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is it cuckolding when the wife has sex with another fem... - 7/27/2010 12:32:39 AM

Ambyant

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Or just a male fantasy come true?
I read through the previous cuckold thread with interest, as occasionally the issue comes up with the clean up boy as a cuckold, he's been pretty much dedicated to Me and may have posessive feelings that play out in his head.
Funny this then, logging back in to find a new message from a random male submissivefrom the east coast:
"hello, my wife likes to cuck me with other females. Would you be interested?"
Honestly people - does that even count as cuckolding?

Aside from the entire continent between us so it's not even a question of being in the neighborhood, how does the concept that a major male fantasy = seeing one's female having sex with another female = become the mental/emotional quandry that is cuckolding?

Does this corelate to a wife having to sit by while her husband does another female?
I'm thinking the dynamics are skewed and would like y'all thoughts.

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RE: is it cuckolding when the wife has sex with another... - 7/27/2010 4:50:23 AM

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Aside from the entire continent between us so it's not even a question of being in the neighborhood, how does the concept that a major male fantasy = seeing one's female having sex with another female = become the mental/emotional quandry that is cuckolding?

Well I see a lot of guys saying they will service a women orally and make it sound like they are really putting themselves out by doing so. Maybe it is along the same lines as that. They figure if they make it seem like they are doing something they don't want to do, but will do it to make you happy, then they will get laid.

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RE: is it cuckolding when the wife has sex with another... - 7/27/2010 5:33:17 AM

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It all depends on the dynamics involved. If Mistress has sex with other women, denies you sex, and ties you up in the corner while she enjoys other women, I think it counts.

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RE: is it cuckolding when the wife has sex with another... - 7/27/2010 5:36:21 AM

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I dont understand how preforming most mans fantasy is a form of cucking...

however thb, I think if i treated blow jobs as a task, Id be murdered...

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RE: is it cuckolding when the wife has sex with another... - 7/27/2010 5:42:20 AM

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Well I have to put my hands up and say I am not experienced in that scene each to their own but being cuckolded as I understand the concept is not my thing. I would think though that firstly one has to say the odds are it is someone just trying to get a 3sm going and the F/F thing is his fantasy.

But that's an assumption and so may not be correct, girl girl action may be in general a "male fantasy" but not always, and there are probably few, who want to, that have not already lived that fantasy here! With a willing submissive its not so hard to get that one has to lie to find it.

I have a close male Dom friend who HATES the thought of a girl touching his fem sub to the degree that she enjoys girls but HE has made that a hard limit.... assuming one could somehow place him in the position of watching her do that there would most certainly be torment and zero "fantasy" involved. So yes perhaps it would be something akin to cuckolding

On the other side of the coin there are many Male Doms here who share their fem sub with other guys - just because a snapshot view might show the fem being used by another guy and the husband/Dom sitting by I very much doubt he is feeling in the slightest out of control or "cuckolded".

Could a male cuckold a female by making her watch him with another woman - if once expands the dictionary definition to include both sexes in these enlightened times - I would think emotionally and mentally he could.

Doesn't it boil down, like most things do, to the mental and emotional aspects of the scene not the "activity" itself.

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RE: is it cuckolding when the wife has sex with another... - 7/27/2010 6:19:00 AM

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My first thought on this is, who says he gets to watch?

I don't have any experience with a female rather than a male being used as a bull. However, I don't see why it couldn't work the same if one was using the same premise. I could definitely see it working from the humiliation angle, if the wife wanted to throw it up to him that her new lover doesn't even have a penis and is so much more fulfilling than he is for her, There's still just as much opportunity to make the cuck help her get ready for her 'date', take care of her laundry and such afterward, etc.

It wouldn't be something that I would be interested in, but it is something that could be done.

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RE: is it cuckolding when the wife has sex with another... - 7/27/2010 6:51:14 AM

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The female being cast into the cukold situation seens unbalanced, as I've oftem met couples who state that "it's fine if she has an affair with another woman, but not sex with males."
As if most males wouldn't be thrilled anyway to even think their female partners are getting sensual with a female- and many of those males would be in turmoil if she was doing so with some other male.
It looks to Me that even in modern times, and the way our society is set up, that the male who offers to be cuckolded by a female with his female is not in the same boat as a male who's female would rather be with another male to spite him or just for fun.. or any number of other reasons.

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RE: is it cuckolding when the wife has sex with another... - 7/27/2010 9:02:11 AM

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Oh, I wouldn't think it was the same boat, either. While it could be done on the same premise, there are also certain elements eliminated. It would seem that there is still a safety net of sorts when it comes to the male holding the fact that it isn't someone of the same gender. My prior post was more the 'benefit of the doubt' angle.

