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RE: Age appropriate - 7/21/2010 10:00:34 PM

junecleaver

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Women don't respond to any of my 'you're hot. let me tie you up, bitch' e-mails. I don't know why.

Maybe if I have got my domi collar, they will jump at the chance for some domidong? Something to hope for.

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RE: Age appropriate - 7/21/2010 10:00:59 PM

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Oh noes. Violation of my limits.

You need to grow up and realize slaves have no limits

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RE: Age appropriate - 7/21/2010 10:02:48 PM

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I do have a line. I don't remember where it's drawn exactly.

I might have to make this into my sig-line.

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RE: Age appropriate - 7/21/2010 10:06:53 PM

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LOL

I'm hiding my slave card right now. Don't want to be downgraded to just submissive.

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RE: Age appropriate - 7/21/2010 10:08:44 PM

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You need to grow up and realize slaves have no limits

Pfft. My limit is his departure.

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RE: Age appropriate - 7/21/2010 10:10:01 PM

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LOL

I'm hiding my slave card right now. Don't want to be downgraded to just submissive.

That happened to me, several doms emailed me how very inferior I was, and even wanted to bust me down to "switch".... I was so humiliated.... it is a good thing I am into that

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RE: Age appropriate - 7/21/2010 10:11:10 PM

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I think they key is that if you are with someone younger you don't always want to be reminded of the age difference.

Let me clarify, You want to feel as if your conversations are fluid not stunted or filled with ...."yannos or too many likes."

"Like aaah, Domiguy, yanno, I don't think that will fit." ....Then she giggles.

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RE: Age appropriate - 7/21/2010 10:12:37 PM

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So I guess I should stop reminding him he's older than me? Wow...novel thought!

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RE: Age appropriate - 7/21/2010 10:15:38 PM

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I'm going to risk sounding closed-minded and say that anyone over the age of 50 should not be having sex with anyone under the age of 20. I know. It's none of my business, and it's completely up to the people involved. But eh, I'm saying it anyway

I agree with your comments without a doubt.

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RE: Age appropriate - 7/21/2010 10:21:18 PM

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I can't believe you quoted me!!!

I always ask, 'Do I see this person and myself as equals?' If I think the guy is so amazing/wise/experienced/domly/successful that I cannot relate to him, I will be tempted to worship him and want to serve him even but I cannot have a relationship with him. Without the relationship component, it burns out quickly. That would be my line. It's just not well defined to the outside eye.

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RE: Age appropriate - 7/22/2010 4:53:32 AM

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my limit is if you were in high school before i was born, then we can only just be friends. before i met my current beau, i had dated 2 men who it would completely be illegal to date. one was trying to turn me into a housewife/sex toy and the other was too busy trying to act my age(which was truely pathetic). i could slap myself for being with either one. there are exceptions, but typically each person is in a different stage in their life and won't want the same things. that should really be taken into consideration. but if both parties are of legal age, what right do we have to say anything?

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RE: Age appropriate - 7/22/2010 5:01:04 AM

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The original question was "where is the ethical line", so I do not think that it makes sense to be talking about age police, in any way other than as a joke.

Still, ethics is always a murky issue. I think that besides imposing some legal lower limits, modern western societies are not concerned very much with the age difference of sex partners, they leave the ethical question rather open, so it is mostly up to each individual person to decide what is appropriate for themselves.

I often come across women who like much older men, and I think I discern a greater tendency towards this among sub women. When I was younger, I found this frustrating. Now that I am older, I find it convenient. C-:= If you care what others think of you, then you may want to consider staying below the 10 year bracket, because age differences greater than this, or even approaching this, tend to cause feathers to ruffle in family and social circles. I live in a rather uptight and conservative society, and yet nobody frowned upon the fact that my ex was 8.5 years younger than me; however, if she was any younger there would have been some sour faces.

If you care to hear what others consider appropriate for themselves, so as to form an opinion of what you should consider ethical, (even though I am not sure I would advise a do-as-others-do approach,) I can tell you that I like younger ladies, even much younger ladies, for many reasons, there is no question about it, but I draw the line at about 18 years of difference: as I state on my profile, she should not be young enough to be my daughter. (In actuality she would need to be even a bit older, because another requirement of mine is education, but that's another story.) And of course I would certainly obey the legal limit, I just do not have to be concerned with it anymore since I am old enough that a girl 18 years younger than me would still be of legal age.

