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RE: subs or slaves online - 4/15/2006 10:27:59 PM   
cariad


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Status: offline 		*shakes her head reading the post from the OP*

as was said afore "Ain't sayin it, No Way, No How, NUH UH, NINE."

ok so girl got a bit carried away with her response........lol


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RE: subs or slaves online - 4/15/2006 10:32:17 PM   
PlayfulOne


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RE: subs or slaves online - 4/15/2006 10:50:37 PM   
CrappyDom


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From: Sacramento
Status: offline 		Gee, where is the acceptance and respect I hear so much about?

Ulrich, I think playing online is silly but for those in the boonies there may not be much else.  Anyway, do yourself a favor and force your two lucky girls to read Dossie Easton's book about how better to serve a man called The Bottoming Book.  Trust me, you won't believe the results it will have!

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RE: subs or slaves online - 4/15/2006 10:55:16 PM   
Daddysredhead


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From: Northern (yet still part of the South) Virginia
Status: offline 		I was thinking that the OP is probably running from these replies. 

Kind of reminds me of a girl I knew who was telling me that she was "in the lifestyle" because she met a guy in a vanilla chatroom who told her to be on her knees at her front door ready to give him a blowjob in thirty minutes after they finished introducing themselves to each other, which she did.  (Eewwww!!!)     I told her that didn't constitute a D/s relationship, but rather a couple of horny idiots who obviously had no regard for safety or health issues.

I think that some folks just don't get it...  BDSM isn't an umbrella to stuff all kinds of risky behavior under, but some people do it, and then get upset when they get a reality check later on.  Oh well...

< Message edited by Daddysredhead -- 4/15/2006 11:12:20 PM >

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RE: subs or slaves online - 4/15/2006 11:05:08 PM   
Daddysredhead


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quote:

ORIGINAL: CrappyDom
Anyway, do yourself a favor and force your two lucky girls to read Dossie Easton's book about how better to serve a man called The Bottoming Book. 


IMHO, if the girls are really "into" learning about the lifestyle, they won't need to be forced.  I read this book when I met my Master because I wanted to understand on my own, and be a good submissive for Him as we became more involved.  I asked Him if there was anything that I could read to educate myself and He gave me suggestions.  I also read John Warren's book, The Loving Dominant, to understand the relationship from His perspective.  My Master has many years of experience in the lifestyle though, so I am grateful that nothing has ever needed to be "forced" upon me.  Again... just mho...

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RE: subs or slaves online - 4/16/2006 1:26:10 AM   
acctonthelook


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Status: offline 		As you stated you have two girls 'who want to be slaves'.  It's not like you are forcing them, they are asking you is what I'm reading.

You may also be able to find a Master willing to mentor you as well in other areas.    Good Luck.

quote:

ORIGINAL: masterulrich

I got a couple woman who want to be slaves. I suggested we start online to evaluate there talents, give me a chance to know them better & So they can decide if this is what they realy want. 

I'm seeking advice on how to proceed with there training. The idea is to work them up to a point in a couple weeks where we'd be meeting in real life if everything works out.



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RE: subs or slaves online - 4/16/2006 9:10:50 AM   
ownedgirlie


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quote:

ORIGINAL: CrappyDom

Gee, where is the acceptance and respect I hear so much about?


It is selective

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RE: subs or slaves online - 4/16/2006 9:44:38 AM   
gooddogbenji


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Status: offline 		I would like to say that I am possibly one of the most accepting people, I take it to a logical extreme.  To each their own...

However, if someone posts on a public forum, they will get opinions.  Some abrasive, some stated as facts, some actually very good.

To me, the OP seemed to ask a question - What should I do? - and heard back - You should know that before you get yourself into this.  There was no judging of an online relationship, no judging of polyamoury, simply a (near) consensus that a Dom, or Master, should know what he gets himself into.

I think the only person who actually judged the online thing was, well...  the guy who asked about acceptance...   But that's just my selective perception....

Yours,


benji

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RE: subs or slaves online - 4/16/2006 1:29:03 PM   
enthralled


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quote:

Train them to do what?
 
You're gonna find it very difficult to train any sub/slave to serve your needs when you apparently have no idea what *your needs* are....  If you're unable to lead, don't be surprised if no-one's following.  Good luck with that!
 
I've owned slaves but I never had to train them on how to meet - we sorta went with the like-minded, mature adults with common goals method....
 
Focus.


quote:

If you had no idea how to proceed with their online training, then why in God's name did you suggest it?

You are supposed to be the master and they the slaves...so presumably they are expecting you to have at lleast a vague idea as to what it is you want......I am afraid they are likely to be sadly disappointed.

However, on the bright side, you are in the running for the prestigious HNG of the Week award.



