose dates".




Andalusite -> RE: Finding a Martial Artist Dom (7/5/2010 9:41:38 AM)

A lot of Dominants/Masters/Tops are into Martial Arts, but requiring a black-belt is going to very much restrict your already limited options. I was in a relationship with another switch for a year and a half who was a brown belt in Kung Fu, and we did a lot of sparring in addition to S/M and bondage. Grappling, pins, pressure points (like in jujitsu) and throws are likely to be safer to explore than hand and feet strikes. Judo teaches some choking moves, so that might be an option as well. I enjoy playfighting, and I feel that my martial arts background does make it easier for me to judge and pull strikes and otherwise avoid causing harm while engaging in rough play.




graceadieu -> RE: Finding a Martial Artist Dom (7/5/2010 2:04:55 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Jeffff

That's a pretty narrow criteria.

That and the fact that someone skilled would likely fuck you up.............


good luck



Someone that skilled is actually probably less likely to fuck you up than someone who's just messing around kicking and punching. They'll know where they can safely strike you without causing damage, how hard they can safely hit you, and probably are accurate enough to do so. An inexperienced person could well kick/hit you in, say, the kidneys or face either through ignorance or inaccuracy. As far as takedown/submission hold sort of disciplines go... a very experienced person is more likely to be able to throw you, pin you down, and generally twist you around without actually injuring you.

At least, that's been my experience with martial arts and being involved with a very skilled martial artist. (And having someone who can pin you down in a way that you can't possibly escape.... yum!)




mnottertail -> RE: Finding a Martial Artist Dom (7/5/2010 2:54:57 PM)

I think that if you want someone to kick you in the nuts, even people who wear suspenders will do you a bang up job.




MagisterCapto -> RE: Finding a Martial Artist Dom (7/5/2010 3:00:47 PM)

I'm pretty sure there are some people out there, who'd be able to serve your kink - and while it is adviseable to stay safe and go for someone with experience, that requires no black-belt. Knowing the requirements for black belts from my own training, it takes no where near that skill, to safely execute what you are looking for. (Or so I believe, anyway, might be that they give the belts away for free in other martial arts, but I doubt it)




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