BitaTruble
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ORIGINAL: gungadin09
Okay, i don't know the exact age breakdown of the D/s scene, but i would imagine that most people fall within that range. To those who don't: how has age affected your play (or has it?). What are you looking for from this lifestyle? This site? Are you getting it? Do you feel that there is any ageist bias on collarme?
i ask this question because on another thread, i was reading about 18 year olds in the lifestyle, and many of them answered the thread, and became quite defensive. It made me wonder why.
pam
I turned 50 a few months ago and Himself will be 60 next year so we're probably close enough to be able to answer some of your questions. Has age affected how we play? Absolutely! For me, as I age, my skin gets thinner despite my kevlar ass so I can't take a 6 hour beating anymore.. not even close. About two hours with a hard strapping or single tail is my stamina limit. I don't recover, physically, as fast as I used to but mentally, I'm much quicker to recover my senses than I used to be. I can't stand as long in up-right bondage or put pressure on knees which have knelt in sublication for so many years and it's much harder to mindfuck my cynical old brain. In some respects I have much more patience than I used to have and in others I won't give two seconds of thought to certain issues because time has become very precious to me and I have a strong dislike for wasting even mere seconds of it.
For Himself, as he nears retirement age, there are other issues such as health, eyesight etc., which effect how we play and how long we play as well. He's not going to be able to catch me if I were to fall from a suspension, so we don't do that anymore. We tend to linger and go slower indulging our appetites over the small stuff that we never really appreciated until now. We have both gotten much more creative with design schemes and things of that nature as well so the look of the play is different now than it used to be. Where before you would see mad chaos after something like a cutting, now you will see details where none used to exist because we have both gotten more visually sensitive and have the desire to please the eye more than we used to (although I was always more about that than Himself). We have learned to adapt and to substitute when old hat has, by necessity, become non-existant. We savor rather than devour and while it's still mostly shoot from the hip, we're not quite as hip as we used to be so there is more planning than in the past. Another thing that comes with our experience of one another is really letting go of things *just* for the experience of having them and doing things together that really rock our world and going from lots of quantity to more selective quality and being able to meter when & where things will fit in best with life for us. Overall, I'm having a blast in my *older* age and look forward to Himself retiring and having all that time that is currently devoted to his career instead devoted strictly to us.
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This goes out specifically to under 20s and over 60s - 
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