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Why do Dommes tell you not to have an orgasm, then.......? - 7/7/2010 5:15:54 PM   
dex64


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The other night I was fortunate enough to get to play with a local Domme. This was preceeded by many e-mails, instructing me on things to do to myself. The most prevalent thing being edging myself MANY times. I wanted to do my best to please her and I did not cum as instructed. That was her property, and I readily agreed. Then I finally got the chance to be with her, and she was very impressive. I was very lucky indeed to get to spend time with her. After removing all my clothing, I went to my knees as instructed as she inspected me. She said I was a good boy for following all of her instructions and instructed me to get on the bed. Here comes the kicker. She told me under no circumstances was to cum without her permission. Not unheard of, but she immediately began to VIGOROUSLY massage my prostate and suck me off. After edging for several days, there was no possible way I was going to hold out for long. I was screaming and writhing around in complete sexual bliss (if you are a male and have ever had a good prostate massage, especially while being given a blowjob, you know where I am coming from), and sure enough after less than a minute I came hard. I was horrified and embarrassed at the same time. She licked up the huge mess I made and deposited it in my mouth. Then she said I was worthless to her since I couldn't even accomplish a simple request. She spanked me several times and told me to get dressed, leave and that she might get back to me. Total visit time, about 20 minutes. That was several nights ago and nothing further.

The question is, why would a domme demand that you don't cum then do everything in her power to make it happen and get mad because you didn't listen? I would understand if she was not attracted to me when we first met, but I assume she found be attractive since she didn't kick me to the curb at first inspection. Sorry this is so long, but I needed explain clearly. Thanks for any responses.
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RE: Why do Dommes tell you not to have an orgasm, then.... - 7/7/2010 5:20:35 PM   
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RE: Why do Dommes tell you not to have an orgasm, then.... - 7/7/2010 5:30:30 PM   
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Quite the lucky person you turned out to be.  A Domme brought you to orgasm and all she took for herself were a few strikes with the paddle.  You should sell the story to someone who produces porn.


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RE: Why do Dommes tell you not to have an orgasm, then.... - 7/7/2010 6:02:21 PM   
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Status: offline 		It was a setup for failure, done on purpose so she could exercise power over you, and then "punish" you for your "failure".

IMHO, a much more pleasureable, productive way to have done this would have been to let you know her plan beforehand, so that you'd be in on the joke. So that you could properly relish your own humiliation and funishment, instead of feeling shocked and "horrified".... But so she either didn't want you to know beforehand, or assumed that you'd know. If you don't get off on humiliation and funishment, I can see how this scenario wouldn't work for you. Maybe its just not your thing. Communicate your needs to her very plainly, so that she has a better idea of what works for you, in the future.

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RE: Why do Dommes tell you not to have an orgasm, then.... - 7/7/2010 8:54:32 PM   
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Status: offline 		control and humiliation are great encouragement. learning control in itself can be fun. i do hope that there was precautions against stds.

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RE: Why do Dommes tell you not to have an orgasm, then.... - 7/7/2010 8:55:59 PM   
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RE: Why do Dommes tell you not to have an orgasm, then.... - 7/8/2010 5:59:15 AM   
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ORIGINAL: dex64
... she immediately began to VIGOROUSLY massage my prostate and suck me off. ... I came hard. ...She licked up the huge mess I made...


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ORIGINAL: LPslittleclip
... i do hope that there was precautions against stds.


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ORIGINAL: dex64
100%


Anyone else see the incongruity between these statements? 


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RE: Why do Dommes tell you not to have an orgasm, then.... - 7/8/2010 6:27:54 AM   
dex64


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ORIGINAL: OttersSwim

quote:

ORIGINAL: dex64
... she immediately began to VIGOROUSLY massage my prostate and suck me off. ... I came hard. ...She licked up the huge mess I made...


quote:

ORIGINAL: LPslittleclip
... i do hope that there was precautions against stds.


quote:

ORIGINAL: dex64
100%


Anyone else see the incongruity between these statements? 




