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RE: Would you have the nerve? - 7/28/2010 8:11:47 AM

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LOL...that very thing happened to me at the Atlanta Airport. I was sitting in the bar waiting for my flight when this woman came in and sat down at a table across from me. She crossed her legs and was dangling her shoe...She was attractive and probably in her mid 40's she looked over at me and said, "well don't just sit there and stare, buy me a drink!" I did and we talked for the next 3 hours...it was intoxicating!!! Never saw her before, never saw her again...

Yes! Same comment as to Sylverdawn, immediately above. (I particularly like the dangling shoe thing. Nice touch.) Now, this is crucial. You know what I want to hear. She looked kind of haughty and impatient and had only the barest glimmer of a smile on her face - right?

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RE: Would you have the nerve? - 7/28/2010 8:38:37 AM

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I like the idea of a purple wristband as a sub-identifier. Maybe even with some design on it really to spell it out. That might at least solve the problem of a Domme identifying those individuals who are, in fact, subs. (CWV, I'm going to set about designing a band. Maybe I'll post a pic here to see what everyone thinks . . . .)

Oooh! I would love a subtle band. Dark, regal, non-jelly-baby purple? Maybe with the imprint of a crown for queening, worn on the right hand with the pointy crowny bits pointing up the arm for Dommes, left wrist with pointy bits down for subs?

WAAYY! too subtle. Use the tried-n-true gay mene: Left = Dom/me, Right = Sub.

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RE: Would you have the nerve? - 7/28/2010 8:44:13 AM

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Oooh! I would love a subtle band. Dark, regal, non-jelly-baby purple? Maybe with the imprint of a crown for queening, worn on the right hand with the pointy crowny bits pointing up the arm for Dommes, left wrist with pointy bits down for subs?

Heh - me too. Ages ago I bought a little engraving set so that I could some kind of D/s design on a pendant, or similar. Sadly, I was crap at it. The purple wristband idea's a lot better. It'll be far more noticeable.

Trouble is, I can't find purple wristbands. Elastic bands seem to come in every colour except purple. Any ideas? Where did you get yours?

http://www.positivepromotions.com/product.asp?pn=GN-320V&bhcd2=1280331602

Problem.... purple has been co-opt-ed for Domestic Violence. Might not be such a bad thing. LOL! Just kidding....

Gay Hanky code has purple = piercings.

I'd suggest BLACK!

Black in Hankie code = BDSM.....

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RE: Would you have the nerve? - 7/28/2010 8:54:46 AM

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Gays have it all over you poor straights. And I mean that in a nuetral, non-demeaning tone. You see, in the "good old" Old Guard Days, we HAD to go to the Leather Bars. So we had self-selection to help us. Then the KEY (not hankie) code was sub on right, Top on left. The hankie code divided that more and more until it fell of its own weight.

How does Gay-dar work in the vanilla shopping mall? Easy. Suspect has two babies - one in arms, one in stroller. Mom has stepped into whatever shop. Is he gay or not? Well, at least we know he can shoot! (Often said.)

Gay? Just watch whom HE is watching. That is, if suspect is checking out men, he's gay. If he's looking at that fresh-out-of-gym-with-ponytail lady (Hi, peon!) he is NOT gay. If he's looking at hunk that follows her out of gym with his tight shorts and spiked hair ('cause he forgot his comb) he IS gay. Is the hunk gay? depends on how closely he's watching the ass of ponytail-lady in front of him. LOL!

ETA: In same terms, how does kink-dar work? Stance, attitude, eyes - both downcast and furitive glances. Add gay-dar, so you have your desired gender orientation.

MUCH easier - go to the local BDSM bar.... oh, wait..... closest thing is a munch. NO wonder "Old Guard" has so much appeal. AND we had the "reference net" thing. You could get a verbal reference from a friend.... reference no more further than a friend of a friend.

I liked walking up to a SYT (sweet young thing) And saying "Jim, my place or yours?" Of course, I'd found out his name, availability, and interests before approaching.

Physical appearance? Not so much part of the appeal equation for me. "Attitude, Attitude, Attitude," as it says in my profile.

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RE: Would you have the nerve? - 7/28/2010 9:18:47 AM

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Thanks for the memory jog:

Riding the "EL" in Chicago - elevated light rail - cruising the fuck out of each other. He throws head back an inch as we approach a stop. I follow him off the train and down the stairs which he takes two at a time, getting way far ahead of me...... He very "subtly" makes sure I'm following by tuning right at the next corner, walks a block, crosses to other side and back-tracks. Subtle? NOT! LOL!

