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RE: polyamory - 7/15/2010 4:29:30 PM   
porcelaine


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ORIGINAL: leadership527

@porcelaine:

I stand corrected. Here, have a peeled grape. :)


Thankie. *snags it and smiles*


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RE: polyamory - 7/15/2010 5:00:19 PM   
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ORIGINAL: SpiritedRadiance
The Op didnt come here and say Hey my dom wants to be poly and I want it to.
She came here saying Im not poly, I dont want to be poly I was upfront about this and my doms asking it of me. and I dont know what to do.  My opinion is to talk to him and if he doesnt let it drop to leave him because its not going to stop at just this hard limitation.

She's already tried talking to Him and, apparently, He just isn't budging. See bolded sentence.....
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ORIGINAL: slaveemerald

hello-i am emerald, an owned and collared slave. my Master is now asking me to find a sister to serve Him and he says myself. this is a new request. i have always known poly was not for me and i avoided Doms who were into that. now i am faced with it and do not know how to get my head around it. i have tried talking to him. i need help with this issue

thank you

This is my opinion too.....
quote:

ORIGINAL: dreamerdreaming
OP: Sounds like a bait and switch. Leave him.


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RE: polyamory - 7/15/2010 7:07:20 PM   
LPslittleclip


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Status: offline 		it seems to be time for a relationship discussion. if after discussing what is and is not liked/allowed/desired in the relationship he still wants polly then find another one to serve. i am in a poly relationship and it is by A/all members approval not just one.

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RE: polyamory - 7/15/2010 7:43:20 PM   
sweetsub1957


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Yes, it is time for a discussion If He won't discuss the issue, i see a BIG problem in the future. Poly works for lots of people.....as long as it's agreeable to all & everyone is honest w/ everyone else.

~sweetsub~

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RE: polyamory - 7/16/2010 2:08:34 AM   
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ORIGINAL: sweetsub1957


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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven
And I should NEVER say this, but the chances of you finding someone who will accept a position in your house, especially subbing to a woman that does not want to Dominate her, is not very large.  So you COULD just take a long time...





No more than the guy deserves.

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RE: polyamory - 7/17/2010 3:59:03 PM   
slavekal


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Status: offline 		Actually, it is his job to get you into it.  Think of it this way....cats generally dislike the water, but it is possible to teach one to swim.  You have to train the cat and convince it to get over its natural disinclination.  If your master is just laying something on you that he knows goes against your nature, he is asking for trouble.

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RE: polyamory - 7/17/2010 5:30:14 PM   
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To the OP,

Been there, done that, wore the t-shirt to shreds. My first dom insisted it was monogamous. 5 months down the road he decided that if we could find a 3rd it would "make him the happiest man in the world". I am not wired that way, I know I'm not, yet I went along. He found her through a roundabout way. Ended up lasting 2 months. They tore my heart to shreds and at one point I was admitted to the ER with an accidental overdose. They'd decided not to speak to each other as a joke on me. It went on for 3 days, both knowing the worst thing for me as punishment was dead silence. Some game.

After 2 months, they left me for each other and didn't even have the guts to tell me to my face. It took me 9 hrs that day to find that he had moved in with her at her old place and it was a hateful vitriolic chat on his part that night. For having the nerve to look for him when I had no idea he'd left, or that she had.

She tried to take me away from him, but found out it wasn't going to happen, I was loyal to him. Not so much on his side. I was then stalked by the 2 of them, her sister and dom for a month and finally had to involve the police to get them to leave me the hell alone. A month of hiding my car, being terrified of leaving my apartment for all but the barest necessities, sitting in the darkness as soon as night fell with no TV or radio so that one would think I wasn't home. I found myself alone as he had caused a great rift between my family and friends. I also take blame for that. It's something I'm still paying for to this day.

My new One and I have both been down the road. To heartbreak and misunderstandings. It's now been decided by BOTH of us that this will be nothing but a monogamous relationship. Yes, I'm bisexual but I can leave that behind. I'm not willing to jeopardize what we have, which is great.

This was almost 6 years ago and still resounds with me. It's part of my history that I can't erase. I learned from that mistake, I was the newest of newbies at the time. Won't happen again. I know better and I know to trust my instincts much more.

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RE: polyamory - 7/20/2010 5:02:26 PM   
LafayetteLady


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ORIGINAL: slavekal

Actually, it is his job to get you into it.  Think of it this way....cats generally dislike the water, but it is possible to teach one to swim.  You have to train the cat and convince it to get over its natural disinclination.  If your master is just laying something on you that he knows goes against your nature, he is asking for trouble.


First sentence....utter bullshit and stupidity. Not his "job" or his place to make her do something she knows (in her 60s, I'm pretty sure she's knows) she isn't interested in.

Your beliefs about cats? Apparently something you read in a book by someone who never had a cat. Cats do not "generally dislike" water. In fact, if you start bathing them properly from a kitten, they are fine with it. Other cats just seem to love it. I've had cats who I had to fight to keep from jumping in the tub with me.

So what is the next "lesson" you would like to give? Perhaps to tell us how cats generally don't like dogs?

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RE: polyamory - 7/20/2010 5:06:02 PM   
LafayetteLady


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ORIGINAL: slaveemerald

hello-i am emerald, an owned and collared slave. my Master is now asking me to find a sister to serve Him and he says myself. this is a new request. i have always known poly was not for me and i avoided Doms who were into that. now i am faced with it and do not know how to get my head around it. i have tried talking to him. i need help with this issue

thank you


OP, on the one hand I feel for you, I really do. On the other...

You list yourself as 62 on your profile, and so I have to assume that you have had some time to think about you not wanting poly and have good reasons for it.

I also assume that you told this man (who sorry, sounds like a pompous ass calling himself a "House") about your feelings before getting involved.

He admits he wants to fuck someone else, but tries to comfort you with the bullshit line of you always being "alpha."

Do you really not know what to do?

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