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ORIGINAL: SomoneReal

Turn off the TV, shut the book, and let me know what you think.

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ORIGINAL: Lucienne

My suspicion: you are frustrated by your inability to have a satisfying relationship with a woman.

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ORIGINAL: gungadin09

i don't know if "worship" is the right word. i think that men (as a general rule) chase women more than women chase men. i think this fact mostly boils down to hormones and stuff, especially in younger people. i think it's fair to say that men treat women differently than men treat other men. Sometimes the women come out ahead in this game, and sometimes not. i know people get tired of hearing my restaurant stories, but here goes...

i've been the only woman in many kitchens where i've worked. i'm often treated differently for being a woman. On the one hand, i don't get yelled as as much, or as harshly (on average, i mean). The other cooks are often less critical of me, more inclined to let my mistakes slide. They make allowances for me that they wouldn't make for a man. They are also less inclined to ask me to do really physical or dirty tasks, like taking out the trash, or cleaning the oven or walk in cooler. They are gentler with me. They also talk differently around me: more formal and guarded, more polite, less genuine, less direct, less jovial and relaxed. i don't like it. i wish i was treated in the same manner as everyone else. i wish i could be judged solely on the basis of my performance, instead of according to my sex. i try very hard to earn that kind of respect by my work-- not allowing others to outperform me, expecting the same level of work from myself as from everyone else... In spite of this fact, i am often not taken as seriously as my male counterparts.

On the other hand, i've met women in the industry who use their sex as a crutch; trying to "get away" with shit, and feigning "hurt feelings" when they're called on it. There are women the world over trying to get by on their looks, just as there are women desperately trying to be taken seriously in spite of them.

To answer your question: i don't know if men are being programmed by society to "worship" women. i wish they wouldn't. i don't want to be taken for a princess or a doormat. i just want to be seen for who i am.

pam

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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

So tell me op, when was the last time you brought flowers and candy to the women in your life? Mother's Day doesn't count.

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ORIGINAL: gungadin09

3. flowers and candy on Valentines Day. No offense, DesFIP, but i think you may have just proven the OP's point. i have never sent flowers and candy to any boyfriend of mine.

pam