We get to a locked haircut place. He opens door. I go through and he locks door behind me. We go down interior stairs to a basement apartment and go at it. We're done and the first words he says are, "Would you like me to cut your hair, Sir?"

Wooeeeee!

Thanks for the memory jog......

Is that the definition of pushy bottom?

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Me: business suit.
Him: Jeans and shirt.

This happened in '73 or '74, so I'm telling something that happened 36 or 37 years ago.

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RE: Would you have the nerve? - 7/28/2010 12:27:53 PM

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Problem.... purple has been co-opt-ed for Domestic Violence. Might not be such a bad thing. LOL! Just kidding....

Gay Hanky code has purple = piercings.

I'd suggest BLACK!

Black in Hankie code = BDSM.....

But if it's black it'll be difficult to put a design on it. Besides, the purple band idea was used on International Femdom Day.

Blast it. I think I'll just make a miniature model of a submarine to wear on my head. Then people will think that I'm not just a sub-male but somewhat disturbed, which would be about right.

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RE: Would you have the nerve? - 7/28/2010 12:36:23 PM

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Peonforher...LOL...She had a captivating smile, brown hair, green eyes and she really had kind of a superior look....she was amazing. We talked for a long while. All the time she dangled either one shoe or the other. She was an attorney for a law firm out of Dallas. She had that Texas drawl and I would have followed her to the ends of the earth...LOL...one of the greatest experiences of my life. We had several drinks and she maintained her superiority throughout. I am not sure if she was a Domme or not, but she damn sure could have been....Ahhhh great memories!!!!!

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RE: Would you have the nerve? - 7/28/2010 4:48:06 PM

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Problem.... purple has been co-opt-ed for Domestic Violence. Might not be such a bad thing. LOL! Just kidding....

Gay Hanky code has purple = piercings.

I'd suggest BLACK!

Black in Hankie code = BDSM.....

But if it's black it'll be difficult to put a design on it. Besides, the purple band idea was used on International Femdom Day.

Blast it. I think I'll just make a miniature model of a submarine to wear on my head. Then people will think that I'm not just a sub-male but somewhat disturbed, which would be about right.

You miss my point. ANY black wrist band OR bracelet would be BDSM-interested. That way, design is left to the wearer. Availability would not depend on buying from PeonForHer.com <sorry>

When I wear a tanktop to the bar, I wear leather armband on left. Longish thongs hang down from three sets of grommets. Tied so bow is at top (but that IS subtle.) As small a bow as I can make it. NO hankies. Message delivered.

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RE: Would you have the nerve? - 7/28/2010 5:08:26 PM

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Black wristbands are pretty common amongst anyone into various forms of alt music, from emo kids to metalheads.

However, I like this thread. It rekindled my ideas that it might just be possible to read the signals and to connect with a domme in the middle of real life. S'the one positive of working in a service profession!

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RE: Would you have the nerve? - 7/28/2010 5:14:46 PM

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Black wristbands are pretty common amongst anyone into various forms of alt music, from emo kids to metalheads.

However, I like this thread. It rekindled my ideas that it might just be possible to read the signals and to connect with a domme in the middle of real life. S'the one positive of working in a service profession!

Just like the farmboy, coming to town with "blue-bandana-right" (wants to get fucked) when he just wears it there to wipe his brow, there WILL be mistaken identities. LOL!

Seriously...... "reading the signals" is the point here - yes! grab 'em and run. Don't invent some new signal and wait for the one you might be interested in to "get the memo."

Have the nerve to live life to its FULLEST.

One of my favorite cliches (I say "favorite" 'cause I made it up) is:

HOW CAN THEY SAY "YES" IF YOU DON'T ASK?

ETA: Yes, "ask" politely. Straight women have the advantage here. They are "allowed" to ask for help, where men are not.

Let's see..... nope.... can't think of how to give a command in vanilla life. Never tried. Maybe, "Follow me, boy" might work - watching the racial implications, of course.

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RE: Would you have the nerve? - 7/28/2010 5:29:09 PM

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Peonforher...LOL...She had a captivating smile, brown hair, green eyes and she really had kind of a superior look....she was amazing. We talked for a long while. All the time she dangled either one shoe or the other. She was an attorney for a law firm out of Dallas. She had that Texas drawl and I would have followed her to the ends of the earth...LOL...one of the greatest experiences of my life. We had several drinks and she maintained her superiority throughout. I am not sure if she was a Domme or not, but she damn sure could have been....Ahhhh great memories!!!!!

