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RE: Daddy dominants - 7/19/2010 8:31:24 PM

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"Daddy" squicks me out, too. And SO many of my sub fem friends call their men that. So what can I do but smile? They're very nice men, after all! In the long run of things? It doesn't matter WHAT I think!

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RE: Daddy dominants - 7/20/2010 7:54:24 AM

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"Daddy" squicks me out, too. And SO many of my sub fem friends call their men that. So what can I do but smile? They're very nice men, after all! In the long run of things? It doesn't matter WHAT I think!

You know,what squicks you out squicks you out.. There are plenty of things that people do that squick me out, I just don't mention it because it satisfies them and I always think "What purpose would showing my revulsion serve?"

I will say that I have had two dominant men that I interacted with in public... one I called "sir" and the other I called "daddy". When I was with the one I called "sir" people would see us interacting in an intimate way, and then I would call him that, more than once people looked at us like we were weird...

Contrast that with my calling Sinergy "Daddy", it did feel a little strange at the very start, but I loved calling him this. When i called him "daddy" in public no one ever even glanced our way. Vanilla people use this term of endearment OFTEN! I can find lots of mainstream examples in music, movies, and tv.

I just started seeing a new dom, and on our first date he told me he is a daddy dom, it was one of those things that went into the "pro" box (which this man has all pros so far and no cons"). It is the kind of relationship I seek deep down, if I am going to be completely honest with myself... even if I do not call my future dom "daddy", I want that intimacy and the non distancing...

You could try an experiment, go out and call your partner "daddy" and see who reacts to it, I bet no one does... go out and call your partner "master" and see how fast people look at you like you are a freak

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RE: Daddy dominants - 7/20/2010 8:04:42 AM

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You could try an experiment, go out and call your partner "daddy" and see who reacts to it, I bet no one does... go out and call your partner "master" and see how fast people look at you like you are a freak

Good point!

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RE: Daddy dominants - 7/20/2010 12:59:39 PM

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i have been totally against the daddy dom thing until recently i played with a dominant who enjoyed this role play - so i tried it. To my surprise i enjoyed it, and on thinking about it, i think i enjoyed it because a child can be forced to say and do things that an adult could resist. I could say things that as an adult i wouldn't care for, but the little girl in me didn't really know what they meant and said them to please the adult. It was a freeing thing in many ways. And interestingly enough, it didn't feel like play at the time - i was invested in the little girl image.

I wouldn't want to do it outside of the bedroom, but in the bedroom it was a hot thing for me.

This covers it for me.

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RE: Daddy dominants - 7/21/2010 6:54:21 PM

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Given my Master (which i do call Him in public though not loudly or obviously, only ever got a couple of odd looks), is 15 years younger than me, you wouldn't think i'd call Him Daddy too often! But i do, in a couple of different contexts. He gets called Daddy as the "parent" of our furkids ... the dog is "Daddy's girl" and gets told "Go ask your Father to take you outside" ... and she does! One of my cats is now Daddy's girl too! He calls me Mum or Mummy in the same way. Absolutely no one has ever reacted to that!

In a totally different way, we enjoy playing around with age play. It's not serious, or particularly sustained, but, especially when we're out, i love to say "thank you Dadda" when He opens a drink for me, or "Dadda, may bubba go toilies please?" As it usually involves some laughter, no one who might overhear takes it seriously ... but it's fun for us. Of course, every now and then He's said "Yes Mum" if i am reminding Him to take His medicine, take His phone with Him or whatever!

I did once have a sub who called Me MistressMommy and after a little adjustment period I really got to like it. It fits well with the caring, loving Dominant style that I have. I'd be more than happy to find a boy who liked that. Of course now My head is spinning with the prospect of finding a sub older than Me who calls Me Mommy ... and i in my subby role call Master (the youngest by far) Daddy! Wow that would be fun LOL!

I can understand however, that there will be some people squicked by it and that's fine, I'm squicked by some of the things they do too! Tolerance of difference is the key and I applaud people who start threads like this in an honest attempt to understand someone else's kink better.