Thank you Sirs . . . now I can retain the title of 'good girl' today! <lol>


Respectfully,
enthralled


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RE: subs or slaves online - 4/16/2006 3:13:15 PM   
LaMalinche


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Status: offline 		Recipie:  Disaster

Ingredients:
1  ex-girlfriend
1 FOF
1 HNG Dom

First start with the idea that you are going to turn these girls into slaves.  Make sure you have no idea what this means or requires.  Log onto CollarMe to get advise.  Next, seperate EX from FOF.  Then mix in some cyber.  When you think things are on top of the world. . . because how can you REALLY check. . . pop into a real life situation.  Watch the explosion.
Enjoy being roasted over the coals


Is it just me, or does it seem like a really really really bad idea to try to make a slave out of an ex-girlfriend?

*pops popcorn and grabs diet coke to watch the betting*


Best,

LaMalinche


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RE: subs or slaves online - 4/16/2006 3:15:31 PM   
Dustyn


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Status: offline 		Anyone ever consider that perhaps this dude posted this JUST to get a rise out of you guys?

He just might be getting the best laugh of all of us.


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RE: subs or slaves online - 4/16/2006 3:18:36 PM   
proudsub


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quote:

I'm seeking advice on how to proceed with there training


When i  had an online dom the first thing he did was give me his rules when chatting with him--things like what to wear (if i had panties on he would leave the chat), when to turn on my cam, to always address him as Master, never to correct my spelling or typos if it could be read, etc. That might be a starting point.

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RE: subs or slaves online - 4/16/2006 3:21:00 PM   
gooddogbenji


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Status: offline 		LaMalinche,

First off, we might be here a while.  Martini?  Wine?  Rum for in the coke? 

Second, it does not seem like a bad idea.  As a masochist, I think I would enjoy the aftermath if it were me.  And any sadist would love to watch!  Seems like a new reality show, now that I think of it!

So what I would like to say to all the people who posted here before:  Why did you chase him away?  It would have been far more entertaining to watch from a safe distance!

*Wanders off, shaking his head, to make the perfect Martini*

Yours,


benji

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RE: subs or slaves online - 4/16/2006 3:28:48 PM   
Arpig


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Status: offline 		Ah...the bravery of being out of range
Are you sure you're a masochist...you seem to be a very devious sadist to me at times benji



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RE: subs or slaves online - 4/16/2006 3:40:09 PM   
gooddogbenji


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Status: offline 		Okay, I admit it....  Seeing the right person in pain is oh sooooo much fun!!!!  The right person being, of course, anyone who's fun to watch when they're in pain... 

But yes, I am most definitely a masochist!

Yours,


benji

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RE: subs or slaves online - 4/16/2006 3:46:09 PM   
dave1212


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From: Lancashire UK
Status: offline 		Well i have been reading this Urrrm "let's call it a debate" for a little while now and all i can say to the OP is "The best way to train a sub/slave on line is"..........Wait for it...........On a F**king Railway line.........

And before you all jump on me i am a "submisive" but i just could not resist that little joke..

I will shuffle off now and go back into my little dark corner..  

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RE: subs or slaves online - 4/17/2006 11:16:55 PM   
understud


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Status: offline 		Hello from a newbe...Can anyone explain just why my hoped for future owner would even want me pre-trained.  How can academies on line or not teach me how to serve my owner. All of their likes and dislikes, unless the owner just wanted to send me there...that said, for what purpose, they could never know the owners preferences better than the slave than tends them. And that said couldn't training academies on line or not actually be harmful in that they could establish patterns of behavior the owner finds offensive?...very confusing...This is probably a stupid reply so i will take cover and wait for the shelling to begin...respectfully of course...

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RE: subs or slaves online - 4/17/2006 11:39:53 PM   
Rayne58


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quote:

ORIGINAL: understud

Hello from a newbe...Can anyone explain just why my hoped for future owner would even want me pre-trained. How can academies on line or not teach me how to serve my owner. All of their likes and dislikes, unless the owner just wanted to send me there...that said, for what purpose, they could never know the owners preferences better than the slave than tends them. And that said couldn't training academies on line or not actually be harmful in that they could establish patterns of behavior the owner finds offensive?...very confusing...This is probably a stupid reply so i will take cover and wait for the shelling to begin...respectfully of course...


I'm thinking some people confuse "training" with "experience". I have been with Master for just over two years and He is my first Dom. All the "training" I have had has been learning how to please Him. If in the future I was to have another Dom, he would "train" me in the ways he would like me to serve him. My "experience" with Master would give me ideas on what to expect, but no two Doms are the same and my former "training" would no doubt be put aside in favour of my current Dom's wishes.

Hope that made sense

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RE: subs or slaves online - 4/17/2006 11:46:43 PM   
JohnWarren


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Status: offline 		In my opinion, you are completely correct.  Submission is perfected based on the needs of a specific dominant.  A third party might train you in specific skills but unless they are the ones needed by your dominant the effort is wasted

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RE: subs or slaves online - 4/18/2006 5:31:07 AM   
Arpig


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Status: offline 		I don't really know, but if this is an online "academy", then perhaps the hoped for new owner is either lazy, or unsure of what he wants.

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