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RE: is it cuckolding when the wife has sex with another... - 7/27/2010 9:06:04 AM

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It all depends on the dynamics involved. If Mistress has sex with other women, denies you sex, and ties you up in the corner while she enjoys other women, I think it counts.

This. While it might be many, even most, men's fantasy, it certainly isn't that of all. Whether it would be viewed as cuckolding is going to depends completely on the individuals involved.

Not all men like the idea, or are turned on by it.

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RE: is it cuckolding when the wife has sex with another... - 7/27/2010 9:26:29 AM

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This is interesting. I think it all comes down to "what's more threatening?"

When reviewing the last cuckolding thread, Ma'am asked me "So, would you feel cucked if I went out, like THAT, with a female?"

"I need more information. Is this a butch female or a fem female?"

She smiled and asked "Why?"...I felt like I was being set up lol

I said if it's a fem female, not so much...it might be hot to think about but it's in no way threatening to me and I kinda think of it as a chicks doin' chicks thing. If it's a butch female, I'm gonna feel really different. I'm gonna feel a little threatened...which I feel when She talks about wanting to go out, like THAT, with a guy. Not a lot threatened, not enough to scream "RED!", but enough for my sphincter to clench up and make me sweat. Which is what turns Her on about the situation...me being uncomfortable and yet turned on does HUGE things for Her. Seeing me suffer internal personal conflict around erotic situations is Her thing.

ETA: Because then the actions/activities become an exercise in control.

So I think it depends on the situation and how it's treated. who's involved and how and why someone feels a certain way.

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RE: is it cuckolding when the wife has sex with another... - 7/27/2010 10:14:41 AM

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I'm sure it would be more cuckoldy if the sub was in chastity at the time. If he doesn't get to use it as visual stimulation, it becomes much more of a torment.

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RE: is it cuckolding when the wife has sex with another... - 7/27/2010 10:53:14 AM

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I'm sure it would be more cuckoldy if the sub was in chastity at the time. If he doesn't get to use it as visual stimulation, it becomes much more of a torment.

. . . And if the dynamic's got anything to do with his being humiliated - oh yes, that's entirely possible. Many moons ago a male friend's girlfriend started playing with a woman. It produced all sorts of horrible, jealous thoughts in him that he'd never had before.

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RE: is it cuckolding when the wife has sex with another... - 7/29/2010 9:56:50 AM

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I would think that if you have that kind of mindset it would be madly humiliating to be cucked with a woman. Hard to make up lost ground when you don't even have the right equipment!

Whenever a guy offers me a three way with another chick, I always ask him what HE would be doing there? Other than fetching drinks and towels, of course. Really quite the shrivelling moment.

Not that I am into humiliation play at all. And I remain steadfastly 1% lesbian. I just see opportunities and take them...

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RE: is it cuckolding when the wife has sex with another... - 7/29/2010 10:15:20 AM

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Yes. I'm thinking kind of like GambitLeBeau. How about the wife gets it on w/ another woman, thoroughy enjoying herself and being very obvious and vocal about it. The husband is sitting so close he can almost feel their body heat. But he's blindfolded so he can't see it, in restraints so he can't touch them, and he's also in a chastity device, but he can hear all their very satisfied sex noises. Would that count? I know. I'm a meanie. hehehe

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RE: is it cuckolding when the wife has sex with another... - 7/29/2010 10:34:54 AM

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Some of the best and most creative sadists I've ever met were submissive. Just saying.

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RE: is it cuckolding when the wife has sex with another... - 7/29/2010 10:54:09 AM

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You haven't really met a sadist until you've fucked up a masochist's scene.

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RE: is it cuckolding when the wife has sex with another... - 7/29/2010 10:57:46 AM

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Some of the best and most creative sadists I've ever met were submissive. Just saying.

Even the ones who don't want to do the pain infliction themselves. I put that as a little term as 'throwing under the bus'. Great ideas will come from subs and/or bottoms, as long as the idea is being inflicted on somebody else.

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RE: is it cuckolding when the wife has sex with another... - 7/29/2010 12:00:10 PM

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Now I am reminded of a switch that THOUGHT she was giving me creative ideas for another...........

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RE: is it cuckolding when the wife has sex with another... - 7/30/2010 1:55:02 PM

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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

Some of the best and most creative sadists I've ever met were submissive. Just saying.

hehehe Well, I know what I said earlier would drive ME crazy. lol That's what made me think of it.

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RE: is it cuckolding when the wife has sex with another... - 7/30/2010 4:05:51 PM

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See and there was me thinking being a sadistic submissive was a rarity...

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