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RE: Daddy dominants - 7/21/2010 10:19:05 PM

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This is very interesting. I have been with a couple of Doms where I have referred to them as daddy and they to me as their little girl. but in no instance was it intended, nor did it ever feel that it was incest related or otherwise. I guess its more a sugardaddy/mentor/master reference. I actually quite liked it and they were always the more loving doms - not the type to keep more of a distance from me during/after training or sex. I am very interested to see this evolve.

ps - i never called a mistress mommy.

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RE: Daddy dominants - 7/22/2010 12:16:30 PM

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Daddy used to say Yesmm when I reminded him he had something he had to do and he didn't like me reminding him. I found it a bit annoying though cause it was meant to sound like a slave answering his master, but it was kind of cute too.

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Of course, every now and then He's said "Yes Mum" if i am reminding Him to take His medicine, take His phone with Him or whatever!

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RE: Daddy dominants - 7/22/2010 1:48:01 PM

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My father passed away many years ago, so there's no sharing of this name in present day, nor do I have any "father issues" to be worked out by using this type of medium.

There are some men that I naturally feel more of a playfullness with, that I sense a benovelency given, that I willingly allow the child within to come forth...and she does, quite cheerfully and impishly

There's nothing incestuous about it, at least not to me - and I'm pretty sure not to them either - certainly sex was involved as well, and I had to grin at whomever said something about having her ass raped while calling him "Daddy" - the pleading, the closeness, the forbiddenness of the act and the words used...yeah, that's hot. So maybe somewhere in there it may enter in...but I think it's more of an authoritative relationship, where I'm usually years younger, he's older, and the title fits because of the closeness...but it's very different from the kind of relationship I had with my father as a child. Different man, same title, different dynamic, both in authority, but one sexual, one not, one I'm an adult with (technically), consenting freely and openly.. one I was always his child.

The word "Daddy" doesn't apply to every dominant, to every dynamic...not even close. But when I feel it...I'll cautiously use it...and see what the reaction is. I can usually read by my own responses whether it'll be appreciated...encouraged...or frowned upon. If I'm unsure, I won't go there.

And I'm perfectly happy either way...it's not a "must have" for me. What I must have is a controlling man in my life. Some relationships are more strict, less 'available' and just don't lend themselves to the Daddy/babygirl dynamic. I have a deep appreciation for both.

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RE: Daddy dominants - 7/22/2010 2:04:18 PM

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Baby wants to fuck!!!

Sorry I couldn't help it.

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And you most likely would be very off-put to know that there is a pretty significant number of men on CM who are looking for a woman to call "mommy." I know, because I have heard from them. There are men who use the term in their relationship, however most use it in private only.

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RE: Daddy dominants - 7/22/2010 9:28:06 PM

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OMG! Blue Velvet!

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RE: Daddy dominants - 7/23/2010 7:47:44 PM

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I do not understand calling my dom sir or master or lord... It is too impersonal for my taste... so it is either their given name or "daddy" OR nothing.

Sooo...I guess "Lord God Almighty" is out of the question?

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RE: Daddy dominants - 7/23/2010 7:59:20 PM

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I do not understand calling my dom sir or master or lord... It is too impersonal for my taste... so it is either their given name or "daddy" OR nothing.

Sooo...I guess "Lord God Almighty" is out of the question?

Actually, seriously, I used to know Someone who liked to be called "Lord Master Owner Sir" in public and, yes, "God" in private by His slaves.

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RE: Daddy dominants - 7/23/2010 8:20:50 PM

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I do not understand calling my dom sir or master or lord... It is too impersonal for my taste... so it is either their given name or "daddy" OR nothing.

Sooo...I guess "Lord God Almighty" is out of the question?

I would consider it, if he were a lord and a god and almighty... haven't met the trifecta of doms though

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RE: Daddy dominants - 7/23/2010 8:21:20 PM

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If he is worth calling "Sir" he is worth calling "Daddy."

