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RiotGirl -> RE: dont un-collar your slave third party (4/15/2006 10:20:34 AM)
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Kind of like Sex in the City, where whats her face got broken up by whats his face via a post it note. Kari or Carry, i think her name is. That was kind of funny actually.
LAM - i agree that breaking up is breaking up, yet some ways easier the others. Personally, breaking up via 3rd person is out of that realm. It shows cowardice. Pardon my french (plsplsplsplspls as its sooooooo called for), he's a pussy. Its like hiding behind some one else and having THEM do your dirty work.
Lets make it personal, similiar - but yet different. Maybe you could see it from a different way. Say, i went to some one and asked them to insult you and call you some unpleasant names. Granted you'd think it was absolutely ridiculous and wouldnt bother yourself much about it - BUT what would it tell you about me? You would, i'm sure, start to disregard me in a manner - as the behavior is retarded, amongst other things.
Different scenario, same 3rd party dirty work being done, and abit personal so you could put it into perspective. (hopefully of course)
Of course it could just be me. But if some one via some one else called me names and insulted me - it'd first be majorly laughable. But - i'd frankly consider the sender a (plsplsplsplsplspls) a pussy, with no back bone, little abililty to deal with reality - among other things. Heh. They of course wouldnt even be worth my time. Of course <wicked grin> i might take advantage of their lack of decency and strength, and uhh.. and have abit of fun with them for my amusement.
To the OP - i'm sorry he did this to you. i'm sorry he hurt you and i'm sorry your trust was broken. i'm also sorry that he wasnt the man you thought he was. i've never actually had the pleasure of running into some one who couldnt stand behind their words and had some one else do the "standing" i am sorry you're hurt. Try if you can and maybe in time, look at in a more amused light. As it is laughable behavior. Granted the effect it had on you was detrimental, but the behavior itself is laughable. Its quite funny actually = ) I mean really.... picture the one who delivered the news to you, and the Man hiding behind her peeking out from behind her while she gave the news. Most assurdly He did as i'm sure he had them tell him whatever went on between the two of you in the convo. i mean realllllllly, i know a certian 4 year old who acts like that. <grins> and its pretty funny then too! i always crack up as i think its kind of cute, childish behavior.
He probably did it in the way he did as he was fearful of your reaction. If he truely just did not care, he'd have no problem telling you hiimself, via phone even and hanging up when you got upset. Or just in person sitting there coldly whie you got upset. If he cared not, he'd of been able to do it himself. He'd of just done it and said "sucks for you" and moved on. But he DIDNT. He hid and peeked out. Imagine a grown man acting like a little boy, i'd give him 50's outfit i think.. or maybe its 20's hiding being a skirt. Probably sandy hair.. def brown eyes. <lolololol>
So you have a new image of him. Thankfully you found out now. As though it seems rough, 2 or 5 or even 10 years down the road, with so much time invested would be alot worse. A marriage invested would be much worse. Might be hard to believe, but you are better off and so i say count your blessings.
Once you get past the pain, anger, confusion - try viewing him as a 1920's little boy peeking out behind a woman's skirt and count yourself lucky.
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