Geeze, Now I remember why I said I wouldn't post here again......Guess I should have listened to myself

Ok, make it 99%

There were precautions taken that I left out to provide at least a little brevity in my original post. If you want to hear about their use, I will be more than happy to post them.

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RE: Why do Dommes tell you not to have an orgasm, then.... - 7/8/2010 6:40:29 AM   
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RE: Why do Dommes tell you not to have an orgasm, then.... - 7/8/2010 8:03:05 AM   
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Status: offline 		99% safer sex practices don't exist with a guy who doesn't use a condom when he cheats on his wife.

Just sayin'

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RE: Why do Dommes tell you not to have an orgasm, then.... - 7/8/2010 8:14:44 AM   
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99% safer sex practices don't exist with a guy who doesn't use a condom when he cheats on his wife.

Just sayin'

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How's that for honesty?


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RE: Why do Dommes tell you not to have an orgasm, then.... - 7/8/2010 9:26:51 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: OttersSwim

quote:

ORIGINAL: BoiJen

99% safer sex practices don't exist with a guy who doesn't use a condom when he cheats on his wife.

Just sayin'

boi

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How's that for honesty?


Playing the devil's advocate here, but the fact he is married and played with another woman doesn't really affect the question in his original post. Plus, we don't know if the wife knows about these plays he has with other women. If she does, he could still be an honest person, since if his story is right, I could imagine his wife agreeing to him playing bondage games with others, if she's really suffering from her surgery and doesn't feel like intimate contact at all.

Like I said, we don't know, but I don't think we should go and call him dishonest from the start.

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RE: Why do Dommes tell you not to have an orgasm, then.... - 7/8/2010 9:35:09 AM   
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RE: Why do Dommes tell you not to have an orgasm, then.... - 7/8/2010 9:35:14 AM   
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ORIGINAL: gedienstig

Playing the devil's advocate here, but the fact he is married and played with another woman doesn't really affect the question in his original post. Plus, we don't know if the wife knows about these plays he has with other women. If she does, he could still be an honest person, since if his story is right, I could imagine his wife agreeing to him playing bondage games with others, if she's really suffering from her surgery and doesn't feel like intimate contact at all.

Like I said, we don't know, but I don't think we should go and call him dishonest from the start.


He uses the "discreet" word... which means she doesn't know. Plus, to give up on sex with your wife because she has no interest due to hormone changes? Well, I'll tell ya. If SHE is not interested in pursuing a solution to that, it says a hell of a lot about the state of their marriage.

So, yeah, no honesty points here. But lots of bonus for edgy sex!!

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RE: Why do Dommes tell you not to have an orgasm, then.... - 7/8/2010 9:48:08 AM   
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ORIGINAL: gedienstig
Playing the devil's advocate here, but the fact he is married and played with another woman doesn't really affect the question in his original post. Plus, we don't know if the wife knows about these plays he has with other women. If she does, he could still be an honest person, since if his story is right, I could imagine his wife agreeing to him playing bondage games with others, if she's really suffering from her surgery and doesn't feel like intimate contact at all.

Like I said, we don't know, but I don't think we should go and call him dishonest from the start.

Exactly where is the bondage game in the post?

Hey, if his wife is all for him spending 20 minutes with this 'domme' who basically sucked him off at the first meet to make him cum, it doesn't surprise Me a bit that she isn't interested in sex with him.  I'd say it has a lot less to do with the surgery than her knowing her husband gets involved with folks who don't care about safe sex practices.  Is that somebody you would want to sleep with?


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RE: Why do Dommes tell you not to have an orgasm, then.... - 7/8/2010 10:00:31 AM   
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I could be reading the OP wrong...where's the "bondage game" in this?

