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DCWoody -> RE: Huh? (7/13/2010 11:41:05 AM)
"Where else should they get their ideas? Who cares about the "history" of ms relationships? Does such a thing even exist? Shouldn't it be about finding whatever dynamic works for the individuals involved?" This.

Jeffff -> RE: Huh? (7/13/2010 11:42:16 AM)
It is entirely possible I am cranky today. :) But there has also been a fair amount of sneering at people who might like it a little edgier.

juliaoceania -> RE: Huh? (7/13/2010 11:45:22 AM)
You kink is not my kink but your kink is okay... otherwise known as YKINMKBYKIO

mnottertail -> RE: Huh? (7/13/2010 11:46:37 AM)
IDCWYKI,BM. I dont care what your kink is, blow me.

Jeffff -> RE: Huh? (7/13/2010 11:47:16 AM)
That's what we SAY...... how many actually believe it? I want a hoppy beer!

AQuietSimpleMan -> RE: Huh? (7/13/2010 11:57:25 AM)
I think some people are not seeing what is happening. I agree to a degree that this lifestyle is getting so soft, I question why they would be interested in the BDSM Lifestyle, If fact I would wonder what the draw is when Bondage/Discipline/Sadomasochism is wattered down to what I see in some of these threads. The problem is YKINMYBYKIO is that when someone says Your Kink is Okay, they then spend a good paragraph putting it down to such a degree that it becomes obvious that my kink is not okay with them. When these voices are met with conflict they profane that they said whatever works for you, while under their breat they say "You sick fucking freak" Guess what everything you can think of SOMEONE gets off on it. But this lifestyle DOES have a Past, It has a History, and it's History is based in Authority and Fetish, things many people were interested and knew wasn't a socially accepted idea. I OWN my partner, If she wants to stay with me she will surrender to my will, I do not always care if she LIKES what I am doing, it is Our Relationship. AND IT WORKS. It is at times Violent, and Painful, and Controvercial..... but it is what makes us happy. Anyone is able to do what makes them happy, even if that means that your "Master" only spanks you softly on Tuesdays and only in the bedroom with no Power Dynamic and you get to say No to whatever you want and tell him exactly what he is and is not allowed to do to you... You are WELCOME to DO whatever you want.... But I don't see it as BDSM and I don't have to address it as such. You like slap and Tickle, you're Kinky and have a Fetish, but if you want me to accept you as being a Part of my lifesytle, if you expect ME to address you as such.... Then YES I want to see that you have a mild understanding of the History that started this Lifestyle in the first place. QSM

marie2 -> RE: Huh? (7/13/2010 12:00:12 PM)
I don't know if this is so much about "your kink my kink" as much as it's about a level of "extreme" being judged. Yes the softer ones judge the edgier ones and vice versa. No argument there.

Jeffff -> RE: Huh? (7/13/2010 12:01:45 PM)
I don't have a lifestyle. I do what I do. I support the right of others to do what they want to do. I have just been finding it odd how many "bland" things have some folks up in arms

WinsomeDefiance -> RE: Huh? (7/13/2010 12:03:22 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Jeffff On a current thread I just learned drooling is gross. On another thread I learned anal sex is a hard limit. On yet another some folks are being chastised for not falling in love before they play. We have had some posters here lately who thing beating a person is a BAD BAD thing. And of course, we must remember to treat even the stupidest newbies with respect. When did this place turn into Castle Realm? I agree with you, about the oddities of recent threads, I sometimes wonder why a great many people who post on CM forums are even on a BDSM site. There is one thing I'd like to say though. I know that Castle Realm is considered light and fluffy, but I remember it kind of differently. I'd always felt that the the slave, (think her name was Jade?) and her Master shared a very loving and dedicated M/s relationship. It seems a shame that the positive information they compiled and shared is so greatly scorned today.

AQuietSimpleMan -> RE: Huh? (7/13/2010 12:07:45 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Jeffff I don't have a lifestyle. I do what I do. In effect making what you do... Your Lifestyle.. If it does not reflect the lifestyle lived my your peers as being reflected by your desire to act freely on your desires then you like an Alternative Lifestyle, if that lifestyle reflects a propensity toward BDSM you life a BDSM Lifestyle....... Since when did Lifestyle becomes this issue..... a Lifestyle is the style in which you live your life. QSM

marie2 -> RE: Huh? (7/13/2010 12:08:44 PM)
I have to admit to having scorned castle realm, but not for the romanticism aspects and those who enjoy them, but the fact that the whole "story" seemed phony to me and more of a marketing ploy. Of course I could be wrong, but that has been my impression. That of course doesn't mean there is nothing of value to be found there; I suppose it's another case of take what you need and leave the rest.