This type of relationship (as has been mentioned) is not neccesarily incestuous. Daddy is who I look up to, who I depend on, who I know will care for my emotional needs. For me, the Daddy/baby girl part is not sexual, it's emotional. My Daddy is someone who can (for whatever reason) serve as my emotional anchor. He is someone who will adore and protect me as his baby girl.

Do I need that? Hell no! But Damn, I DO like it!!!

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RE: Daddy dominants - 7/23/2010 8:44:54 PM

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If ya can`t run with the big dogs...stay on the porch.
It has nothing to do with sex...so insestuous its not.

You won`t be able to understand what your not so move on....

Good luck in your endevors...

Oh wait...MAYBE thats why Im at the swimming pool a few days a week! -L- Come to Daddy...he has some candy!

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RE: Daddy dominants - 7/23/2010 8:53:36 PM

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Well, I can say that at first, I had a similar standpoint as yours. However, after time, it just felt right with my Dom, I serve him, and he takes care of me, and sends me to bed when I'm too stubborn to go to my own.

My own father is still living, and I call him Dad, or even occasionally Daddy, but it's just... different. It's similar to if I was accustomed to calling my parents John and Grace (for example) and was dating someone named John, and had no qualms about calling out the name during sex or otherwise.

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RE: Daddy dominants - 7/23/2010 8:55:31 PM

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My Dominant half is protective, nurturing and loving, the way a "daddy" is. There are no weird father issues in my life, as many of my friends who post here, have met my father/Dad. They have also met my Dom/Sir/Master/Daddie/DB (DaddieBoo). I never called a man "daddy" before this relationship and it was because lots of people just call Him "Big Daddy." I call Him Daddie often (during sex, too? yes), but I also call Him "Sir" and sometimes "Master." It really depends on where my head is and how subbie I feel in any given situation with Him. We aren't an age play couple, we just like the term of endearment. Since I switch, I can say this, I have had more than a few cmails land in my Inbox that have addressed me as "Mommy"... by both men and women. I don't like it, and quickly let them know.

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RE: Daddy dominants - 7/23/2010 9:33:07 PM

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If he is worth calling "Sir" he is worth calling "Daddy."

This type of relationship (as has been mentioned) is not neccesarily incestuous. Daddy is who I look up to, who I depend on, who I know will care for my emotional needs. For me, the Daddy/baby girl part is not sexual, it's emotional. My Daddy is someone who can (for whatever reason) serve as my emotional anchor. He is someone who will adore and protect me as his baby girl.

Do I need that? Hell no! But Damn, I DO like it!!!

What she said. All of it.

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RE: Daddy dominants - 7/23/2010 11:30:50 PM

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Yep it doesn't to me either. I really personally find titles distancing and corny. I call him by his name, novel concept, I know.

If it works for others great, but "daddy" squicks me out.

Me too laurell. Sexual dynamics aside, or ageplay (ick) I am too dominant and too much of a non flowery titley BDSM person to use terms like Daddy. Oh I know, on rare occasions because he is 17 years older than me I might say something like "C'mere Daddy, I want to see what you have for me" while pulling on his tie holding him a drink, buts it more playful Marilyn Monroe-ish vampy than what I see here often. I have a Daddy, he raised me, with my Mother, and just the fact that I adore him would deter me from in a seriously way calling my man Daddy, except rarely in a funny seductive way. I call him John, He calls me Anna, or Ann, and the other stuff when it comes up in passion is very much *not* a daddy/lg thing, and private. I think for me I need to be treated and thought of as a sexy adult woman to really enjoy everyone, so a Daddy wanting a little girl dynamic or someone to micromanage and "protect" 24/7 would be bored to death in a relationship with someone like me.

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RE: Daddy dominants - 7/23/2010 11:43:02 PM

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I think it is weird that people who are into BDSM have hangups about terms of affection that the vanilla world uses without a second thought. It is like "your non-kink is not my kink."

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