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RE: Why do Dommes tell you not to have an orgasm, then.... - 7/8/2010 10:05:00 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: gedienstig

quote:

ORIGINAL: OttersSwim

quote:

ORIGINAL: BoiJen

99% safer sex practices don't exist with a guy who doesn't use a condom when he cheats on his wife.

Just sayin'

boi

(Read his profile)



How's that for honesty?


Playing the devil's advocate here, but the fact he is married and played with another woman doesn't really affect the question in his original post. Plus, we don't know if the wife knows about these plays he has with other women. If she does, he could still be an honest person, since if his story is right, I could imagine his wife agreeing to him playing bondage games with others, if she's really suffering from her surgery and doesn't feel like intimate contact at all.

Like I said, we don't know, but I don't think we should go and call him dishonest from the start.


You're really not that naive are you?

Let's be real. He's likely married, suffering the straight form of lesbian bed death, and I'd bet dollars to doughnuts his wife is completely healthy and he's just trying for sympathy or some other manner to get other people to justify his infidelity.

I don't know about you or a lot of people in the world, but a great deal of the Fem Doms (and even Otter...cuz he's the only guy I saw posting) here take making such a promise or commitment quite seriously. Breaking said promise cuz you want a blow job makes you a douchebage and an asshole. And in this case...a good candidate for herpes, syphilis, and a host of other disease.

Jusat sayin...

boi

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RE: Why do Dommes tell you not to have an orgasm, then.... - 7/8/2010 10:05:17 AM   
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Hey, if his wife is all for him spending 20 minutes with this 'domme' who basically sucked him off at the first meet to make him cum, it doesn't surprise Me a bit that she isn't interested in sex with him.  I'd say it has a lot less to do with the surgery than her knowing her husband gets involved with folks who don't care about safe sex practices.  Is that somebody you would want to sleep with?
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Exactly, thank you.

Snowballing is yummy, unless either party (or both) may be crawling with disease. Then, not so much.

If I were his wife, the idea of having sex with him not knowing who he'd been with or what they'd been doing, would be super creepy. I'd avoid it indefinitely. That's just common sense. Something the OP sorely lacks, apparently.

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RE: Why do Dommes tell you not to have an orgasm, then.... - 7/8/2010 10:23:09 AM   
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ORIGINAL: gedienstig
Playing the devil's advocate here, but the fact he is married and played with another woman doesn't really affect the question in his original post. Plus, we don't know if the wife knows about these plays he has with other women. If she does, he could still be an honest person, since if his story is right, I could imagine his wife agreeing to him playing bondage games with others, if she's really suffering from her surgery and doesn't feel like intimate contact at all.

Like I said, we don't know, but I don't think we should go and call him dishonest from the start.

Exactly where is the bondage game in the post?

Hey, if his wife is all for him spending 20 minutes with this 'domme' who basically sucked him off at the first meet to make him cum, it doesn't surprise Me a bit that she isn't interested in sex with him.  I'd say it has a lot less to do with the surgery than her knowing her husband gets involved with folks who don't care about safe sex practices.  Is that somebody you would want to sleep with?


No, I wouldn't want to sleep with a girl who sleeps around, safe or unsafe. But there is a slight chance (even though I am more inclined to believe he just cheats on his wife) that his entire story was true. Well, I read she secured him to the bed, rather than instructed him to the bed (talk about reading what you wanted to read ;-)), and his profile said he was mainly interested in bondage games, that's why I brought up the bondage game. It was a misread of my part, this changes the story quite a bit of course.

But heck, I'm probably still too naive and have too much faith in man(kind) due to not enough negative experiences.

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RE: Why do Dommes tell you not to have an orgasm, then.... - 7/8/2010 3:32:55 PM   
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Sorry I asked. Since I can't remove the subject, I will just bow out and remove my subscription to my own question and ignore this string in the future.

You all decide amongst yourselves if you want to continue to bash me for asking a simple question. I won't take part.

Thanks for everything. No really, I mean it.

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