gooddogbenji
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Joined: 11/15/2005 From: Toronto Status: offline
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To add the perspective of a sub/slave (or however you want to define me ): I think something of this nature is not only a good idea, but from what I understand of the e-mails Dommes get, absolutely necessary to weed some people out. However, if I sent a heartfelt message to a Domme, and got back a form letter, I may be offended, or simply turned off. As John Warren said, it would depend on the tone and quite probably my mood. To me, a few things would matter: At this point, if I wrote a good initial message, I have asked a few quesions. Are those answered in the reply? A Domme who does not answer my questions even in brief, but expects me to write essays would have me thinking twice. Are there demands for personal information I would not want to give out at that point? Full name, address, telephone number, perhaps even pictures can be compromising, and no matter how well a profile is written, I have no way of knowing whether this is not some (smart & articulate) kid messing around. Is there a gracious way to bow out of certain questions? Obviously, if someone bows out of all of them, it's a sign, but I may not want to answer certain things before knowing a Domme more. But on the whole, if I wrote You a message, and got back a message along the lines of: "Hello benji, Thanks for your message, and for taking time for me. Here are the answers you wanted: ....... Now, if you still think you're interested, I have a couple of questions I send to everyone. Please understand that I get a lot of messages, and so I don't have the time to ask these one at a time. If there's any you don't want to answer, just skip them. ....... Thanks for taking time to answer them! Proprietrix" I would understand, but know that You also put more effort into it than a quick copy and paste. You would weed out people out for a quick laugh, but not scare off people who are worried about privacy, and You would not seem rude. As to the immediate meeting, I think a phone call first would do it. I know I would first want all of my questions answered before we meet. That's only the opinion of one sub, and not an experienced one at that. Yours, benji
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