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porcelaine -> RE: On-line relationships. What is the deal? (7/17/2010 12:47:47 AM)
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ORIGINAL: Zevar
The human element of the ego perhaps played out in an unconscious manner might full well be a contributing factor for some when it is discovered that they lack integrity in their online relating. In person or not some people refuse to acknowledge human errors even when confronted. Thus many choose to avoid being accountable. This perhaps might be why some people prefer to seek out people online so that they can act out their inappropriate behaviors and avoid personal responsibility. For some it is perhaps more likely to be simply related to an online addiction thus they develop the calloused attitude of “ You’re not for me so I am on to the next person, click.” Carelessly discarding the humanness in all living breathing human beings, when repeatedly expressed, indeed does reflect indictors of character issues which surely would be best suited for an honest deed of self examination, IMO.
My comment is in reference to the portion in bold and I happen to disagree. The same thing takes place in person and I can't recollect any man off the top of my head that remained in a situation when he had no desire to be there with the other party. He may elect to cultivate a friendship, but I believe there must be mutual interest on both ends for that to take place. I think the same idea holds true for women as well.
I don't view the individual described as addicted, but merely someone that is in touch with what they're seeking partner wise. I think it's unrealistic to expect hand holding if the individual doesn't meet their requirements. And politeness aside, expectation and inappropriate emotional investment can render behavior more inflammatory than intended or intentionally delivered. I see callousness in very distinct ways and expressing disinterest isn't something I'd equate with such unless it was done so in a brutal manner. And even still my choice to take offense or allow piercing is personally derived. Other options exist in my opinion.
~porcelaine
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