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Proper protocol if any? - 4/15/2006 8:11:41 AM   
GentlemannDom


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Status: offline 		I'm curious about something,  when a submissive states on her profilie "Any males or doms that wish to talk to me, must first contact my dom "GentlemannDom" and ask permission to talk to me".

If a dom or male still emails her afterwards this is improper protocol or what?  I'm confused by this, would realy like to know what  should be done about the doms/masters who still insist on emailing my sub even though she has this on her profile?

In general I'm pretty pissed at this, it shows poor repsect to me, poor respect to her as well.   Besides pissing on what I see on how one should conduct themselves in the scene as a whole.

my two cents though.
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RE: Proper protocol if any? - 4/15/2006 8:16:07 AM   
KatyLied


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Status: offline 		block the sender
set up a schedule so you read her mail first and delete anything you deem offensive



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RE: Proper protocol if any? - 4/15/2006 8:22:00 AM   
PlayfulOne


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RE: Proper protocol if any? - 4/15/2006 8:25:45 AM   
TxBadMan


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Status: offline 		Why let it bother you? They are strangers, they have no control over you or yours. Have your girl do what mine does. She writes back to them, tells them to contact me, and then blocks any answers they may send to her. Pretty simple if you ask me.

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RE: Proper protocol if any? - 4/15/2006 8:27:59 AM   
slaveofdarkhold


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Status: offline 		Sadly there are always people who don't read the profile, think it doesn't apply to them or just plain don't care.  I don't pretend to know much about protocol, but I do know its bad manners. Nothing you can do about it though, other than ignore them

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RE: Proper protocol if any? - 4/15/2006 8:28:04 AM   
bandit25


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Status: offline 		I agree.  I had one "dom" contact me and when I told him that I was involved with someone, he sent the most vicious reply.  So I blocked him...simple.

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RE: Proper protocol if any? - 4/15/2006 8:42:52 AM   
starymists


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Status: offline 		There's nothing you can really do about people who are disrespectful save block/ignore them. Perhaps setting up a joint account and making her individual account invisable *deactivaed* so that you can screen the mail first, and people are less likely to contact a sub listed as a couple in my experience. She would still then be able to post to the forums and do everything else with her profile inaccessable. You could even then, if you wanted to, set up an outside email like yahoo and forward that outside email addy to those people that you want or allow her to be in contact with. Just some thoughts from the dark side

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RE: Proper protocol if any? - 4/15/2006 8:48:52 AM   
SirLordTrainer


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Status: offline 		Yes, extremely improper protocol and you can bet they are far from being a realtime Dominant, they seek only sex, think My old munch group used the term HNGs (horny net geeks) *chuckles*   But yea, just have your girl do like the other poster and have her put them on iggy once shes told them to contact you.  Or.. ya could have her be like My girl who totally bashes em with humiliation so bad they never email again. LOL

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RE: Proper protocol if any? - 4/15/2006 8:53:33 AM   
ExistentialSteel


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Status: offline 		As long as she is not getting into long back and forth emails with them, there is no harm. It shouldn't bother you. If she begins emailing with someone, discussing BDSM things, personal feelings and neglecting her emailing to you, you should be pissed at her being so inconsiderate and untrustworthy.

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RE: Proper protocol if any? - 4/15/2006 11:07:25 AM   
MasterRenegade77


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This Lifestyle is made up of humans and just as in the vanilla there are uncouth, rude, obnoxious,  buffoons that have no respect for themselves, anyone else or Time Honered Traditions &/or Protocols
Like someone else said, read your subs Mail first then Delete & Block as needed... No sense stressing about it, There have been & always will be assholes everywhere...

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RE: Proper protocol if any? - 4/15/2006 11:20:00 AM   
cariad


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quote:

This Lifestyle is made up of humans and just as in the vanilla there are uncouth, rude, obnoxious, buffoons that have no respect for themselves, anyone else or Time Honered Traditions &/or Protocols
Like someone else said, read your subs Mail first then Delete & Block as needed... No sense stressing about it, There have been & always will be assholes everywhere...


girl agrees 150% with MasterRenegade on this. girl has had it in her profile at one time she was collared and to direct any and all questions for her to her now former Owners email and His email was readily available to any who asked.

girl has since had Doms/Dommes email her on the site and she has mentioned to them that she has a "Protector" and that any meetings in person will have to go through Him and this is for my safety as well as theirs.

girl gave up on putting it in her profile because she kept getting emails from Doms and Dommes any way so now she just states to them please seek "name" at "yahoo id/email." and ask for permission to meet and that she will not meet just anyone as well as she needs to talk with them first......all that usual rederic (sp)

block them, make a couples account or like was suggested go ahead and make a time to check her emails and delete those you find offensive.

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RE: Proper protocol if any? - 4/15/2006 11:57:36 AM   
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Status: offline 		get use to it... block the person... and move on.

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RE: Proper protocol if any? - 4/15/2006 7:16:51 PM   
scratchingpost


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Status: offline 		Many people do not read profiles....that said those that do and still contact her might do it from a place of fear or arrogance because they do not want to ask her dominant permission...in any case i agree with those that say block them forget them they are not worth your effort and energy.

If I fail to go to a Dom/me (For a variety of reasons) and I know the person is Owned as I DO read profiles, I will state somewhere in there PLEASE THANK YOUR OWNER FOR PERMITTING ME TO SPEAK WTIH THEIR PROPERTY. it is out of respect for them AND their Owner a little politeness has let me in through many doors to meet some really great P/people and that few extra minutes I take to show it has provided me with ever so much more.

