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KatyLied -> RE: Online collars (7/5/2010 3:28:33 PM)
I had an almost mailbox relationship with him, But no offer of an on-line collar. sigh

Jeffff -> RE: Online collars (7/5/2010 3:34:04 PM)
Knida makes you wonder if Steven is real...doesn't it?

KatyLied -> RE: Online collars (7/5/2010 3:37:40 PM)
I hope he is real. In my mind he is a twue dominate!

crazyml -> RE: Online collars (7/5/2010 3:46:35 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Firebirdseeking You know, at some point one should distinguish between reality and fantasy. Do you think that online relationships are fantasy?

laurell3 -> RE: Online collars (7/5/2010 3:48:33 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: KatyLied I hope he is real. In my mind he is a twue dominate! Yeah I don't know he caved like a married man in a shopping mall when I was "negotiating" for a better collar...hm...

loveydovey -> RE: Online collars (7/5/2010 3:53:03 PM)
This is just my opinion and taking into the fact that i have never been online collared.. I have been online for years in and out of bdsm chat rooms and online games including some gorean ones. You need to take into acct the mentality of the people playing and when it comes to online the best form of advice is to go with " To each thier own". For someone online collarings are a form of roleplay something that they play as if it were game or way to express themselves that they cant fathom doing in thier real lives. Another form of online collaring are for those who are "trying out" the connection or the bound between two people.. Even if they are attracted to each other real life it doesnt assure them that theres is going to be a mental and spiritual bond. For some its easier to develop online then it is in real life and then move things to off the computer. For some its simply that perhaps they live in different countries or both are married and this is their way of being with someone outside of that. Any form of collaring is something that exists between two consenting adults and the only negative thing that i have witnessed is when one person in that form of relationship is misleading or is not on the same wave length as the other person. But thats just my humble opinion.

Nineveh -> RE: Online collars (7/5/2010 4:37:25 PM)
To me, Gor is a joke (online or off) that cheapens the lifestyle. Online collars, well, they aren't for me. But people wearing them aren't hurting anyone. (fast replied early in, it wasn't aimed at Bent in specific)

BentUnit -> RE: Online collars (7/5/2010 5:24:06 PM)
No offense taken, Sweet. You have mail.

Firebirdseeking -> RE: Online collars (7/5/2010 6:17:27 PM)
You know, people can call what they have anything they want, it doesn't matter to me, I am not the thought police. For the record, my dominant lives 800 miles away, but we knew right from the beginning one of us would move to the other. HOWEVER: we were almost totally on the phone when we were not together. Not on line. I did have an on line "relationship" with someone years ago, and I found out he was married. Thats the problem with me and on line. That was not the last time I encountered liars and cheaters. If it works for you, fine; all I am saying is that it is not the same as face to face.

zephyroftheNorth -> RE: Online collars (7/5/2010 6:24:58 PM)
quote: For the record, my dominant lives 800 miles away, but we knew right from the beginning one of us would move to the other. HOWEVER: we were almost totally on the phone when we were not together. Not on line. And some of us can't afford the phone bills. It's great that you and your owner can - others can't. No online isn't the same but sometimes it's the only choice.

laurell3 -> RE: Online collars (7/5/2010 7:17:32 PM)
If you both have the same cell phone company it's free with most of them.

Plasticine -> RE: Online collars (7/5/2010 7:23:45 PM)
You can use unlimited VOIP for free through many many services (Skype, Yahoo, Google) for the one time cost of a cheap microphone or headset.

Nineveh -> RE: Online collars (7/5/2010 7:26:00 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Plasticine You can use unlimited VOIP for free through many many services (Skype, Yahoo, Google) for the one time cost of a cheap microphone or headset. This has been a lifesaver for me in the past.

zephyroftheNorth -> RE: Online collars (7/5/2010 7:58:47 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: laurell3 If you both have the same cell phone company it's free with most of them. He doesn't have a cell.....I know... but he's way out in the country where service sucks. In any case this is sadly in the past I just wanted to present an example of when the relationship is very real despite mainly being online

LafayetteLady -> RE: Online collars (7/5/2010 8:51:18 PM)
FR- I have people that I call "friends" online, and that is a form of a relationship. Someone telling me what to do on a computer is just that, someone telling me what to do on a computer. Is it a great way to start? It can be. But someone online isn't touching me, they aren't in bed with me, having dinner with me or sitting on the couch with me watching a movie. Saying that an online relationship is the same as a face to face one is like saying that you know how to drive from playing video games. I'm not saying that people shouldn't do it, obviously what they do is their business. But they aren't going to do it with me.

DarkSteven -> RE: Online collars (7/5/2010 9:36:39 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: KatyLied I had an almost mailbox relationship with him, But no offer of an on-line collar. sigh So THAT was what you meant by your "box". I totally misinterpreted... [sm=oops.gif]

LadyPact -> RE: Online collars (7/5/2010 9:40:02 PM)
Yes. I'm mean. I can't believe the OP spent the time to type all of that up.

DommeKeliDallas -> RE: Online collars (7/5/2010 9:54:58 PM)
DANG! ...and I thought the Nigerian thing with the "millionare cousin in England" was bad...

ranja -> RE: Online collars (7/6/2010 1:49:24 AM)
yes, the on-line relationship or collaring or cyber sex can be totally silly, just a laugh or quite a ride, whatever you make of it... i don't think it is possible to enjoy it unless you have a good imagination as lots of it is indeed a fantasy eventhough it might feel really real. so for people with no- or very limited imagination it will always remain a mystery why others have fun doing this thing and people who have a tad too much imagination might get lost in the cyber woods.

CelticPrince -> RE: Online collars (7/6/2010 5:53:07 AM)
quote: If some people enjoy online roleplaying or online collaring, so what? So you tried it, found that it doesn't make a lot of sense to you, found that it's stupid to move to someone that you haven't even met, etc etc.....You've made your mistakes along the way...you've learned what does or doesn't work for you. Why do you have the need to take a "stance" as you put it? Are you seeking others who agree in order to feel validation? Not that I'm putting that down if that's the case, but there are always going to be people who see things differently. You can't get the whole world or even an entire community to wave a flag in unison that says "online is bullshit". Do yourself a favor, just take the experience, make whatever sense you can out of it, then leave it behind and move towards something that works for you. And keep in mind that nothing that other people do can cheapen your own "lifestyle". marie2 ditto and well said! CP

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