Jeffff -> RE: Huh? (7/13/2010 12:10:44 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: AQuietSimpleMan quote: ORIGINAL: Jeffff I don't have a lifestyle. I do what I do. In effect making what you do... Your Lifestyle.. If it does not reflect the lifestyle lived my your peers as being reflected by your desire to act freely on your desires then you like an Alternative Lifestyle, if that lifestyle reflects a propensity toward BDSM you life a BDSM Lifestyle....... Since when did Lifestyle becomes this issue..... a Lifestyle is the style in which you live your life. QSM I hate the term. I also loath "community". I hate to be pigeon holed. I am a contrary individual and an iconoclast.

AQuietSimpleMan -> RE: Huh? (7/13/2010 12:12:55 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: marie2 I have to admit to having scorned castle realm, but not for the romanticism aspects and those who enjoy them, but the fact that the whole "story" seemed phony to me and more of a marketing ploy. Of course I could be wrong, but that has been my impression. That of course doesn't mean there is nothing of value to be found there; I suppose it's another case of take what you need and leave the rest. Met Kolm and jade before she passed away they were some of the first people I met in this lifestyle. VERY NICE PEOPLE... Can't Market something you aren't selling. Castle Realm was free, and a Resource that was easily available when nothing else was. It was Light and Fluffy..... because it was based on LOVE and not on Obedience. Everything they did was done with love. Most of what was up on Castle Realm wasn't even thier stuff. about 80% of it was written by other people and posted in their Library. I get Pissed when people put down Castle Realm.... I usually ask, And what have YOU done to offer a Resource for people asking questions in this lifestyle.... Told them to use the Search Button? At Least they put themselves out there COMPLETELY and offered anyone who wanted something to learn from. QSM

AQuietSimpleMan -> RE: Huh? (7/13/2010 12:17:50 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Jeffff I hate the term. I also loath "community". I hate to be pigeon holed. I am a contrary individual and an iconoclast. Granted and I can understand why when these terms are used to Exclude rather than Include... When someone says THE community or THE lifestyle it is easy to think they are comparing you to what they do.... when I use the terms In my head they are all seperate things but have a common interest. Community is what it is.... It is the people you interact with. My PHYSICAL community as in my neighborhood is made op if all sorts of people I don't care for. I do not get to choose who is part of my community but I do get to choose what I do in the Lifestyle I choose to live. When smaller groups get together and form smaller communities you will find there is a common connection. It goes from City to Neighborgood to Group of Friends, to Common Interests. each of these carry a community of people. I take a matter of fact view of these terms mostly because I see them used and rather than argue a point they aren;t making I just accept that they must be refering only to thier own Lifestyle and the community they see around them. QSM

WinsomeDefiance -> RE: Huh? (7/13/2010 12:19:14 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: marie2 I have to admit to having scorned castle realm, but not for the romanticism aspects and those who enjoy them, but the fact that the whole "story" seemed phony to me and more of a marketing ploy. Of course I could be wrong, but that has been my impression. That of course doesn't mean there is nothing of value to be found there; I suppose it's another case of take what you need and leave the rest. It has been more than 12 years since I visted the site. I just remember the site kind of fondly. It was the first site I was directed to (as it was with many) when I first learned about BDSM. I wasnt' at all interested in a Master/slave relationship, but I was impressed by how she expressed herself and how happy they appeared to be together. I'm completely open to the idea that I was impressionable and probably projecting my own desire to find some relationship/romance redemption. But, I do remember the site fondly, and always feel slightly compelled to defend it for some reason.

Jeffff -> RE: Huh? (7/13/2010 12:24:16 PM)
Thats ok, I don't hate it. It was a cheap shot... I can live with that. I believe in romance..... I think drooling and anal sex can be very romantic. I may indeed be a sick fuck.

WinsomeDefiance -> RE: Huh? (7/13/2010 12:26:59 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Jeffff Thats ok, I don't hate it. It was a cheap shot... I can live with that. I believe in romance..... I think drooling and anal sex can be very romantic. I may indeed be a sick fuck. Drooling is especially appreciated when the bottle of lube can't be found.... edited to add: shit, I just outed myself... I know, lub is for wimps.

Jeffff -> RE: Huh? (7/13/2010 12:27:44 PM)
Yeah....well.... I meant YOU drooling...:)

Lockit -> RE: Huh? (7/13/2010 12:31:18 PM)
I am soft... some would even say a bossy vanilla and I am no where near as sadistic as I may become. lol I don't judge those who are sadistic, but I do believe many judge me. I expect to be judged in many ways and I can't control how anyone views me, but I am what I am and do what I do and they are the same. Am I diluting the gene pool?

Jeffff -> RE: Huh? (7/13/2010 12:32:52 PM)
Nope, you are a mean ass bitch. That makes up for a lot! My mentoring played a huge part, I am sure.

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