If I am interested in playing with someone elses toy I ASK to borrow I do not take what is not mine or try to take something that someone does not wish to give. I agree with You that it is rude and disrespectful of Y/you B/both and displays very poor manners. Those that flagrantly disregard Your wishes are truly people you most likely wouldn t want to have go near Your property anyway so ignoring them and deleting them and blocking them is of no loss to You whatsoever.

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RE: Proper protocol if any? - 4/15/2006 7:41:13 PM   
SirCumsSlut


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quote:

ORIGINAL: GentlemannDom

I'm curious about something,  when a submissive states on her profilie "Any males or doms that wish to talk to me, must first contact my dom "GentlemannDom" and ask permission to talk to me".

If a dom or male still emails her afterwards this is improper protocol or what?  I'm confused by this, would realy like to know what  should be done about the doms/masters who still insist on emailing my sub even though she has this on her profile?

In general I'm pretty pissed at this, it shows poor repsect to me, poor respect to her as well.   Besides pissing on what I see on how one should conduct themselves in the scene as a whole.

my two cents though.



My Sir has given me permission to "TELL THEM OFF" in any manner I see fit..........If they have that much ignorance to email me then 1) they are not a real Master and 2) they deserve whatever response I give them, and believe me I get down right nasty with them

Now this may not be applicable to every sub/slave, but in our M/s relationship, Sir has trained me to handle certain things myself as he is not always around

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RE: Proper protocol if any? - 4/15/2006 7:41:21 PM   
TemptingNviceSub


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Status: offline 		Of course poor protocol...I am sure however that your sub will be able to handle such poor manners in an appropriate manner..ie:..send off an e-mail informing them of their poor manners and after sent, blocking said individual..no muss..no fuss...be well..Tempting

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RE: Proper protocol if any? - 4/15/2006 7:51:09 PM   
Invictus754


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Status: offline 		GentlemannDom,

First, buy a Taser.  Then, find out where the nasty bastard lives and wait for him...knock on his door when you know he is inside, and when he opens the door Tase the hell out of him.  Then kick him in the ribs a few times while he is twitching on the floor like an epileptic fish out of water.  After that, grab a hand full of hair on the back of his head and raise it off the floor and gently whisper into his ear, "The NEXT time you email my property without permission, you won't get off this easy!"

That'll do it.  Repeat as necessary.


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RE: Proper protocol if any? - 4/15/2006 7:53:00 PM   
truesub4u


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Status: offline 		Before I say anything at all.... I'm going to ask a question. What the hell is the problem with someones property getting e-mails from someone? Seriously? You either tell them not to read them ...... just delete them right off the bat... no looking to see what's in them. Oh shit.... there's an idea..... Or you tell your property to handle it..... and you tell them how you want it handled... oh hell another idea.... Or you keep your property locked away from all others totally and off the internet....... oh hell .. yet another damn idea.

As it's been shoved down my throat on this board... there are assholes out there... there are profile reader... and non profile readers.... there are those that have respect... and those that do not. I understand you're complaint... and not flamming you. I just really do not see the big deal here? So I'm asking someone to explain it to me.




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RE: Proper protocol if any? - 4/15/2006 8:01:51 PM   
akisha


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quote:

ORIGINAL: truesub4u

You either tell them not to read them ...... just delete them right off the bat... no looking to see what's in them. Oh shit.... there's an idea..... Or you tell your property to handle it..... and you tell them how you want it handled... oh hell another idea.... Or you keep your property locked away from all others totally and off the internet....... oh hell .. yet another damn idea.




"Clapps and cheers truesub"

This is what i'd assume as well but some people have trouble with independant thought. Or have a need to make an irritation into a large problem.

We can not control the actions of others, just our own.



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RE: Proper protocol if any? - 4/15/2006 11:57:20 PM   
obis


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quote:

As it's been shoved down my throat on this board... there are assholes out there... there are profile reader... and non profile readers.... there are those that have respect... and those that do not. I understand you're complaint... and not flamming you. I just really do not see the big deal here? So I'm asking someone to explain it to me.


Yeah, i mean i can understand having the rule, but as everyone knows, expecting other people to obey the rules of your relationship is a battle you will lose every time, because you can't control other people. Even spending a nanosecond worrying about it is a nanosecond of your life that is wasted.

Personally, i say email my girl all you like. She laughs at the stupid ones, deletes the rude ones, and replies kindly to the polite ones. I read them from time to time for entertainment purposes, but other than that I could care less what some random person sends her, she's an adult and can take care of it. I trust her to let me know about anything I need to know.

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RE: Proper protocol if any? - 4/16/2006 12:26:08 AM   
ownedgirlie


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Status: offline 		There was a time long ago when Master would not have me converse with other Doms i did not know, and he had his reasons for it.  His rules were to protect me, and protect us, as i was still unsure of my footing and a bit too gullible.  When he had more confidence in my strength and abilities to handle others, he had and has no problem with my ability to handle myself.  There is time and place for things.  Some submissives need some extra care in the beginning.  This does not necessarily mean the Dominant wants or needs to keep property locked away - sometimes it is merely a training issue.  Not everyone is as strong and self assured as everyone else. 

As for those who contact a person with such a statement in her profile anyway...Predators often look for weakness.  If such a statement is in the submissive's profile, and the submissive responds to an email anyway, that can tell a predator a lot about the strength (or lack of) in her relationship with her dominant.  A submissive who is willing to disobey can also be lured.

Having said that, i will add to the collection of, "block the sender and move on" votes.  They aren't worth your while.

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