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starymists -> RE: SSC? (4/16/2006 7:39:23 AM)
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My own two cents...SSC has been around for a while. Prior to the age of the internet, at least where I am from, SSC was as beneficial to the Dominant as it was to the submissive. If you go back to the late 80s/early 90s, SSC usually involved a discussion of limits, wants and needs. But to explain...
SSC works to protect the Dominant as well as the submissive. For example, if you've say, caned someone and left some nasty bruises n welts, you leave yourself open for her to say you've assaulted her, because perhaps you've taken her farther than she wanted to go. Back then, people got arrested if they couldn't prove that there was some level of consent to those activities. Today, that is no different. You leave yourself wide open for rape and assault charges if you have no way of proving consent.
For the submissive, it guards against Dominants that would perhaps behave in less than ethical ways, such as breaking the law, causing permanant damage...death. Many of us have our scars from not playing safe at one time or another. Taking risks that maybe in retrospect, we shouldn't have taken.
I suppose its easy to poo-poo SSC if you're an ethical person, or if you're in a committed relationship in which you can trust your partner, or if you don't play with those you don't trust. But for others, its a way to stay safe.
On the flip side, in our search for a third, I've noticed that there are a lot of people that use SSC to top from the bottom, which isn't OK either. But when used appropriately, SSC has its time and place.
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