That would do, Step, that would do. You are a lucky fellah!

P.S. That dangling shoe thing has really got to me. Women should take classes in how to do the dangling shoe thing with skill and finesse.

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RE: Would you have the nerve? - 7/28/2010 5:43:05 PM

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Have the nerve to live life to its FULLEST.

One of my favorite cliches (I say "favorite" 'cause I made it up) is:

HOW CAN THEY SAY "YES" IF YOU DON'T ASK?

ETA: Yes, "ask" politely. Straight women have the advantage here. They are "allowed" to ask for help, where men are not.

Let's see..... nope.... can't think of how to give a command in vanilla life. Never tried. Maybe, "Follow me, boy" might work - watching the racial implications, of course.

Cute bank teller is watching me, almost to point of making mistakes.
I reach his counter (after obviously changing lines to be in his.)
"What time are you available?"

Goes two ways:
"Not ever, Sir. I have a lover. Thanks for asking."
"I could meet you across the street for coffee at 6:30 today, Sir."

Yeah, I like that scenario.... big cat tracking prey and then pouncing.

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RE: Would you have the nerve? - 7/28/2010 7:28:10 PM

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I am fully capable of dangling my shoe without lessons. It might be a hard wired skill.

The former love of my life served on nuclear submarines. I know I'd approach someone wearing a submarine hat.

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RE: Would you have the nerve? - 7/28/2010 7:34:25 PM

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You miss my point. ANY black wrist band OR bracelet would be BDSM-interested. That way, design is left to the wearer. Availability would not depend on buying from PeonForHer.com <sorry>

As if anyone would buy a Peon (TM) armband. I have the creative design skills of a sledgehammer. The thing is to go with what at least some people already know. Maybe more people know about black than purple; maybe vice versa.

I think I'll just wear both. Sorted! ;-)

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RE: Would you have the nerve? - 7/28/2010 7:39:44 PM

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What about the haughty and impatient look, Lady Hib? That's pretty vital too. It's not quite the same as looking bad-tempered, which I'm sure comes easily to femdoms, anyway.

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RE: Would you have the nerve? - 7/28/2010 8:17:42 PM

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There's no right answer for band colour: Brit shagband sez glow-in-the-dark pink for female sex toys, so I'm for that!
And glow-in-the-dark blue for boys.
So I'm envisioning that the Peon (TM)-designed band would have a tiny little sub(marine) on it, so I can play SubHuntress again, walk up to a good man and go 'ping'.
Sorted! ;-)

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RE: Would you have the nerve? - 7/29/2010 10:01:28 AM

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What about the haughty and impatient look, Lady Hib? That's pretty vital too. It's not quite the same as looking bad-tempered, which I'm sure comes easily to femdoms, anyway.

Sassmonkey. Is what you are.

I have the reputation of being stuck up. (you may decide for yourself if that is true or not!

) So I think I have the whole Sloane Ranger thing DOWN, mister! And I am Italian. Temper, anyone?

Really, I should start eating at outdoor venues more, swinging my stiletto sandals... you never know, right? Someone around here drives that small Bentley sedan and I do NOT live in a Bentley 'hood!

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RE: Would you have the nerve? - 7/29/2010 3:01:00 PM

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Peon I agree with you! The shoe dangling thing gets me every time. Especially if they do in a very sexy, provocative manner. There are some women who have it down pat and can make a foot guy drool like a camel eating peanut butter! I love to see a woman do that!!!!

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RE: Would you have the nerve? - 8/3/2010 2:23:54 AM

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Sweet Dommes, most submissive guys would absolutely fall for someone picking up on the signals. It would be a kind of nirvanha moment.

Depends really, in a work environment it can backfire badly... Nasty gossip doesn't really do a lot for your career prospects...

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RE: Would you have the nerve? - 8/3/2010 11:37:55 AM

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But . . . but . . . has any Domme got the nerve to do that? Hmmm?

This has nothing to do with "nerve". It has to do with wisdom and/or the lack thereof. If I try to extend dominance in ways which are inappropriate for any reason (say, for instance, because I have no trust, respect, or any other street cred with the other person), then I would expect that attempt to fail... possibly spectacularly. More to the point, in this specific example, it's not simply failure of a D/s engagement, but then because it failed, rudeness also.

Sorry, I'm not signing up for this and very, very few people who have ever known me would call me "timid".

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