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RE: Age appropriate - 7/22/2010 5:07:01 AM

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Hello all -
There is a difference between someone to have fun with and someone to have a relationship with. Do we really need to have a deep conversation to have sweaty, steamy, swinging on the chandelier sex? No of course not. Heck we don't even need to have language!

But for a long term relationship, the age is less important than the compatibility.

*my two cents which may be worth only one.

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RE: Age appropriate - 7/22/2010 5:17:50 AM

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I'm 18, and I set my own personal limit as 30 years old for men, mainly because my mum is 37 and my dad is 40 - it would just creep me out knowing they were closer in age to my parents than me.
No offence intended whatsoever to men that age, but I also feel, based on my experience with two 29-year-olds, that a lot of older guys who go for girls my age tend to be quite predatory. I don't want to put myself in a position where I will just be manipulated and used.
I don't really have a limit with women, though. I think maybe I just don't feel threatened by older women, unlike men - and I tend to get along well with women no matter their age whereas I don't really have much in common with guys around 25+.

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RE: Age appropriate - 7/22/2010 5:24:07 AM

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aww come on sunshine- your opinion is worth at least a dollar.

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RE: Age appropriate - 7/22/2010 6:20:57 AM

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I'm not concerned what people do in their private lives as long as the youngster isn't my child. We're all good. I will admit that the subject of shifting up has made me rethink my position. Particularly after conversations with someone that has a much older partner. For me it's a quality of life consideration and the recognition that there are things that I'm not prepared to take on that I have to accept if I'm going to invite a big gap.

Dating someone significantly younger has its own challenges and stigmas that I wouldn't want. There's also the familial issue and having to battle with relatives over the subject on either side of the divide isn't worth it in my opinion. I don't believe that person is the only one, but possibly the one I chose. It's merely a question of whether the individual is worth the hardship to the other party.

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RE: Age appropriate - 7/22/2010 6:27:40 AM

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I'm not concerned what people do in their private lives as long as the youngster isn't my child.~porcelaine

THAT is an excellent point. If my daughter started dating a man my age, it would creep me out.

I would be very unhappy about it. Since she is 26 there isn't much I could do, but I wouldn't like it.

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RE: Age appropriate - 7/22/2010 6:39:10 AM

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18 is adulthood.But everyone knows that some 18 year olds aren`t as mature as others.While others can handle responsibility with ease.

For driving,NJ has a graduated privilege system with restrictions that ease as one reaches 21 y/o.

Examination permit restrictions

You must be at least 17 years old and not in suspension status
Display a reflectorized decal on each license plate (front/back); decals available at motor vehicle agencies, $4 per pair
No driving after 11:01 p.m. and before 5:00 a.m.
You must be accompanied in the front seat by an adult supervising driver who is at least 21 years of age and who possesses a valid New Jersey driver license and has a minimum of three years driving experience
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RE: Age appropriate - 7/22/2010 7:56:15 AM

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ORIGINAL: domiguy

I think they key is that if you are with someone younger you don't always want to be reminded of the age difference.

Let me clarify, You want to feel as if your conversations are fluid not stunted or filled with ...."yannos or too many likes."

"Like aaah, Domiguy, yanno, I don't think that will fit." ....Then she giggles.

I know many old gals who talk jes like that. Except they might say, "Domi, like is that like, yanno, all you got? " ... Then she cackles. Old chicks cackle well.

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RE: Age appropriate - 7/22/2010 8:29:47 AM

juliaoceania

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I'm not concerned what people do in their private lives as long as the youngster isn't my child.~porcelaine

THAT is an excellent point. If my daughter started dating a man my age, it would creep me out.

I would be very unhappy about it. Since she is 26 there isn't much I could do, but I wouldn't like it.

I remember when my son was a teen we were at our apartment pool and this neighbor who was older than me (45 or so) kept outrageously flirting with him. I wanted to kill her, literally.

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