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gungadin09 -> Is BDSM an addiction for you? (7/26/2010 8:44:39 PM)
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i mostly get emails from sex addicts. (i get those emails regardless of what my profile says.) Guys who want me to wank off with them after we've talked for 2 minutes. Doms demanding naked pictures of strangers. People who spend their entire work day on collarme or yahoo. It makes me sad. i know i'm on here a lot, but even i have a life, and a job that does not involve viewing porn all day, or keeping someone naked under my desk. i realise that for many of these men (and it's usually men), that BDSM is a form of addiction. i also realise that that's not the case for everyone.
For my part, i think BDSM is a craving that comes and goes. When i'm in a relationship, or just crushing on someone, that craving becomes like an obsession. i almost can't think of anything else. But i'm new to this, and i've never had a BDSM relationship that lasted very long. Maybe if it had lasted, the craving would have diminished. As it was, breaking up with my Dom, or being rejected by a potential one, was devastating. It was like going into withdrawal. i think it's safe to say that by that point, what i was feeling was akin to addiction.
But now, being happy and single, i don't feel that same craving at all. I don't need BDSM. i could take it or leave it. Then, when i'm miserable, stressed out, or when people are mean to me, the craving comes back, like an itch that just needs to be scratched. So, for me, BDSM is a craving or addiction that's brought on by specific people or circumstances, but one that i don't feel the rest of the time. i guess i'm like the recovering alcoholic who goes for long periods of time without drinking but once he starts, he's a goner.
Do you feel that you're addicted to BDSM? Not at all, intermittently, or all the time? Does it matter who you're with, what your mental status is, whether you're happy, sad, or stressed out? How often do you get turned on? If you're in a relationship, how often is the sex vanilla? How often are your fantasies? If you had to choose between someone you loved and someone who fulfilled your kink, which would you choose? And anything else you want to say...
P.S. i'm not asking whether it is ADDICTIVE. That was another thread. i'm asking whether you feel addicted.
pam
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