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domiguy -> RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female (7/14/2010 7:21:40 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sexyred1 Sadly, I agree with Domiguy here. Why does everyone have to say this kind of shit? It's okay to agree with me. I am the voice of reason. What the fuck. Has Domi become the new Pa? Every time I post you fuckers should be doing this..... quote: ORIGINAL: domiguy I agree. But there are a shit load of people that cheat that do not seem to care. What are the statistics on cheating? If this was some sort of an isolated incident I would be more opinionated. This is not pedophilia or some other wacked out practice. this is something regularly undertaken by millions of people. All I'm saying is at least the guy makes his case in his profile. He makes it is easy for people who are not searching for a "cheater" to avoid him. For that he deserves some props. I use the word "props" only because I am trying to bang MissAssylum.....I am so dope! This. -------- When people start threads you fuckers should just chill and anxiously await my response and then applaud it for it's depth and understanding. (I only use the word "chill" because I think Miss Assylum would dig that kind of shit)

Jasmineinbloom -> RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female (7/14/2010 7:23:07 AM)
Domiguy quoted me! I have arrived!

laurell3 -> RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female (7/14/2010 7:23:15 AM)
Actually I agree with Domi as well. I'm not the fidelity police. People cheat all the time. However, he asked a question about why his search is so difficult. The most likely answer is that he has very little to offer someone given his married and cheating status. If he is honest about it and finds someone willing to take that risk as well as dealing with his lack of honesty to his spouse, who cares? It's odd to me that this paticular stone is thrown around here so often. It's seems rather incongruent to me that we accept all sorts of odd things that my be harmful but cheating is so horribly overreacted to.

LadyPact -> RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female (7/14/2010 7:27:03 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: laurell3 Actually I agree with Domi as well. I'm not the fidelity police. People cheat all the time. However, he asked a question about why his search is so difficult. The most likely answer is that he has very little to offer someone given his married and cheating status. If he is honest about it and finds someone willing to take that risk as well as dealing with his lack of honesty to his spouse, who cares? It's odd to me that this paticular stone is thrown around here so often. It's seems rather incongruent to me that we accept all sorts of odd things that my be harmful but cheating is so horribly overreacted to. It may very well have to do with the fact that our activities draw a line at harming others. That wiitwd is supposed to be based on the concept that the people involved have consented to participate. His wife hasn't consented to being cheated on.

domiguy -> RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female (7/14/2010 7:31:34 AM)
Thanks Laurell! Not even a trace of a condescending attitude. Thanks for pointing out how nice bentunits tits are. You are right she is very attractive. Now off to cause trouble elsewhere.

laurell3 -> RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female (7/14/2010 7:38:39 AM)
Yep, I do see the distinction LP, I just don't think our glass houses are really as tidy as people like to express. It's easy to say what we do is consentual and not harmful, but I am fully aware that every time I play I take a risk at being harmed. It's a risk I accept. In the vanilla world I would be highly criticised for taking that risk and most likely my mental health would be scrutinized. I'm not going to accept my glass house and say it's cleaner than anyone else's is. I'm aware that others may vehemently disagree with me and they are certainly welcome to and I see their side of it. It is however, my personal opinion that cheating is not the end of the world albeit an incredibly foolish way to deal with a difficult marriage. Would I play with him? Hell no. But I do feel he has the right to engage in his risky behavior just as all the rest of us do.

BentUnit -> RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female (7/14/2010 7:45:44 AM)
Why do I feel both complimented and offended that you like my tits, Domi?

laurell3 -> RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female (7/14/2010 7:48:43 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: domiguy Thanks Laurell! Not even a trace of a condescending attitude. Thanks for pointing out how nice bentunits tits are. You are right she is very attractive. Now off to cause trouble elsewhere. Pfft! Bent has nice tits (really she does, they're fantastic). Now where's my jersey DG? [8D]

LaTigresse -> RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female (7/14/2010 7:49:19 AM)
Using fast reply... This topic falls into the category of refusing to legislate (used in a much broader way here) other people's morality. Do I think the OP is a scum ball, of course. But We are talking about adults here and quite honestly, the woman married him. I will even go out on the proverbial limb and say that I believe the greater percentage of married people that cheat, showed enough red flags both prior and after the marriage, as to the type of person they were. It is unfortunate that the people they married did not see, usually even refused to see, those red flags. I don't think it is EVER really as simple as poor, ignorant, victim spouse getting shit on by terrible, evil, cheating spouse. The ignorant victims are usually ignorant by choice, either consciously or subconsciously. That does not absolve the cheater at all. Just saying that the wife probably knows and if she behaves as though she doesn't, she is either fooling him and/or herself. Big picture, I think all parties get exactly what they want/think they deserve.

BDSMPleasures -> RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female (7/14/2010 7:50:46 AM)
Thank you..

LaTigresse -> RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female (7/14/2010 7:52:43 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BDSMPleasures Thank you.. Dude, don't hurt your arm/shoulder patting yourself on the back. We all still think you are a putz.

BentUnit -> RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female (7/14/2010 7:54:09 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BDSMPleasures Thank you.. We are talking ABOUT you slime ball, not to you. Now, STFU!!

Jeffff -> RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female (7/14/2010 7:56:32 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LaTigresse quote: ORIGINAL: BDSMPleasures Thank you.. Dude, don't hurt your arm/shoulder patting yourself on the back. We all still think you are a putz. Yeah, we just support is right to putzery. "putzery is not the kinda word that is gonna turn MissA on is it?

laurell3 -> RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female (7/14/2010 7:56:32 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LaTigresse quote: ORIGINAL: BDSMPleasures Thank you.. Dude, don't hurt your arm/shoulder patting yourself on the back. We all still think you are a putz. Agreed. Whether you are an attractive potential mate and whether we have the right to be the morality police are two different issues. As I stated very early in this thread, if you really want to make your search easier, deal with your marriage issue. One of the highest priorities on my list when looking for a prospective partner is honesty. You lack it and there's no getting around that. Trust is very important in wiitwd, your situation makes that trust rather conditional in my opinion.

NYLass -> RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female (7/14/2010 7:58:16 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BentUnit quote: ORIGINAL: BDSMPleasures Thank you.. We are talking ABOUT you slime ball, not to you. Now, STFU!! Best comment yet.

WinsomeDefiance -> RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female (7/14/2010 8:03:05 AM)
Yep, you are pretty much not fucked, OP. You say 28% cheat? Well, of the 28%, how many are female? How many are into BDSM/D's? Options are limited. Then you factor in your inherent distrust, and inequitable demands of proving oneself when you are unable to do so yourself. Well, yeah. NOT fucked. Royally. Have no fear. If nothing else, I've learned that for every dumbass, self-destructive, lying, cheating motherfucker - there is another just like him with tits. Hang in there. You'll find someone to fuck up your marraige with in no time. May you reap all the rewards of what you deserve, WinD

DarkSteven -> RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female (7/14/2010 8:37:58 AM)
Hey, Jeffff, you have laurel and are keeping LaT as your les Domme on the side, and you're still wondering about turning on MissA? The OP could take lessons from you...

NYLass -> RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female (7/14/2010 8:42:30 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DarkSteven Hey, Jeffff, you have laurel and are keeping LaT as your les Domme on the side, and you're still wondering about turning on MissA? The OP could take lessons from you... Anteaters are teh hawtest, yanno.

wandersalone -> RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female (7/14/2010 8:49:17 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BDSMPleasures A friend suggested I post a message here as it helped her find her Dom. Dayum they must really hate you!! [:D] You have had a trial by fire with your posting here on the intro thread. There is a possibility that on the CM side you may have more success in finding a married woman who wants to submit to a dominant who cannot sort out his marital issues. Kudos to you for stating on your profile that you are married. Have a think about what you can offer the submissive - how often will you be able to see them, how often will you be able to contact them, will they be able to call you the night after a scene if they are experiencing sub drop, will aftercare need to be brief to enable you to get home before your wife gets suspicious do you see any incongruence between calling yourself a dominant and not having the internal strength to sort out your own unhappy primary relationship what if you fall in love with the submissive what if they fall in love with you what if either or both spouses find out are there children involved and if so what will the impact be if your affair/s is/are discovered ..... I could come up with a million more questions but these are just a start I wish you all the best....grins, need I mention that you may need it!! (is it just me or do married men get way more flak than married women seeking a bit on the side?)

LaTigresse -> RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female (7/14/2010 8:52:27 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DarkSteven Hey, Jeffff, you have laurel and are keeping LaT as your les Domme on the side, and you're still wondering about turning on MissA? The OP could take lessons from you... Ahem........who is keeping WHO???

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